Does anyone NOT ENJOY chastity?

That literally couldn't be further from the truth.

 

Who consents to something they do not enjoy? Other than a patient awaiting a medical procedure? I suppose there is a fetish for that too. Even if their enjoyment may not fit conventional definition, people mainly do things to bring themselves joy. People also do things with a motive in mind. Perhaps that motive does not yield enjoyment by the smile size factor, but I find it extremely hard to believe there are those whose intention is to better themselves as the priority.

 

@L-u-c-y, if you as a verfied woman cannot speak for women, then how can I, a mere ____crow? speak for men, let alone the people I was generalizing over....you are right! I cannot speak for them either! I wouldn't want to. But I can say that people are people, and will do what people do. And collectively WE owe this world. The balance is off. Which is proof enough that bad out weighs good. At least for now.

 

I want things I know I won’t enjoy all the time. I like the idea of being forced to do things I don’t like. I nearly always wanting things to stop once I’m in that situation. So I’m really not sure why it’s so strange to people that @L-u-c-y could find someone that would want chastity but not like it. Sometimes the thing people like is the submission or feeling of helplessness to stop something. Not the actual thing that’s happening.

 

i want to please my wife. i would do pretty much anything for her even if i dint enjoy it at all.
there are a few things i considered hard limits before but as things progress, i wouldnt say they are off the table.

 

Getting a kick out of submitting even if you don't care for chastity itself is still getting a kick out of the dynamic.

 

Yes.
Sort of what I was saying - in 10 times the number of words. The benefit makes the journey worth twice the price of admission - even if its sometimes not enjoyable.

 

Umm....Why would you do it if you got no enjoyment out of it? My beautiful wife/KH and I both love it. Sex (NOT PIV) is much more frequent since I've been locked. I fully expect to be locked until one of us dies.

 

Some personal impressions. Basically nobody will to do something that do not like, except if must. Sure, everybody has his own limits & there are different forms & levels of pleasure & pain. I suppose most of us do chastity voluntarily & with pleasure. Anyway, chastity gives a very special form of pleasure, but is that really decisive ? After all, when I am securely locked up, I do not can do anything & there is no way out, no matter, whether I like chastity or not. Maybe a partial joy ? Maybe a special kind of joy ? I think chastity is not necessarily for anyone, but for all how have learned to appreciate it, there is essentially a joy, a joy for both, for the locked one & the keyholder

Sometimes that even goes so far with me, that I´m afraid if my loving girlfriend does not lock me up again in my cage. Yes, I think she allows me this “pleasure”, sure too, because she loves the certainty that I belong only to her & she can control me. Of course this can & will vary in time. For me, chastity not always makes me happy, but I have learned to accept that as “normal” & paradoxically I appreciate it too. But in those moments more importantly becomes for me the perspective. I know that I make it for my loving girlfriend & she knows & appreciates that. I think that is the psychological difference & opportunity because since I am in chastity finally she decides & she chooses over our intimacy. That is a mental role reversal, where she became a more active element in our sentimental life & leastways the sentimental hierarchy is more focused on her. Fundamentally, we are always the “same”, but, as I said, she knows that she can decide, for the joyful moments for her, for me, finally for both * she loves it, because she knows it´s primarily about her & we do only all for her, & that I may enjoy it too on my own special way in my cage, is really the maximum, & she likes that does good for me too

 

I suspect that those on this forum enjoy the idea of chastity enough to join a forum about it. But there's a HUGE difference between the idea, actually being locked, and being locked without controlling the unlocking part.

What I personally "like" is all about time, and points along process:
In the short term -- just after the lock closes -- it's sexually hot hot hot. The device is a low-level stimulant and there is a distinct submissive "kick" associated with being locked.
Then the physical problems of adapting come up (sleeping, for example, and pants that are suddenly too tight when you try to do something located at or below knee level) and it is great and it sucks.
Then the body screams for sexual relief that it can't get. Then the mind rebels at the accumulating discomforts.
Eventually, things settle down and the whole experience gets more "big picture." There are still physical challenges, but it becomes more about relationship / power exchange than the physical device.

I doubt there are many who can claim to not like ANYTHING about it, but some may be able to focus on the longer term and see the short term as something to get through.

