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I have no desire to lick boots, but if my girlfriend were to decide that she wanted me to lick her's, I'd do it. I don't think I would enjoy the actual boot licking, but I would enjoy the submission and I would enjoy kneeling at her feet to do so.

 

Now licking and kissing feet, I like. I enjoy the taste and smell of sweat...... that’s a personal thing though...

 

Lucy,

Provocative question. We all settle on our things that get us going, but your question has many angles besides the 'sheep' part. One that I now wonder about for the men offering to lick (actually, 2 parts): 1) Does asking excite them; 2) If granted that opportunity, does doing so excite them? To note what you followed up with, like you I'd be concerned about germs in either direction, as many of the shots online show (mostly men) licking boot soles. Yuck.

One my Lady and I have wondered about is 'domina dress' - corsets, latex, leather, stilettos etc. My Lady finds all that ridiculous and dresses in exactly what she finds comfortable at any given time. I get the appeal of 'domina dress' as a guy, but like you with bootlicking wonder how the women doing it adopted that style to begin with. My Lady has shown me that a woman can be quite dominant with no rubber or leather in sight!

Interestingly, on of her fetishes is having her submissive in a coat and tie. She loves seeing me that way and it turns her on. She is my Lady and we have adopted a FLR, so that is what I wear most waking moments. She feels quite strongly that it's the sub who should do the dressing up to please; she no longer concerns herself with whether or not I find it comfortable. It's everyday bondage that works for both of us, so in our universe it's a good thing.

For the, ahem, gentlemen who offer you inappropriate things, I think it's wholly appropriate to say 'Eeew, gross, not for me, in what other ways might you submit and/or serve me?'. That is, if you don't just toss'em out!

 

I don't get into BDSM cliches at all. Specifically in regard to this thread, I never got why a woman would want, or even tolerate, a sub licking their shoes or boots. It sure as hell doesn't do the shoes any good, and who wants saliva all over their footwear? Yeah, I get that it's seen as humiliating for the licker, but surely there are other humiliating acts that are either actually useful, or at least not grossly unaesthetic.

Yet not only do I see lots of subs clamoring for it, but also dommes calling for it, and posting pictures and videos of bootlicking subs. I can only assume that most of the women are doing it in response to a perceived desire on the part of subs, rather than something that they actually want. I call that sort of cliched response the "domme-in-a-box" syndrome. If they really like it, more power to them (figuratively as well as literally), but I kind of doubt that's usually the case.

 

My take on this is it falls into the category of object association , in this case boots or shoes, but could well apply to anything worn by the lady in close contact with her body , gloves or underwear for an example , to the admiring male the objects are worn by her, belong to her,
and usually enhance her , ergo they form part and become an extension of her , and are equally worthy of the same worship as herself,
Now whether the lady in question likes this or wants this is another matter all together ,
Things like bags and phones fall outside of this I think because they are not such personal items and not worn close to the body
This is just my take and thoughts , and I will leave you all to take a guess on my personal stand point ,

 

I saw a post here, or maybe somewhere else that "wearing panties was a natural progression of wearing chastity."

I thought... um no. I'm pretty sure my wife wants masculine man she married.

 

There is a LOT of that. A few years ago, everyone in "the community" was doing hot wax. More recently, it was all needles. Electricity comes and goes, and spanking seems to enjoy constant popularity. On fetish sites, there seems to be a push from submission to chastity to feminization to cuckolding to hotwife/BBC. The "fetish tourists" just seem to pass by like leaves in a stream... copy for a moment and move on.

Yep. However, there is a connection between boots and the roots of modern BDSM culture. In more strictly hierarchical leather communities there are rituals and protocols that re-enforce position and "rank." Links to the source meaning of behaviors have largely been severed, but the imagery persists and can be very powerful.

These things are meaningful to those who are wired for dominance or submission. The "fetish tourists" just want the momentary thrill without the work of service or true deference to a leader... or responsibility for leading.

It sucks that you're getting so bothered with trivial B.S.; it's one of the costs of anonymous and free communication. Many thousands of new sheep are coming on line every day, and education is the second costliest behavior that someone can engage in.

 

This is a good topic, I was thinking about that too.

Now, to start, I have to say I am not that experienced and definitely not the totally submissive type. I do like the idea of handing over power to a woman and being under her control, but for example verbal humiliation does absolutely nothing to me. Chastity for me is more about self-control and the thrill of wearing something "naughty" in public.

I went to a professional dominatrix a couple of times and tried some things - I have to add she was absolutely amazing, so a real professional but also a good human being - but we found out that I neither get off on humiliation, nor any foot stuff. She asked me to lick her heels, and I just went..."ok...am licking shoes...now what...".

So what I am aiming at is this: Everyone has different fetishes. However, I think a lot of people see porn videos and assume "that is how a submissive person should be". I was always interested in if you can actually create a fetish in a person by exposing them to a ton of material on this fetish - for example, could you turn someone like me into a foot fetishist by just showing me foot fetish porn? There was an interesting thread on the famous 8ch hypno fetish board where people listened to armpit fetish hypnosis/videos and tried out if they developed an armpit fetish, interestingly a couple of people reported back that they did. It's the same with this whole sissy-hypnosis (famously mentioning bambi sleep and samantha bandler here), who actually did turn a lot of straight guys into cock loving sissys. I am pretty sure that the mind adapts, so the more you watch porn on a specific subject, the more your brain associates this with pleasure and slowly creates that fetish.

