Risks of Orgasm Control

As my KH and I are relatively new to this dynamic in our relationship it hasn’t happened yet, but I can imagine that there is the potential for negative effects. This will result around any desires I have in directing a desire for longer durations or more teasing and frustrating. I am trying to keep a mind frame that I’m turning the key over to my KH and it is up to them to determine the outcome. The potential negative outcome is going to come as a result as almost all sexual problems in ones life - different desires coupled with ineffective communication.

 

Most of our issues have been about duration of sex after unlocking.

1. Most of the time I don’t take very long, which normally isn’t an issue for her since me inside her is more of a me thing than a her thing...but sometimes she’s into it and would like me to last longer than a minute.

2. Sometimes after a long lock up I might have an abrasion or something that I wasn’t aware of, and yes I can get hard but trying to finish when it hurts makes it difficult. I don’t really know it’s going to be a problem until the device is off and it gets hard and I actually feel the friction burn get hard.

3. Loss of spontaneity. She wears the key, so it’s not exactly unavailable, but it’s also not just there to slip in on mornings, or free to just stroke when the mood hits.

Somewhat small problems and certainly nothing she would say is cause for me to stop wearing it.

 

Regardless of whether I'm caged or not, with lots of tease and denial over about a week or so, I sometimes get Blue-Ball Syndrome. This causes pain in my balls as if they have taken a few good kicks in quick succession. I understand that it is caused by congestion of seminal fluid and can last two or three days or maybe longer. I find that an orgasm or two clears the congestion and I'm all back to normal in the morning after a nights sleep. Apparently the pain will dissipate on it's own, without orgasm, if left for long enough, but I prefer not to spend days in pain if I don't have to, especially if the cure is in my own hands, so to speak. The orgasms themselves are more akin to ruined ones, so a bit of a waste of all that tease and denial, but I guess that depends on your point of view.

So I'm a "yes" to the negative experience question.

 

I often experience something like this, except I wouldn't say it's from an abrasion. I find that when I've been locked for a long time and then I'm finally free my erection can be somewhat painful as the skin isn't used to stretching. It's not usually horrible, but it leads to confusion on my part... on the one hand, I want to masturbate so badly, and on the other hand I wonder if I ought to take it easy and let it heal a bit first.

 

I brought this up in a post before but I can't make it over 30 days. Once I start to get close to that time, I start getting a pain in the area where I'm guessing my prostate is located. Once my wife releases me and I relieve myself, the pain goes away. I'm not sure what causes it. I really can't go over 30 days anyway because I'm in the reserves, so I have drill every month and we usually have a drug urinalysis. I'm not about to get caught wearing a chastity device!!! I don't have drill in July so I plan on trying to go for the full sixty day to see what happens with the pain!

 

I think I misvoted. I meant to vote no, and it came out yes

 

I don't know if I would call it a risk, but for me it is a love-hate sort of experience. I do like the feeling I get from being denied for a long period, but it can get trying at times. I have learned to deal with the difficulties and push through it. Once I get past that, it becomes easier again.

 

I have a hard time imagining anything that has zero negative consequences so I voted yes. I'm curious though what you mean by "orgasm control". Do you mean the transfer of power an individual gives to their keyholder when they say you can control when I have an orgasm? So the consequences are the emotional and psychological. Or are you saying the physical element of chastity and being in a cage? Or do you mean in the moment of the playtime? Like my wife was playing with me and decided no orgasm today and locked me back up. Or is it all of the above?

 

To mimic what PPL said, there are a variety of ways to answer this question. For me, not having orgasm control from an emotional aspect has not had any negative effects thus far as I am more focused on being a better person for Domina. From a physical perspective, I'd say yes due to some irritation around the ring causing a rash or a bump.

If taking everything into consideration, I voted No as I am very happy in my current state.

 

Ever?

Sure. She locks me up at my request, forgets that I'm locked up and when I don't ask for sex... I don't get any. No attention, no relief... just locked and forgotten and resentful.

Chastity isn't perfect. People aren't perfect. When it works, it is amazing. It doesn't always work and life gets in the way.

 

I have experienced a negative result of not being allowed regular orgasms, and it is something that perhaps goes against a lot of what you read and others experience. Instead of having an orgasm very quickly the complete opposite has happened. My body has forgotten how to cum easily.

Even if I am told to masturbate, something Elle does very rarely, I struggle to cum. We have stopped using delay spray when we make love as there is no point. Elle has gone in the opposite direction, all this chastity/FLR/chastity stuff turns her on so much she cums really quickly.

