Does anyone NOT ENJOY chastity?

Being quite new to this yet, we enjoy it. She loves that I can’t get any without her permission & that I’m totally involved in her getting off. In fact she had to beg me to stop pleasuring her last night (she was tightly bound) I was reveling in making her squirm from multiple orgasms & I got none, totally mind fucking.

 

You have no idea how humiliating this is and how submissive it makes me feel

I tucked up... I could not even sleep last night because this woman’s lying naked next to me constantly touching and teasing

She does not let me ask for freedom anymore or she gets mad and adds more days.. she got me the nub so the cage is so small

It just makes her so happy if I just listen to her and be locked when she tells me to, I get occasional stretches of freedom.

She gave me a few days of freedom and then she told me to lock, give her the key and she told me atl least a month... my only option was to say yes and do it or it would have been a fight ... I can’t win that so just do it

Day off from work and I’m going to get her flowers

 

I have a duality with much of BDSM, Chastity,extreme canings or whippings ,degradation, I do not enjoy these physicaly but pshychologically love the level of submission to accept this when I'm owned, I really do not enjoy the punishment chastity cage with barbs on the inside especialy if deliberately arroused, which doesn't take much when caged for any length of time unfortunately

 

If you don't enjoy chastity why would you do it? I don't like curry or garlic so I don't eat it! Let's be honest now even those who say they don't enjoy being locked up wouldn't really have it any other way!

 

I didn’t enjoy it to begin with, but that was mainly due to the fact the first device we used was the curve. And it was far to long, it was constantly in the way and far to impractical, after using it on and off for a few months, of play. I found a pink cb2000 on eBay at a good price, I got it, presented it to madam, and was told to put in on right away. Later that evening madam asked me how it was, so I told her it was a huge improvement! It was so much more practical and it didn’t get in the way and it is a lot more comftable.
Good madam said, then it’s not coming off! And it went on from there! There have been times of desperation when I threatened madam that I would cut it off, and she calmly would say go on then, but don’t expect anything more from me!
At those times I hated chastity and wished she had never seen that webpage, and I cursed the pink plastic prison I was trapped in.
But in time as we both have grown in our roles in our relationship, I now love and cherish feeling the cage hold on to me and grip me snugly, and it is a constant reminder of how lucky I am.

 

My Math Mind sees this as a Boolean Equation ...
nE + sG =D- KH

I love that for our fearless L-u-c-y to be your Key Holder (KH) two factors must be True:
1. The person must not Enjoy chastity (nE).
AND ... thats the =D- ... an AND Gate.
2. It must be for something Good (sG).

To answer the question: "Does anyone else not enjoy chastity at all?"
'At all' ... I dont think I can answer 'yes' to that.

I enjoy the benefits of chastity - that it helps me stay on the path of the 'sG' (keeping my hands away to halt masturbation).

Recently I stayed locked for far longer than normal. Typically I am on the honor system during the day and stay locked most evenings & when sleeping. So when I went 100 straight hours in lockup it got to the point it was 'nE'!

How was it 'nE' for me?
I did not realize how much relief it was to be free during the day - confined only by panties - until it was taken away. Normally I can consciously (or unconsciously) 'arrange stuff' for more comfort - this simple act became prohibited by the Lori's. After 4 days I really wanted to be able to touch myself (even if just in a benign way) ... chastity was getting very 'nE'.

So ...
I wonder if that would qualify me as a @L-u-c-y candidate.

 

It sounds great that chastity has helped you focus on improving your relationship but I'm wondering how chastity works for people who are in no such relationship, who are single/unattached. Does chastity work for someone who has no keyholder that they have an emotional attachment to? Just you purely locking yourself. What are the results? What are the differences between having a keyholder you know vs locking yourself.

 

I think having a keyholder is better. There's a real dynamic to giving over control. Having had a keyholder for ~6 months and now self locked for the last month and a half I can say however that chastity can still be enjoyable either way. I think the differences probably depend on the keyholder and their wants vs your own personal wants. In my case my keyholder was happy to agree to my want of effectively never having release. But took it further than I do on my own by restricting porn and anal stimulation.

I will say that I did want to please her, even in non-sexual ways and of course don't have that desire without the dynamic. But focusing on myself and becoming expressive and open about who I am is a reward on its own.

