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I try very hard not to judge other people for their fetishes. But bootlicking has always seemed strange to me.

I think there is probably a lot of truth to your theory that many (or maybe most) people are only doing certain fetish activities because it's what they think is expected of them in order to be accepted as (insert fetish label here). ...but still I have to believe that at some point SOMEBODY must have gotten something out of it ...or the practice probably wouldn't have gotten started in the first place.

 

One of the reasons I like this site is to get new ideas or perspectives. I might try something if it sounds interesting, but I'm not going to pretend I like something just because I'm "supposed to." The exception would be if my Goddess found pleasure in it, but then it would be me enjoying giving her pleasure.

 

Ms Lucy i wouldn't want to lick your boots and heels.
I would take you with a strapon.

 

Bootlicking is pointless. If you really like to please your mistress, try an elaborate foot massage. We do that at least once a day and she loves it.

And if you like cleaning boots, you can polish them, but be sure to use the right stuff unless you want to risk ruining the boots of your mistress...

 

I completely get where your coming from with this, forgetting the (what I deem to be) inappropriate contact for the moment, isn't this transferable to many things that aren't fetish related?

There are plenty of things we've wanted, or have, tried because they saw or heard about it elsewhere and liked the idea?

Sex on the beach is rubbish but many of us will have tried it. I don't think a "spaghetti kiss" would be a thing without Lady and the Tramp. Machu Pichu wouldn't have a single gap year student cluttering up the place but it is because we're all sheep in some ways.

Which the drinkers on here liked there first beer? We learn to love that stuff.

I don't think kneeling is logical, we could be off doing something useful with that time. Isn't that something you saw or at some point that you enjoyed?

Do you get random messages from men on here or are you talking about elsewhere? Can't imagine getting in touch with you unless there was a site issue personally, and I'm sure if I look there'll be some generic contact to use instead.

Your final point about things that both parties do, not out of enjoyment but cjust beause" is an interesting question. I don't know.

 

We are social animals,this type of behaviour is hard wired into us. Fawning subs may be tiresome to people who have seen it a million times. But ultimately they are simply expressing a desire to do whatever the dom wants. How should a sub show this, if not by emulating the behaviour of others in this role.

 

So do you have any new ideas for worshipping our goddesses, what do you like?....I would think that all ideas of worshipping would have been exhausted over the years but would love to hear any new ideas you may have.

 

It’s hard to be a sheep. She does not follow any online sites that I know of. She follows her own mind. And, I follow her.

 

Greetings Madam Lucy,

yes, porn imagery creates endorphins for the hyper masturbators, then they feel addicted to the act they are watching even tho they may never have done it. But most don’t understand the chasm between imagery and reality.

for me personally, i get sooo turned on by submission itself, and i love following an exploratory leader. Foot worship for me: YUK! But fall in love with foot worship if She loves it-it actually became a fetish for me but only with that one person. Same thing happened with urine drinking (definitely not on my list, but got soooo turned on that a Domme could tease and train me into that! It’s so weird to do something that disgusts me but i can’t stop myself because i’m so turned on by the submission of the act. It’s really f**ked up. And why i need a keyholder.

Best Regards

p

 

My wife and I share a bed with two dachshunds. Or the Dachshunds are kind enough to allow us to share, might be more accurate. In any case, they have grooming rituals following dinner, and treats, which involve the "lickies." One in particular will spend a lot of time licking a hand or leg, or my wife's face. We let them, though we're under no illusion that they're making us any cleaner. In the pack hierarchy, they're showing us their respect, and we permit it.

My wife and I don't engage in bootlicking, largely because it doesn't seem very hygienic, and she doesn't wear boots. I do kiss her feet from time to time. We both understand that she doesn't gain any pleasure from this, nor does it accomplish a specific purpose such as cleaning, but that it's symbolic, ritualistic in a way, and it engenders a strong feeling of gratitude and devotion in me. Much like allowing the dog to lick a hand, allowing me to kiss her feet, or ordering me to do so, serves other purposes. Equally as important, it does no harm.

I cannot speak to fetish trends on websites, as I don't visit them or socialize, and I can't speak to trends in a community, as I've never been involved in one. I'm familiar with the general tropes, including licking boots, but while I have no foot fetish and am not aroused by or attracted to feet, I understand that many are. I would never approach someone and ask to lick their feet, even if I were single. I would think asking to buy someone dinner might be more appropriate, and far less creepy. never the less, I can't imagine that someone asking to lick boots is particularly interested in creating clean boots, but has other, ulterior motives.

By comparison, one might posit that sex is never appropriate unless one intends to procreate. As it turns out, people engage in sexual activities for many other reasons that range from pleasure to aggression to submission to political, payment, currying of favor, revenge, catharsis, etc. There are mental and emotional reasons attached, and the full spectrum runs far more than genitalia. Let's face it: an open-mouth kiss isn't very hygienic, and certainly kissing other parts of the body, especially areas that involve internal processes, are definitely not hygienic. They do have other purposes, though. We have golden showers, oral sex, anal sex, ass kissing, foot kissing, and all kinds of other acts that are not necessarily related to procreation, yet are common, often desirable sexual activities. They're frequently more desirable to one party than the other, yet occur by mutual wish, or tolerance as the case may be.

