Does anyone NOT ENJOY chastity?

I'm feeling confused about what brings me enjoyment, contentment , gratification, etc. We've never played with devices much per se (maybe we should try more?), but my outlets have been whittled down more and more, with more and more options being taken off the table. I've also lost a bunch of weight and rarely look at anything graphic, especially after the changes in Tumblr. We've been at this over 20 years, but with stark changes in last 1.5 years. Do I enjoy it? Am I better me? I feel like we are far, far past the initial jumps in hormones, and it is much more a marathon than sprint. Who "enjoys" marathons? I'm feeling confused.

 

It started off as a fetish I introduced to my wife and it was a mistake.

She locks me 24/7 and teases me relentlessly... the fantasy became a reality and it’s insane... she’s the boss

I’m 6’2 240, hit the gym and in shape and this 120lb lady demands I wear the cage and there’s nothing I can do to stop it... she won that argument months ago, I just do it to avoid a fight, it’s not worth making her mad when she loves me so much if I listen

 

Is a bit of a love hate relationship....love the thought, the reality is so much more difficult....

 

If my experience with chastity has taught me anything

It's that it will only make a porn/masturbation addiction worse if you don't have a partner to be your outlet.

 

I was about the same size and shape. she *made* me lose 40 lbs in about a year. She's been telling everyone that she *made* me join weight watchers and take up a sport. On the one hand, I'm glad for the motivation. On the other hand, I'm not sure I "love" the blows to my ego.

 

absolutely love it.
I am more productive at work. more focused on important things like providing for my family, pleasing my wife.
hell, i appreciate her more now than ever. it wasnt just chastity that brought about all this, however it was a major contributor. I always resented other men who had the picture perfect girlfriend or wives. comparing ones relationship to others sets a impossible standard to reach.

It took a while but i feel like a fool for not seeing what was right in front of my eyes all along. I have a damn near perfect life with the most beautiful woman in the world and a fantastic family and job. from the sex life perspective, We are slowly chugging along with implementing other FLR aspects and fetishes she is interested in exploring with me. where this will all end up is anyone's best guess. but im excited to wake up every day to learn new ways to make her happy and provide better for my family. id be lying if i didnt say i was ecstatic about implementing kinks i had only dreamed of sharing with my wife for two decades.

as far as kinks go. chastity IMO is one of the first that should be implemented. it alleviates a lot of pressure and worry from women regarding sex. it also puts the ball in their court as to what kinks to pursue after chastity is enforced. my wife is more open minded now that she has the power and holds the reigns of where our sex life (as well as home life) is headed.

 

Is it even possible to not enjoy chastity? It's great. I am a no P, no M, no O. Permanently self locked, and loving it. Keys, we don't need no stinkin' keys. Well, I don't!

 

I am preparing the way for my first device , the Rigid Modular 5 ; I am just getting my piercing to settle down to the right size. I am actually a little scared of never being able to touch myself again and wonder how will cope as if it turns out to be comfortable without day to day issues I feel my wife is more liable to leave me secure in the device and the thought of very few orgasms doesn’t seem fun!

 

I have never tried chastity so I guess my answer would be that I do not enjoy the idea of it as a fetish. I do find the dynamic it would create as a result enjoyable, and find the stories of relationships that use it fascinating. I still don't understand how being in chastity would make one more focused and productive though. Wouldn't many be even more hyper-focused on sex/porn if they are in a constant state of chastity?

 

Sounds like a success story to put in the testimonials for chastity.

 

So the thing is you're not entirely wrong. Sexual stuff is on the mind and in focus way more. But the interesting part is that orgasm denial also just seems to give you more focus and energy in general. Keeping myself self locked the past month and a half has helped me break out of my apathy I've had for years and be more open and expressive. It certainly hasn't hurt my productivity either as I managed quite a bit more into a recent comic project than I usually do, and have made many videos for my pornhub.

But if you want to use it to stop porn/masturbation it's not gonna work. If you're completely denied any sexual outlet the feelings you're going to get are negative. And if you have no one to supply that for you, you'd probably turn to porn (like I have), and the chastity lets you spend so much more time looking at it.

 

Wouldn't watching porn make things many times worse if you are locked? What do you get out of it seeing as that you are locked and all?

 

The satisfaction isn't all in the end. It helps to me since I find the frustration itself hot, but even without that just the act of experiencing arousal is a positive experience. Without a designated lose interest time (orgasm) it's hard to find a place to stop so instead of being a ~5 minute time waster it could easily last over an hour. It's when you don't get anything that you get really frustrated and experience negativity, which I felt with my ex since under her rules I wasn't allowed anything and she had little if any interest in engaging with me sexually.

 

at first i spent a LOT more time watching porn, and trying to turn my keyholder into a fetish dispenser. selfish of me, and did slightly put off my wife to the whole concept.
when she stopped engaging when i brought it up, i got the hint and pumped the brakes.
after reading a lot on CM forums, i have learned what i should be doing with this free time that was otherwise spent masturbating or browsing porn, and focus on my wife in any way possible that would enrich her life.
i hardly watch porn any more. i did browse a lot of tumblr for memes to send my wife. but have found that a far better return on my time and effort is spent in helping with household cores, massaging her, sending real meaningful and personal things showing my appreciation and affection for her.

i have wasted so much time with porn and not focusing on my wife, that i am hell bent on making up for the lost time and having the absolute best relationship possible with my amazing wife.

 

That’s what I am scared of , it is because we lead such busy lives in the daytime and my wife would be tired in the evening so it doesn’t feel like there would be any time for teasing or torment or anything so feel I could be locked and forgot!

 

I doubt there are many that don't enjoy chastity at all but do it here or anywhere.

I used to enjoy it years ago when it was just a game. One of the fetishes we were discovering. Now, I tolerate it, but there are times I really hate it. That is for chastity itself. I still love control she has over me.

 

As you know i did it a few days ago in order to allow my mind to stimulate changes my sexual life to avoid some practices i want to delete or control. I mean I'm not at all agree with cage me instead of this explications because I'm not sure if it works on me.

 

We both love chastity but honestly over the years she has learned to really love me locked. It works for both of us. She has really stepped up over the last few years and I see no end in my lock up
24/7 365 4yrs now and last few times I got released was with her magic wand so the cage never comes off

 

The questionnaire was: is there anybody Who : NOT ENJOY CHASTITY.
Most ENJOY. ???

 

I love the thought of it, and I love it when first locked, but I really struggle with sleep. The longest I've managed locked in one go was a week, and I started to go through a change where I was more comfortable with not having release, but I still wasn't sleeping properly which affected real life. From that aspect, I was really in two minds as to whether I liked it.

I wonder if having a real holder would make a difference, I once did 3 weeks of enforced no-touching without a device, for a woman I dated, I really enjoyed that, and settled into sleeping much better. I would never cheat, and I absolutely loved her teasing me over how long I might stay that way. I must admit, the device is partly for my pleasure, that constant feeling reminds me of my situation, and there's just something about being locked, even if I would never cheat, knowing that I couldn't even if I wanted to is a nice mind fuck.

I often feel like I'm working toward a release date, I'm not sure I would like it if it was permanent, yet I still fantasise about it. I can't really say if the fantasy should become a reality, or the reality would become a chore and I wouldn't enjoy it.

 

No do not enjoy it. But feel it is necessary. For control of me.

 

do you have a keyholder or self locking?
i dont think much of the other aspects of FLR could fall into place, at least for me, without chastity

 

No keyholder really don't enjoy self locking. No thrill doing it for self