Too much fantasy

Getting a cage that fits well is key in this regard. In my opinion the more enclosed type cages that are made of plastic or silicone make this more problematic. A good metal cage allows much more ventilation and the build to suit models are better than standard off the shelf. The other two parts are proper lubrication with regular reapplication and snug underwear to help anchor it in place. My son is really into baseball and is learning to pitch. I'll spend a half hour in the yard with him going in and out of a catchers stance with no problem. Well at least as far as the cage is concerned. Back and thighs get pretty sore.

This one I struggled with a little bit more. I'm not 100% sure what you're asking so forgive me if this is off base. I'm interpreting the first sentence to mean pre-chastity as there is no selfish masturbation going on once locked. This was a problem for us. I would always prefer her to masturbation, but after two or three rebuffs I would take maters into my own hands. So on more than one occassion she'd try to initiate something and I'd say, sorry I just jerked off. I would say 60% - 70% of my orgasms were masturbation and almost always to porn. It is a very destructive habit to the health of a marriage and one of the great things about chastity. Which leads to your second sentence. Chastity and FLR were a happy accident for us. Not something I sought out. We experienced the benefits together. The ending of masturbation and porn gave us a much deeper sense of intimacy. It also changed my thinking about what sex and pleasure is.

 

It's so hard to know who is who and what is what on any forum, especially a kinky one. We are from all aspects of chastity. Kink, bdsm, cuckolding, sissification, cross dressing, trans, gay and straight. Some stuff is fantasy, some stuff probably seems it. I've been in the bdsm world for 25 years or so, and if I wrote some of the stuff I've done, it would certainly seem like fantasy. I've even caught myself writing stuff and thought it sounded really out there, and deleted it, even though I was not telling the whole story, to keep it more relatable. I would question some of my own experiences, if I was reading about them! That's what makes kinky life fun.

I've also found myself writing stuff because I was horny in chastity, and a play date was set, or had happened, and had to stop myself from posting while horny. That's the other natural hazard of chastity stuff. Sometimes the posting feeds into our arousal from denial, and sometimes we go looking to be humiliated, or denied further by the readers of our posts. Stuff we wouldn't do if we were not locked and denied. If you read through, you will find that there are real posts, fantasy posts, too horny to think straight posts, and everything in between. If I'm all horny, I will tend to over-share, and I'm sure lots of guys here are in the same boat.

 

Please go ahead and write it .

 

Heh, I was a body piercer for a few years and a member of my local PEP when I lived in the nearest big city. I used to provide my services at “Dark Parties” and saw some things that made me go WTF? I stopped doing them when I saw someone having PIV with a Great Dane... true story, that was too much for me.. So there are extreme things happening, I don’t doubt it, but time frames of getting to the point that’s described and bad porn story phraseology make me skeptical at times

 

Isn't PIV with a dog illegal?

 

Sincere apologies, please feel free to delete my reply

 

No problem: just somewhat jolted after reading that and felt I had to say something

 

I’m sorry to hear that. I’m mostly on fet to find local events etc

 

Way back when this site was new most of us knew each other. So there was little fantasy. Mistress Michelle held a yearly party. So there were a bunch of us who got to meet each other. The founder of the site even came to the US for one.

Discussions were made about parties in Europe and other parts of The US. Now I don’t know if they ever happened as I didn’t follow them.

So people can get to know each other, and people are willing to travel and meet if they feel a sense of community.

But it takes work and someone to organize and be a leader.

 

I find that’s one of the few things on Fet that works really well. Sadly over the years the quality of discussions has deteriorated.

 

Miss Amanda has tried on several occasions to arrange social gatherings for FLR and similar, couples and singles, and there has never been any significant positive response.

 

Munches are expensive for Me.I would have to get a taxi to the Bath munch, and thats £65 each way.I have a disability so cant use public transport.
I don't want to get together with My kinky welsh friends anymore.They are all aged 75 and over now lol.Moaning about all sorts, and they have lost the will to live. Plus The taxi costs to Swansea would kill Me lol

 

If you don’t want to go to a munch that’s your choice.
But there are other options. Car pooling is one.