@L-u-c-y , you have a stable of slaves, why don't you run an experiment. Give them permission to jerk off/edge, but just to specific topics. Then see if they develop a fetish for it. To make sure it is not normal arousal, pick some rather un-arousing video categories, like.... how to build a tree house, pottery, crossstitching, and see if anyone developes a crossstitching fetish .

 

Cross-stitching, that would be a very random one lol

 

This thread reminds me of the old joke where a prostitute says to a prospective client, "I'll do anything you want for fifty bucks."

"Great! Paint my house!"

 

I started to like a fetish lifestyle long before the days of the Internet so there were no fetish sites to join and therefore no copying to be done. I was however instructed to do certain things by ProDommes and kissing their shoes was one of them. As I loved high heel shoes, that was something that I really wanted to do and I found that their warm feet inside the shoe gave it a certain "life".

But I have never wanted to actually lick a shoe or boot, that seems much more like worshipping the ground rather than the object or the person wearing it.

So for me the fetish is about something that turns me on, - shoes, materials, clothing - which I think is the true definition of a fetish. The worshipping of the wearer is to do with submissive feelings.

 

Ive never permitted anyone to clean My boots/shoes with their mouth.Always lint free cloth and appropriate polish/cream.Oral is a complete no no in My book.Unless he is My LTR FLR partner.
I get countless messages of abuse because I don't permit oral, or allow spit on My footwear.

 

Just one of the messages I got this week..

Hello goddess
I’d do anything to make you feel perfect by worshiping you and intensely and passionately kissing and licking all over your body, your sexy feet, ass and pussy dear goddess. I’d do my best to please you and serve all of your feminine desires and give you all my heart and body

Really, what it is with these guys? It's not submissive at all to tell me what you want to do, and extremely cliche to write these 'fantasies' that everyone writes.

I have zero interest in being kissed or licked by anyone but my husband, and not everyone has a foot fetish.

 

Well to be honest Miss Lucy you and every other Domme would have to force me onto my knees to lick shoes and boots as well as smelly feet.
I haven't seen submissives ask for it although have seen pictures one thing my Mistress likes to see is me taking a folded belt to my inner thighs

 

To make it even more sad (if that's possible), if a woman actually invited him to a place and time to make all that real, he would absolutely ghost. Otherwise, he wouldn't be hiding behind a keyboard recycling cliches.

 

I have had that happen being ghosted by some idiot behind a keyboard. Your expecting something and it never happens, what a let down it is.

 

Sounds like it would be just terrible for the leather!

 

While I've been aware of foot fetishes, I never understood it till I met my wife. I developed a huge desire to kiss and lick her feet whether in shoes or not. It doesn't transfer to others though. I can admire heels etc on another woman but am almost repulsed by the idea of foot worship. My wife can walk into the house, snap her fingers (the signal) and I'm in heaven.

 

agreed, a) if you’re actually submissive, shouldn’t you be looking at what your partner wants from your relationship, not just feeding your own kinks

and b) my Wife and I have been monogamous since our first kid together, you’d be amazed, or maybe not, how many messages I get on Tumblr asking about Her, despite the big banner on my header saying no private messages. My standard answer is, you should ask me in person about that....

 

I had this conversation with my wife awhile back, she was “totally creeped out” by strangers speaking in that manner to her. She was like “do they actually think I would want that from a stranger?!”

I don’t think she understood just how big the internet is. For every 3000 people that would know better than to initiate rude comments like that, there is one idiot throwing it out there and seeing what sticks.

One problem is the ones that had common sense are not the ones you hear from, it’s those squeaky wheels that we notice.

 

Quite true. To a lonely person with limited social skills who is seeking attention and validation, the entire online world is a giant attention engine. Negative feedback is still attention and a very low response rate is still a response.

@L-u-c-y , your view of chastity as a harness on a male's libido / ego is unusual. (Refreshing and lovely, but unusual. Apologies if I have misinterpreted what little I know about your views.) Most of the males who find this site via searches or links from searches see a chastity device as one of many sexual aids to their fantasies. The few who own a device will wear it long enough to get excited (with help from your attention, they hope), then move on with their lives until they get aroused again. I would guess that there is almost zero overlap between their interests and yours, and they could care less about yours.

OMG, I am SUCH a grouch today. Best not step on my lawn!

 

I think faced with an uncertain world out there, it’s understandable that people find and approach that world using anchors, fixed points that help them navigate other people in particular. If the person seeking contact happens to be kinky or think they are then slotting their description of what they are looking for into pre existing categories can be the comforting low risk approach, if very uninspiring and unimaginative. Obviously that doesn’t work for you @L-u-c-y!
The big pre existing category/anchor “choice” is whether in their attitude it’s “all about them” (moi), or if it’s a two way engagement with the other person in all their alterity (I and you).