Last year Elle gave me permission to cum six or seven times when I didn’t manage it. This then had a negative effect on Elle, as she felt like the fun of her control was going. It is noticeable that this year she hasn’t given me the same opportunities as she did last year, partly because she feels there is basically no point.

 

I actually kind of grow despondent and sad over not having access to pussy. I mean, penis-in-vagina fucking. But the negative effect is intended, so it probably is a positive effect, right?

Physically, well, I'd say when I get out I can fuck a long time without cumming. Plus, after a few orgasms, my libido really drops as my junk goes through what seems like an adjustment period.

But the big thing to reduce side effects is having the right device. I found custom-fitting metal has far fewer problems than plastic or silicone.

 

ya I don't like it

 

In all the time I have been into TTTWD I can't say I have ever had a negative experience.

The only exception to this that might be considered negative is that there have ben times when acclimatising to a new device there has been discomfort and the odd drawback. All of which I consider worth it in the search for the cage that best suits us both.

 

This happens to me when I've been locked up 2 weeks or longer. Not positive if it's due to the skin or interior tissue temporarily losing elasticity, but something feels tight and it's a bit painful. Like you, not enough to stop activity -- I will still feel tremendous pleasure and can cum (if so instructed), but it's a bit disconcerting to simultaneously be experiencing some (non-erotic) pain or discomfort. But it goes away after an hour or two, as the elasticity is fully restored. Just in time to be re-caged

 

Well.. it all depends what you mean by negative experience... if you mean by been denied orgasm my answer is no. I love my wife and we started chastity as a control for her jealousy.. and it worked perfectly... I turned a problem in fun. But one day she told me to hold and not cum for her for a few times... and after a few years I did not masturbated anymore and had minimal intervals of 1 week between my orgasm... but giving her plenty.... now we are pushing for 1 for me only after 30 days of denial.


In the other hand I had some problems buying belts. I have all types... expense an cheap... I used to like some European brands until the Chinese enter the game... I bought a array of 3 types that are absurdly comfortable... 2 for 24hs and 1 for travels to pass airport security... I'm planning to sell my European models now.. I do not like them anymore...

 

Agreed. On the rare occasions that I cum, it’s at the drop of a hat, while I am still just barely hard. I can’t come close to satisfying new sexually with my cock anymore.

 

The only negative of orgasm control in our relationship is the fact that I can get needy and moody if a planned play session does not come to fruition. I believe this has to do with being more dependent on my wife/mistress for pleasure since I can’t provide that ultimate pleasure to myself.

 

A negative experience?
Not really ... so voted 'no'.

Sometimes too much teasing (if there is such a thing ) can make things a little tender for a few days - blue balls. Its not a fun experience when that happens but its not a negative one either. Actually, more than the normal squeezing or paddling can leave me with sore nuts too. But really, all is fair in love & war. And a 'medical ejaculation' solves it most of the time.

Normally I am not so descriptive in my posts but I know @Breathe can handle it.

 

No negatives from orgasm control, only positives. I am more attentive to Miss A, if she wants PIV I am always ready, and my desire for her and adoration of her increases daily.

 

I think I'd say I had a negative experience, and it wasn't physical. My ex's rules for me when she was my keyholder basically left me with little sexual outlet. Her "teasing" was often just a quick tickle on my sides. She had a very low sex drive so things weren't frequent. Eventually, after ~40 days of nothing happening she was horny when I wasn't home and took care of it herself. I don't think she ever planned on telling me until I asked when I saw the evidence.

I was so frustrated. I felt betrayed since it seemed like it was gonna be another month+ before anything would happen again. And I was remembering a time where I read on a thread here that someone had 54 days of no interaction and when I said I didn't think I could go with that, she told me "Don't worry that won't happen." And yet there I was, feeling like that situation was already happening. I was angry, I told her how I felt. She didn't take it well. It would be stupid to say it caused the relationship to end, but it was definitely a negative for her to pile on even though I admitted it wasn't fair to her and wanted to stop the chastity so I could calm myself down and get rid of any idea I felt owed.

 

I get this to,

 

When you say "can't" ... Do you mean it's not as enjoyable on your own, or your moral compass won't allow it?

...Both. I can’t masturbate in the traditional sense because I wear a chastity cage, and even when I am not wearing it, I am usually not permitted to have a release.