I am not going to have time to finish this tonight but I want to start the story. And it might come in handy to others. I hope it does, I hope my story helps somebody, or some couple, or many couples. If you are a couple or half of a couple, and you are on the fence about chastity, this is the post you need. As you will see if you look through my history, I approached my Wife with chastity and FLR in February of 2022. She agreed to try it fairly easily. We both loved it and over time my orgasms became very infrequent and hers became much more frequent. It didn’t take a long time before my Wife began strictly limiting my erections as well. It would be 3 week stints, then 4. Through most of 2023 I was probably unlocked for a couple of days every 2 months or so. I might get to cum 3-4 times and then She would lock me again for another 2 months. I’m currently at 3 months without any removal of the cage for any reason. No erections. She has pegged me 2 or 3 times for milking, but She generally is not concerned about sexual pleasure for me. We live in what I would say is an FLR. But my Wife is so fucking cool. She always has been. So even though She is the boss of me, She lets me have a lot of autonomy as well. I serve Her with anything She desires, sexual or not. She doesn’t always demand things of me though. She doesn’t punish me that often but that is mostly because She doesn’t want the kids to hear Her whipping me. Oh, and I’m a pretty good boy too. So not much corrective discipline is needed. So tomorrow maybe, or at some point in the next few days, I’m going to come back and begin to tell the story of how I took my dick out of the equation, and it changed my life. Sorry to disappoint anybody, but this is not going to be a story about how my Wife locked my dick away and became a leather-clad Cuckoldress with a PhD in SPH, a riding crop in one hand, and leash in the other (with me on the end of it, of course). I mean, that’s partly true. She hasn’t cucked me yet, but She will. She cums over and over again. She orgasms while She pegs me. Has peed on me, spanked me, all of that. She has grown to love to dominate me. As much as I could’ve ever hoped, She has. but no, this is not about that. And none of that has to be present for chastity to “work” This is going to be tale of a once ordinary man, a man who simply took his dick out of the equation, and became EXTRAORDINARY
Ok so let’s get into it a little bit, shall we? These days I am barely even horny. I mean, when I am in bed with my Wife at the end of the day, it’s pretty easy for me to start aching for Her. But throughout the course of the day I don’t get distracted by my dick too much anymore. Once in a while I lose 10 minutes to a reddit cuckolding captions sub. But mostly, it doesn’t interfere anymore.
Sounds great but don't get carried away with her having her main relationship with another guy. She'll be invested 90% and maybe truly in love with her other guy. You'll be a joke that tickles her 10% dominant kink and that they'll both laugh about you and you'll be completely dispenseable with no relationship security. You'll be be fading into history like a decomposing latex dildo whilst life passes you by and you end up at the start feeling like you are only worthy to find a new partner who wants you to suck the afters from her anus forever more. I'd suggest a lighter chastity experience within a solid relationship.
haha, no it is not like that. I’m not really obsessed with the cuckolding bit anyway. It would be hot! I’d love to see! But I am the center of my story lol. If my Wife and Her Bull ran off to fall in love, well then they wouldn’t be in my story anymore. That is not what either them would want. My Wife and her potential Bulls are my supporting cast, as are the rest of the players in my life. I know that might not sound FLRey But ours is a unique relationship. anyway, yeah so I’m not that horny anymore unless my attention is intentionally focused to sex. It doesn’t really just land there on its own anymore. Can anyone relate?
Great story so far, looking forward to the rest. I am on day 41 of a minimum 120, my previous longest without an O was 16 days....
You're doing great. You can do this. Don't do this cuckolding fetish during it I would advise. Unless you get it right as above I suspect it will lead to many solicitors getting fees for writing simple letters about who owns what.
Over time, it seems the effect of not having orgasms did not make me crave orgasms more intensely, but it made me kind of forget about them. It took a long-ish time. It’s been about 2 years since my Wife really embraced the roll so maybe around the 18 month mark. 18 months of being locked 24/7 ish and about one orgasm per month on average (presently it has become far less than 1 per month). And the insatiable desire to get my dick off begins to fade away. I believe men are mostly wired the same/similar. Getting his dick off is the end goal for most men. Lots of what they do and say is heavily influenced by their belief that their actions/words will Increase/decrease the chances of getting his dick off. i.e. a man’s behavior is DICKtated I didn’t know that I was going to remove this from my life, it isn’t what I set out to do, it just happened organically.
I for one am very pleased you are telling your story… I like that it’s going to be almost linear. Like I’ve documented my history and everything jumps back and forth over and over and I never know what’s going to happen next. One day I’m tied up as she plays complete dominant and the next she’s detesting the cage saying it’s not helping us. I think from what I’ve read previously, your story is a journey in one particular direction. Keep it up.
Great story! I, too, have found new pleasure since no longer having to concentrate on my erect dick! Along the way, I have learned the pleasure of serving a powerful woman and the benefits to be had from that alone.
I stare back at myself from the mirror. If ever there was a case of backward aging, this is it. 18 months ago I looked at least my age, if not older. Now, the image looking back appears to be a man 15 years my junior. It is absolutely fucking wild! I start to ponder life and relationships as I often do. How did this happen….. I think the dynamic between genders and the world at large, is complex. On a site like this there is a lot of talk about Female supremacy. I don’t buy it. I oversee a staff of 60 at my job. I am the highest ranking officer in the building. M to F ratio is pretty close to even. Perhaps 60/40 in favor of Female’s. Not a single one of those Female’s could be doing my job. But I sure do answer to my Female superior! We all have our own bosses. I think most men would do well to have a Female in charge of them. I got lucky because my Wife is a great manager of people. She has been managing people in the professional world for over 20 years (we are both mid 40’s), so when I asked Her to manage me (or at least my dick) I didn’t realize it, but I was getting a high level manager. Her management style is effective. I’ve adapted it to my own and tried to be more like her at work and in life. To put it simply, She doesn’t want to tell people what to do, She wants to see what people can do. What CAN an average man do? What can an average man do when you take his dick out of the equation? I think on it some more…. Can this really be my life? Is this really happening?
I was thinking today, how easy it is. No orgasms, no erections, no time out of cage. Like a walk in the park… A sex drive that I control. When I want to feel my cage get tight, or ache for my Wife’s exceptional Pussy, I do. But when I don’t, I don’t. I focus on what needs attention. It just so happened that I realized, for the first time in my life, that it isn’t my dick that needs attention. I no longer live with a sex drive that controls me. But it wasn’t always this easy. Even the early days of cage wearing was extremely difficult, in so many ways. I’ll-fitted cages, skin rubbed raw, accidental bruising, Not so accidental bruising, courtesy of a strict Mistress. Days that it seemed we’d never get chastity “right”. But I pushed through. You have to push through all that. The other side is so worth it…