 

Of course, this all brings up the question of what YOU get out of it, @L-u-c-y . I think it's great that you're offering this to males who don't have alternatives, but it's a lot of bother. Surely you enjoy holding keys, whatever that does for you. Collecting? (Stamps are boring.) Sense of power?

 

Doing tasks for a KH is the best possible gift for a submissive in chastity; WAY better than teasing. That's an amazing power dynamic. What that there were more Lucys in the world.

 

This one is where I personally would have some trouble ...

'Teasing' is part of our routine - not necessarily 'hands on' but in ways that tease my senses & get my mind to places that push my discipline over desire struggle to my limits.

You (I think it was you) had created a thread (a while back now) about "Are you or your partner highly sexed?". The answer to that for me was 'yes'. I may not get many releases per year but that is not measure of being highly sexed.

The idea of being locked by someone who wants it to be not enjoyable for me - and [my visualization], with a wave of a hand says what is quoted above - has an almost unbelievable attraction to it.

Your straight-shooting, no-nonsense approach to life if refreshing.
It nice to see someone who knows what they want & goes out & gets it.
I have a tremendous respect for those who close the lock for you!
I wonder how long I would last with you as a KH

 

CM is a very enjoyable & enlightening place for me.
Thanks @L-u-c-y !

 

Answering the original question "Does anyone NOT ENJOY chastity?". Yes, when I am locked in chastity for long periods of time (weeks, months) there are times when my situation is not enjoyable. There are times and circumstances where a tightly locked stainless steel cage causes significant discomfort, even pain. This limits physical activity and over time generally makes a person feel mentally fatigued. Especially if the device has to stay on. Another thing I generally do not enjoy is being locked at work.

That said, long term chastity is really fun overall and the sacrifices one has to put up with are generally worth it.

 

I have commented on this before. It is a love hate thing for me. I like the way it changes my focus, but there are times when you just wish the device was not there. It takes perseverance.

 

I think control is over rated, but addiction (to all sorts of things) is under reported. Hats off to the guys who can use chastity instrumentally as you suggest, @L-u-c-y; however may I ask how you feel if you are being used as (part of) an instrument to achieve a goal by a lockee? Would you ever be tempted to ignore a report along the lines of “Dear @L-u-c-y, thanks for being my KH. As predicted I didn’t enjoy being locked at all, but I did stop masturbating for a couple of weeks as per my goal, so can you please send me the keys now?”
I should add for disclosure purposes that either answer has a certain appeal to me, in fantasy....

 

It’s a love hate battle for me @L-u-c-y . Before being caged, the more time I spent on here and browsed tumblr looking at FLR pics, stories etc which involved chastity, the more I wanted it. Now that my Domme Wife has locked me, many days I don’t like it. But i have learned it’s good for me and for Her.

 

How can I communicate to a partner that I might benefit from doing things I might not "want" or things that might be "unpleasant"?

A little bit of chastity or BDSM is fun, sexy, exciting. I know when it will end.

But there are some things I "want" to do because they are not always pleasant. I can panic a little in sensory dep. Pain is not something that is obviously gratifying to me. Sometimes, embarrassment is just embarrassment and not "sexy". Sometimes I want her to test my ability to follow instructions. These are things that are not just pervy little games, but if it comes across as sexually demanding, I can see it being off-putting. I am twisted up.

 

yes Chelle loves her Pink chastity cage, it is the way it should be. locked up always.

 

I've dabbled on and off for a fair few years and find it to be a very mixed experience.

The first few days can be quite a thrill. You're in that zone where you're getting enjoyment out of the denial. As time goes on the thrill wears off, frustration builds and not just because of denial but because of the inherent impracticalities that come with being locked. Suddenly going out for an evening, going to an event or planning a trip involving a flight or international border become concerns. In my attempts I kinda got used to the denial but I never got used to the daily adjustments required to endure... Cleaning can be a pain as well.

My experience of being locked has been entirely distance based. I imagine having someone in real life would make life somewhat easier when it comes to travel etc.

In terms of chastity for self betterment, I can see how that would work. I passed a professional exam last time I was locked and during that time this was the only adult site I visited. I can't attribute chastity to being the only reason I did that exam as it wasn't my first professional certification and it probably won't be the last. It did help with the focus though.