 

So currently on antibiotics due to infection from CB, always get pushing on my balls wrong, so as a practical application I'm not enjoying it at all at the moment, however, I'm not sure who would actively choose to do something they don't like, there are other ways to solve the perceived problem IMHO

 

Nobody does sustained dieting or exercising when they don't like it, that's why they fail, its the ones who find the type they like that stick it out. Doing something you don't like because of a goal is unsustainable,

 

more time saved if you spend 25 minutes jacking off 5 times than if you spent an hour unable to cum looking at porn and being out of focus the rest of the time

Gotta really commit to that long term chastity if you don't want it to be a distraction itself

 

Well that's just extreme procrastination. I doubt chastity could solve that without a keyholder who could be around and focus on them a lot, which I assume is difficult for you if you're managing many people, and this forum, and your job.

 

I can comprehend that horniness is a distraction. If you don't solve it, it remains a distraction. Jackin' off a lot is solving it. Spending 3 hours to find the perfect porn however is just procrastination. If they don't have porn they'll find something else to procrastinate on. I know because I myself am an extreme procrastinator.

If you want to stop procrastination something that makes one thing slightly inconvenient isn't gonna work. Even if you literally block out every single option you will opt to spend the time doing absolutely nothing. Because procrastination isn't about being distracted, procrastination is about a strong desire to avoid the emotional feeling of a task. If you can't get over that hurdle by your own willpower, you need someone who can check on you very frequently.

The men who get better about doing stuff with this are because chastity was used as a tool to turn it into a positive thing for them. The procrastination was eliminated because the task becomes rewarding, not because they have no other option. The wife/girlfriend keyholder accomplishes that by being there as a direct benefactor. They have a vested interest and they're happy when things are done and done good, and this spills over into the chaste husband/boyfriend.

 

Beep, boop…

 

If all men thought exactly like me the world would be a much calmer place. You're speaking from the stance of one who doesn't have the experience of feeling male orgasm denial yourself, and probably don't struggle with procrastination. I'm speaking from the opposite side of that.

If you're not just procrastinating then removing distractions could be helpful. If you are a big procrastinator you will literally do anything to avoid the task, even resorting to opt to do nothing when you have no other options. But simply locking up isn't gonna solve the distraction issue even if it's not procrastination. If they've got the willpower to avoid looking at porn, which they will need with an online keyholder who manages many, they could do that without the chastity too.

So if they come to you because they don't have the willpower to avoid looking at porn, now find themselves locked up will just spend all that much more time looking at porn because there's no clear end point to the interest and they never had the willpower in the first place. An enjoyment in chastity and being denied can be a willpower boost that could push someone over the edge, but if they truly dislike it like you want them to it won't.

I'm not saying chastity can't be helpful, rather you'll notice in this thread alone I stated it can be. What I am saying is that a tool needs to be used properly to be effective. Fixing procrastination requires a vested interest between keyholder and lockee to help change the tasks from a negative thing to a positive thing. Fixing distractions could use that same thing, or in this case could be solved simply by the lockee having the willpower. But in that scenario they don't need the chastity.

 

Many psychologists have studied and come to the conclusion that porn has become a substitution for real world relationships in many ways, which is bad. They have also said that porn can be a healthy outlet for people who have a hindered ability to establish such relationship (mental or physical disabilities). It is a mixed bag just like everything in life.

 

The ability to lock away any sexual impulses would eliminate procrastination seeing as that many males lives revolve around sexual thought in some way, but these impulses come from the brain and not the genitals. A chastity device without a key holder to reprogram your mind is destined to fail in many cases.

 

I'm saying the only situation in which what you're talking about here works is one where it isn't necessary. If chastity is the tipping point, it's because they like the chastity. One where they have a desire to abide by it and follow what you say even without a vested interest. If they don't like it, they need the willpower to follow through and they'll have that whether or not they're locked up. I seriously doubt anyone with no interest in chastity and asking an unknown online person to be their keyholder has a cage that isn't easily escapable too.

if you've got people telling you they hate chastity but you keep them locked up and send a couple messages a day and they say the chastity is helping them avoid distractions they're most likely lying. They're probably getting a kick out of it. Hell the chances of them even finding out about what you're offering without having at least some interest in it is so small I'd personally find it hard to believe anyone applying actually truly dislikes it.

And it's good if you're helping people. Just remember that most people still lie sometimes to people they're extremely close to, so it's pretty fuckin' easy to do it with someone online.