Are there actually any submissives here?

In your Opinion. But every relationship is different so what submissive to you could be so etching totally different to someone else. Just because their different it doesn't make it any less submissive.

 

Xxxxxxx - mod edit - removed as viewed as personal insult

 

@PinkFreud, what other words do you know? Are you demonstrating that you know how to spell it or something?

 

I know the words 'hypocrite' and 'ignorant' and 'idiot'. Do you know them?

 

Hypocrisy? Would that be like when someone claims to be submissive but then gives someone else grief because their style of submission doesn't match?

Mistress Lucy sees Chastity as a way of controlling someone whilst removing sexual impulses and urges. If you think about it that is a historic approach to chastity. Monks were chaste. That didn't mean they spent their time being pegged, licking pussy, being told to dress in panties or whatever other fantasy we might have. The entire point was to spend their time serving others.

 

@PinkFreud, That seems to cover it, but I have some bad character traits as well.

 

I totally agree with this as being the majority. It is the fetish that entices, not the idea of service to another. Complete service to another is selfless and should require no need for enforced restraint. However, I do hope there are as many key holders getting a sexual kick. What a sad world of sexually repressed Victorian ideologues if not. I cannot imagine involving oneself with such a process without at least some benefit, even if only sadistic in nature. But as it is outside of slavery, chastity is and will always be an elective, calling to question the entire concept of submission as ever being authentic without being enforced by more than will power. It is a sexual game of limiting sexual games. While many have a kink that chastity is a part of, very few willingly want to go to the extreme of being a concubine.

 

pardon me, not a concubine, a Eunuch. Men do not usually volunteer for castration.

 

Yes yes indeed. And there are so many churches to choose from aren't there?

But, with regard to chastity, even if being of service is the benefit, there is the underlying reason of self service - fulfillment of one's desire to be of service, or kept denied and in a process of servitude as quid pro quo.

 

Devotional service to a dominant woman and devotional chastity (which is how I refer to my own chastity without wearing a device) becomes, if practised and adhered to over a long period of time, pretty much its own reward. However, if the lifestyle is entered into with the idea of seeking rewards it is probably destined to fail on that level.

Rewards are kind of beside the point, it seems to suggest that there is some expectation that the woman will give you something in return for the privilege of being permitted to serve her. Selflessness is something that has to be worked at, it's probably not going to happen overnight. Perhaps the ulterior motive ought to be to please her and make her feel wonderful.

I came out of retirement to say that, now I'm going back in!

 

I do t disagree with your statement but it depends who is writing the post. I'm posting as I experience the effects of our relationship. I don't post all the things that I do to serve my Mistress because most of those things are on a regular bases and the same almost everyday. So to say in most cases is very difficult because all the information isn't posted.

 

Bam you've got it. Mostly the problem is that you have a site here for devices and some story's and ideas.

But chastity as tooling and methods of punishment + humbling you could really get usefull at a "normal" d/s constellation

So first the people should ask themselves if they only use chastity as tooling of trade or if they want to life lifestyle of d/s s/m or b/d

 

I agree. I’ve met a lot of dommes and lifetime subs, they regularly joke about their d/s relationship. It a fun part of the funnest part of life!

 

Don’t back down too fast, tinkerbell. That was a valid question.

 

When BF's under discipline, he's submissive. It's not a total lifestyle submission, but he has Rules to follow and if he doesn't follow them, there are consequences.

I don't take control of the finances or anything like that. He's a disaster in the kitchen, and I know I've tried to teach him, but no matter how sore I made his bottom, he just can't get it when it comes to cooking. So he still controls his own money and I still do the cooking, if we eat at home. He has to do the dishes, of course. He can make coffee, so he is required to do that when he's under discipline. If he's not, whoever gets to the coffee maker first, makes it.

It's his house, so when he's not under discipline, he's a little loose on cleaning. Despite my many requests, he won't put the toilet seat down. When he's under discipline, though, he gets a chore list and he has to put the seat down. If he forgets, which he does a lot, it's an automatic trip across my lap with the hair brush or Brown Spanking Paddle. These are rules I imposed, I didn't ask him about any of them, i just told him.

He also has to address me as Miss Cecilia. If any of my friends know about what we do, he has to address them as Miss_______________, when he's under discipline.

 

And just because a man is submissive doesn’t mean he’s weak.

In fact many subs are very strong mentally and physically

 

Yes I am! Xx

 

Miss Cicilia,if you put a chastity devise on him,he wont have a reason to raise the seat.he will have to sit down to pee also.

 

He can actually pee standing up with a CB-6000. I've watched him and he doesn't make a mess, either. He says it's easier for him to pee standing up. When he's dressed, though, he does have to pee sitting down. My decree.

 

I cannot speak for anyone except for myself but being very shy and feel insecure around women, the more confident and desirable the women are the worse it is. I do envy women their strength, their desirability and their beauty.

I don't know how to describe myself except as a true submissive of powerful women.

If that does not fit the norm then I am sorry.

 

I am so shy around women I actually put my stuff in a chastity cage when they tell me too. That is shy