Baseline Rituals?

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    I'm recently back in chastity after about a 6 month hiatus, quite out of the blue. My wife was 100% vanilla when we started dating a few years ago. We'd been friends for 12 years, but I was married to someone else (mostly happily, just theist 4 years were hell). I introduced her to FLR and chastity fairly quickly when we started dating, mainly as the attraction between us was very strong, and I could tell it was going to be something "big"... so best spill the submissive beans sooner rather than later...

    We went quite full on fairly quickly. I was always locked, although regularly let out for fun. We drew up an contract. We read guide books. We watched Femdom porn (Dana Specht, and it made her wet as hell). She took to discipline and the paddle like a pro.

    Then she stopped. I got a WhatsApp saying that it was all making her anxiety flare-up and she wanted to cool it down. I agreed immediately, having always said I would rather have her and some kinky role-play occasionally than not have her at all. These days despite my early declaration of wanting a FLR, I'd happily stay married to her without any kink whatsoever. She's wonderful.

    But here's the thing. The FLR never completely went away. When we were going full guns, one ritual/job we agreed on was that I would hand wash her knickers, and iron them and fold them neatly back in to her drawer. She would leave her used knicks in leather washrag that I keep in my bathroom drawer under the sink.

    So everything else stopped. But the knickers continued. And I continued to hand wash and iron them dutifully. Even to the point that she joined me on a business trip for a full week, and despite is both using the hotel laundry service... I discovered 6 pairs of knickers in my leather washbag back at home on our return.

    At one stage I accidentally had four pairs waiting to be washed or ironed... she'd set a rule of 3 maximum. She still pulled me up on this (despite NOT being all FLR and stuff at the time) and I got the paddle on the bare (hard!) over her knee. But still we didn't return to full FLR.

    So, I was wondering what baseline jobs/rituals do others have that tend to endure despite how hot or cold an FLR is blowing at any time?

    Interestingly, our return now to a more formal FLR set-up came out of the blue. She simply declared one morning while we were fooling around that I was going to be locked up again afterwards. She simply smiled and said "I'm back".
     
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    Flufffing her pillows, making the bed daily and changing it weekly, no matter what.
     
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    One of our staples has been a Friday night full body massage with hot oil, after that depending if she needs it, I’ll trim her little bush and shave her pussy lips, clean her up and then most of the time wrap up the evening by giving her long oral worship till she cums.
    I should be giving her a pedicure every couple weeks too, but that one is a newer ritual and neither of us have been consistent with it yet just due to life circumstances taking up weekend time. But I’m sure she’ll start demanding it as we go along
     
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    Sounds wonderful!
     
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    Yes, delicious! Just proposed this one.
     
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    It’s a great way for her to start her weekend, releases the stress from her work week and gets her in a nice relaxed state to enjoy the next couple days. I bought a portable massage table, full table heating pad, and a bottle warmer for the oil. The table is a must have to save my back while massaging hers lol
     
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    I agree, I bought a massage table last Christmas, and it is her favorite piece of furniture in the house by far. :)

    The heating pad sounds like a great idea!
     
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    Every morning i kneel down and present her the necklace with the key and ask if I may stay another day locked in my belt and if she would be so kind to accept the key…
    It’s not a big show, etc…but a good reminder for both of us…
     
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    YES!!!!!!!

    I love Dana Specht! I've always been more of a Disciplinarian than a Dominatrix and that's more her style too. I'm alot older than husband so I really like it that alot of her videos show her disciplining a younger guy.
     
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    the laundry thing is hot!

    great story, pleased for you both & must’ve been music to yours ears when she announced she’s “back” ! :pray:
     
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    Rituals...
    The one thing that my wife will never stop wanting is a foot rub every evening.
     
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    Where and what heating pad did you buy for the massaging table?
     
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    Here’s the link for Amazon, this pad doesn’t heat up really hot, just takes the chill out of the table. I was expecting something more like a small heating pad you’d use for an injury or something. But my Wife says it is a nice addition, so I guess it works lol

    https://a.co/d/iDOZdoT
     
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    Let’s see, baseline rituals, I would have to say mainly is getting her first orgasm in the mornings and then cleaned up afterwards. Then I do breakfast while she showers and the rest of the day is really whatever she has setup to do. On weekends she gets several orgasms all the while just keeping me teased and denied and leaking.
     
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    That's WONDERFUL news!!!
     
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    Was She in favor? :)
     
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    EXCELLENT!!
     
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    Why yes, indeed she was. :). She mentioned that going for too long could be overwhelming at first and she'd need to work up to longer (oral) sessions vs a full Friday night thing. I appreciate the creativity and thinking that it would go on so long. :)
     
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    Thanks for posting this! I'm going to check it out.
     
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    I always kneel in our room until she comes up for bed. She instructs me to undress her, then start her shower. I kneel outside her shower and dry her once done. I then kneel beside the bed and give her a foot rub as she relaxes in bed. It's the same every night, pretty much no matter where we are at in our flr. Oh, and I feed the cats, her one orher demand that I must do daily. Lol
     
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    Did it only a few times, but a nice morning ritual was something we actuall read on a chastity/femdom blog: after waking up, she’ll head to the shower and hand you her used panties. Then you’ll wait for her in a corner, pressing those panties with your nose against the wall. They called it “morning mindfulness”. Nice sort of innocent and sexy thing to do.
     
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    We have two rituals.

    Every Sunday morning I get up early, shower for her, then make and serve breakfast in bed. When done eating, I give her a long footrub (min 75 minutes). Then we have "playtime" -- that part varies, not ritualized (except that most weeks I stay caged).

    And every morning that I'm in the house when she awakes I bring her coffee in bed and a "good morning kiss" (oral to orgasm).
     
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    This just cost me $100! Such a good idea I bought a table online. LOL.
     
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    I send her a good morning text every morning first as I'm at work as she's getting up. If she spanked me or something night before I think her. I also straighten up house before she gets home and will help get her bags, groceries whatever in. Pretty simple stuff
     
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