Also, I used munches as an example of something that wasn’t that expensive.

I see things as wanting to get out and do things or not. Those that choose to, find ways, those that don’t make excuses.

And yes some excuses are valid. I know. I live out in the country and money is tight. So I have to pick and choose. And yes I don’t get to as many things as I’d like. But I make it a point to get to a few a month. If I don’t I feel lonely and isolated.

 

Getting people to attend events isn’t easy.

I’ve run munches. I’ve hosted events. It seems that 10% of those who say they’ll come don’t.

It also seems that in the last 10 years or so, it’s become ok to be rude and not come if you say you are. And it’s become fashionable to complain about not having things to do then not support local events.

I’m not sure what to say about this. It’s frustrating. And people stop hosting because of it. Thankfully some do hold events still.

I know I don’t host as much as I used to and it saddens me as I enjoy having events.

 

No excuses. I am not isolated, and not poor.I have a luxury flat I need to spend My money on..I have a partner, but only I contribute towards My flat. Have been with him for over 20 years.Im far from alone.Re fetish events.. I still go.I just don't have the friends that escorted Me back then.They are too old.Too far away.Meeting people is a risk for Me.The police have been involved with Issues where I was stalked by men I met online..Men have met Me, and not accepted NO as an answer.My partner would not be happy if I shared a car/lift to a munch.I am not taking any risks.Its not important for Me to go to fetish events anymore.I started My fetish journey in 1984, and went OTT and every week was fetish fetish fetish.Sex was fetish/kink.It gets boring.
The original subject was about fantasists and fake lives.I am merely stating I live the life I live now, because it's My choice.But also because of safety reasons.Women specially Dominant females get a lot of unwanted attention from males posing as subs.

 

Ok, I guess I should just say that the one and only thread so far under my name, created just moments after I signed up to CM with that name, shows many of the hallmarks of fiction. But it is real.
(And the account is brand new because I am genuinely embarrassed. There is probably a CM rule against 'evil sock puppet' duplicate accounts, but hopefully not against 'shame-based anonymous' duplicate accounts).

A couple of b/s detection tests that I apply are:
- Is this actually possible (eg "she gave me 250 lashes and then we went to dinner")?
- Is this 'hot' - so does it sound like the sort of scenario that I, or someone else on here, might be excited by writing?

And actually a sign of NON-b/s is a boring post!
- "and then I started to get a little soreness on the underside but after a few days... but has anyone else suffered that kind of.... "

 

Enjoyed reading all of this very much!
And: yeah, I'm more of the type who laughs and giggles a lot when spotting some of the fantasts mentioned above.
So in the end all I wanted to add is: Don't allow those muppets to make you angry or sad - it's their live that might be sad!
And another: yeah: - Not everything in this strange www might be the stronghold of real truth!

 

I love the stories section but that’s where fantasy belongs

 

I don't notice a lot of fiction here, but I have definitely seen some that is at least suspicious, but there are some boards I don't ever read at all, so perhaps there's a lot of BS in the cuckold and cross dressing forums?

Even of the suspicious fictional posts are usually better written than what you would find at Literotica, so sometimes it's worth reading anyway.

 

Very true.

Sometimes I’d like to post some of my experiences but I don’t want to be accused of posting made up stories.

Of course, I wonder sometimes if I should post my real stories as fiction and see what people say. I wonder if people would say it’s too fake unbelievable or what not.

I guess at least I know what I’ve done and enjoyed. As do those I’ve done it with!

 

https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...er-want-to-call-shenanigans-on-someone.20450/

A thread I started about this very subject some time ago, the inter web cannot be tied down lol

 

I enjoy writing my journal, its nothing special . I thought it was the done thing to do as a new member of CM to record your progress. Not only new to CM but kinky forums full stop. I will continue to write it because in doing so I have learned a thing or two about my wife and I that I may not have realised as quickly or even at all. It might not be in the writing but the event itself.

I hope this thread or post whatever it is doesn't put people off writing there true accounts and the BS just write in the fiction section. Simples.

Lastly as a new member I would like to thank the few people (there haven't been many to be fair) who have provided honest feedback support and advice. Especially during this current chastity lull.