My wife may gain a lot more from sitting together at a ballet than I might. In fact, we recently attended one, prior to the social distancing. I did enjoy it, and she was surprised I agreed to go. I'd have gone simply to spend time with her, regardless of whether I liked it or wanted to be there; it was about doing something she wanted to do, and doing it together. It doesn't always have to be something that we're both keen to try. Sometimes we do, or allow things simply because the other person wants it, and I think that's okay.

 

On the general topic of the thread, there are a ton of things that would seem norm, but are tired or just repetitive.

One of the better aspects of chastity is it keeps the mind focused on Mistress more than selfish things. Its this time to try and be more imaginative. Its important to keep things new on both sides.

Bootlicking is boring, as I dont have a foot fetish, but keeping her boots clean is different. Plus there is a bit of selfishness in bootlicking if you have a foot fetish. Spontaneously taking Mistress boot shopping would be fun though.

 

It's still hard for me to understand why a woman would even want someone to lick her boots – it clearly isn't good for the boots. I get the concepts of subordination, humiliation, etc., but I think that can be achieved without the sub spreading his saliva over things. Yuck!

 

Yuk !!!!!

 

They're family

 

No...they're dogs. And earlier, they were licking each others bum-holes.

 

Actually, they weren't, and yes, they're family. They know it, too.

 

I suppose some Mistresses enjoy it

but it just seems selfish to ask for things that dont benefit Mistress

 

I don't think there is anything wrong with getting ideas from fetish websites. It doesn't make people sheep. It can be how people learn and evolve.

My now Partner and mistress now has absolutely no interest in boot licking, indeed she doesn't like to demean me in any way, she contacted me on collarme because of my list of interests because it was a match for her own which predominantly involved orgasm denial and chastity (and pussy eating).

Mistress is not dominant out of the bedroom (although saying the wrong thing can result in dire consequences) But she is and likes to be in control of sex and her cock. That said I do 80% of the cooking and cleaning up, fix her car, and she has me do her shopping be it for food or other things, Ill do her tax for her, apply for her passport, she used to have me come around to her house and clean it but these days she almost exclusively comes here so I don't get to service her in her own home.

I do these things in part to win favor, in part to make her happy in part because, and I admit it so i am more likely to get a release (although it never seems to work that way) and of course because I love her. So I guess I am a sub to her sexually and in a service way, I certainly don't get a hardon working on her car!! But when she says that tonight we are going to have sex but I am not going to cum (or get out of the cage)...that makes me get hard even thinking about it !

In choosing where to go on holidays, what to do and where to go during the day thats pretty much up to me, even largely deciding what we watch on TV. Everyone is different but we didn't read about it.

There are loads of things I have read about that if it were of interest to her I would be willing to try them. I am at times permitted to suggest things I have read about or things I have thought of but only at times when they can not be carried out. mistress will file it away for later if she likes the idea. I dont have an issue with reading about activities of others and incorporating them into an ever evolving relationship. Mistress discards the ones she doesnt like and some of them she really likes. With enough activities in our repertoire we can return to those and hopefully never get bored....although present circumstances are a bummer.

 

To OP, I think it's definitely fair to assume the majority of people lack creativity and have a tendency to follow what they think the norm is.

Personally, I am almost TOO creative in the things that I want/enjoy and it makes it difficult to find people that I actually resonate with. I of a lack of desire for many of the things in the BDSM community, yeah greatly enjoy other things. It can be frustrating at times.

 

I just revisited this thread to Apologize to Ms L-U-C-Y.
I was disrespectful.
I have learned my lesson and really, I think I got off very lightly with a ban for only one week.

I really missed being able to be at CM and take part in the forums for that week and to post and communicate with my friends here.

I don't know if she can ever truly forgive me. That would be understandable but am very grateful that Ms L-U-C-Y has allowed me to return.

Thank you

 

I have no understanding why a human would want to sleep with an animal other than for heat in dire circumstances or for something related to bestiality... each to their own but not one my things. My ex and I once had a cat and then a dog neither of which was allowed either on any of the furniture and never upstairs.

When going hunting in the pack heirarchy thing dogs sometimes leave other younger older weaker dogs in the den area to watch the pups and then on their return regurgitate food for them. Licking especially of faces and throats is done to stimulate the throwing up reaction. Not kisses not grooming.

Each to their own but I would not let any animal let alone a dog lick me or anything of mine.. I consider it beyond just dirty.

 

Mistress lets my cat on the chair but I have to put a cat blanket on it first. and I am allow to have it on my lap to stroke its fluffy coat. and I like to hear it make purrs as well.

 

Just saying there is a reason that dogs and cats lick their wounds, it is a fact that they heal faster so dog licks are actually a good thing. I won't get into it but I have personal experience with this and always welcome a lick from my dog.
Also I do kneel at Goddesses feet when I am massaging them nightly because it's easier for her when she is lounging on the couch ... And yes it makes me feel more submissive but that isn't the reason I do it it's just easier for her