Thanks for your honest and straight forward reply. I could never give up control to someone I didn't completely trust. I believe you are completely justified wanting your needs met, for me it's all about trusting that she will do so on her terms. If I got nothing out of this I wouldn't do it. We have an agreement we discussed before I handed her both keys. She keeps me subbie, gives the attention I deserve on her own schedule and how she wants, and I don't complain, tell her when and how, or sulk. I was once married and thought of asking her to do this...I never did because I didn't trust her. She would just lock it up and forget about it if we had done this. Surviving the end of chastity...that's a good one. I think most here have a long relationship of "normal" they can fall back to. We do not. We only dated a few months before starting this, so it's really 90% of our history. We would definitely talk, compromise, and alter our arrangement before it was abandoned. Even then, I think there would be some confusion and hurt feelings if we stopped. So I am not forced by any means, but this isn't going away without some dialogue and compromise.