Are there actually any submissives here?

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    to madambellestoy You ever think that to the rest of the world you aren't even a speed bump in their life?
     
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    Yes. I do what my wife wants. It's not a game.
     
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    Hi Mistress Lucy,

    They are here dont worry! But most of them are only submissive to someone They know. Of like I’m Just submissive in general. I really Love the submissive role.
     
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    I don't know if I am totally submissive, but I love the feeling of being submissive to my dominant wife, both in and out of the bedroom. If anyone treats my wife in a bad way, they soon find out that I am not submissive.
     
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    This is a chastity site, it's unsurprising that most are drawn here predominately to discuss issues surrounding chastity, and it shouldn't need pointing out only one of which is submission. So yes, there are probably a few submissives, but there's no reason to suppose that the majority would or should be.
     
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    Difficult to have a clear "line" between BD / DS / SM .... and Chastity :)

    Chastity is a Tool, a Fetish, a Lifestyle.

    It MUST NOT combine wie BD/DS/SM
     
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    For me, it all started at an early age. I quite liked the thrill of bondage whichbwas me being tied up and used. Over time I started to learn about diffrent things and about 2 years ago I told my wife about all my kinks. We came across chasity about 7 months ago and had been searching for a device that didnt cause to much discomfort. We finally found One that does the trick and are working on long term chastity. I have always been pretty submissive and my wife is finally starting to enjoy it. I put all her needs first before mine even before I told her about everything I was into. As we progress down the road I submit daily to her. Anything she askes of me I do, admitly I do make alot of suggestions about diffrent things and Im hoping that my wife actually does some reseach about a submissive husband and what it can mean to her and then Inwont have to come up with thw ideas. Maybe one day she will take full control which is what im after but I wouldnt push her into that. She has only just started loving chasity and realized what it means for her. Its still early days for us. But to answer your question once my wife truly understands what it means for me to be submissive I would do anything for her with out question. So for me thats what being submissive is for me.
     
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    There are so many degrees of what you would call submissive . Would total submission be slavery if the person is willing to do so? I submit to my K/H/Wife
    because I want to not just in the bedroom, but in most aspects of our lives. I
    am not a doormat, She never treats me that way. Chastity to us is just a symbol
    of one part of our lives. There is nothing more pleasing to me than to please Her
    in all areas of our lives together. We have found chastity has made being intimate
    more satisfying for both of us. The anticipation of our time together is not just
    role-playing. I leave what we are going to do up to her. I do not know if or when
    I am going to be unlocked, or unlocked just to be edged and locked back up
    or just pleasure Her. What is pleasing to me is the pleasure that I get from making
    Her steak and baked potato, or doing the dishes or mind blowing orgasms.I
    put whatever She wants before what I want. We talk about all major decisions
    but She has the last word. We never really talked about me submitting it ended
    up like this. Been together 41 years, two great sons that are on their own and a
    love for each other that has always grown stronger. She has made me become
    a good father,husband and person by listening and I guess you may call it
    submitting to her. Not sure if this means I am a real submissive but I have loved
    the life we have had together. I really do think there some true submissives
    here. BTW this is not fantasy this is my life story hope it's not to much.
     
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    We are here, just busy serving... or trying to avoid the obvious attempts to play in to someone else's fantasy...
     
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    I wouldn't say Im submissive to the full degree of the term. Chastity developed in our relationship when I was discovering Edging as a way to make myself last longer. But I found that the longer I edged the more compliant I became to my then girlfriend's suggestions. In a sense I was becoming submissive but not fully. As we now get further into this she has realized that there is a real difference between a me that has been taking care of myself behind her back and the me that has been locked up for two weeks. Again not so much a submissive but more agreeable to do things. We are both working from home and I told her I was getting horny and she said why don't you vacuum the house. I did... and it did feel a little subby to be told to do it to knock my mind away from where I was literally asking to get under her desk and take care of her. But it just felt like "hey I should just do it and help out more" so I did.

    We use it to enhance the relationship in any ways it can. As is usually the case it has evolved and continues to do so. Will it end in real Submission to her? I can't say but its more than just a kink for me or her. She is enjoying it as well and it works for us. :)
     
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    If you submit to doing things (sexual or not) that you dislike, and also dislikes the act of submitting to it, then you're not being submissive, you are being abused...

    If you don't like a "thing", but submit to do it, and like the act of submission, don't you end up liking the "thing" in the end?
    That's a bit tricky isn't it?

    Being submissive to me, means that you like someone else to be in charge.
    That doesn't mean the person in charge needs to mistreat you.
     
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    To me, the only way to gauge if a male is truly submitting is when he gets no sexual pleasure from it. He will of course get pleasure from making his wife/keyholder happy, but not sexual pleasure. If he does get sexual pleasure from it he should hide it, not flaunt it. That's my opinion.

    If he gets sexual pleasure from it how can he prove he is doing it for his partner?

    I'm aware I'm the odd one out here and not expecting anyone to agree :)
     
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    imho I believe this can only be worked out between a woman and her sub over time.........time for your point about pleasure to fully sink-in and become the new normal........thank you for sharing your thoughts
     
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    I totally agree, it takes time but is the ultimate proof of deep love, nothing else can be more true than that feeling.
     
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    uhmmmmmm
     
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    rebeccacd404 2018 is going to be a year of chastity and denial!

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    I didn't bother to read all the replies but you've has quite a few. If you wanted to stir things up you certainly have. I am yet another submissive as are most gurls that dress! The problem we all find is finding a good honest Domme. So can you walk the walk etc or are you all talk?
     
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    I'm all walk as far as gurls are concerned. No offence :)
     
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    rebeccacd404 2018 is going to be a year of chastity and denial!

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    So what are you actually saying, you want to domme a pretty sub like me?
     
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    I'm all walk, in the other direction.
     
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    rebeccacd404 2018 is going to be a year of chastity and denial!

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    Oh darling that's such a shame....why start the thread with such a teasing question when you have no intention of following through with anything? Why do you ask the question?
    Love your picture nevertheless
     
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    I have subs, I was trying to say I am not into sissy gurls.

    I asked the question because I constantly see submissives submitting to their favourite sexual things. It kind of ruins the submissive part in my mind.
     
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    rebeccacd404 2018 is going to be a year of chastity and denial!

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    First of all let me apologize, I didn't mean to appear to be cheeky or clever, I hadn't appreciated you being a moderator. I could always switch to being alpha male just to get your attention. But if you really like the true goddess female then I can't compete there.
     
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    Don't worry, no one does :)

    There is nothing you could do to get my attention :)
     
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    rebeccacd404 2018 is going to be a year of chastity and denial!

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    Are you sure about that???
     
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    rebeccacd404 2018 is going to be a year of chastity and denial!

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    Have YOU ever been dominated....
     
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