I know, but gotta ask...

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  1. Headtrip
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    So I passed the 1 yr chasriversay a week ago. My Queen introduced this lifestyle and has been wonderfully strict, addicting me ro the high. But like a wild animal I have never fully given in and have said repeatedly that she better not let her guard down or else...

    Well, or else finally came. She left the keys out days ago and I grabbed them. She hasnt noticed and I havent used them (yet).

    It bugs me that she hasnt even noticed, and it bugs me more that she teases me that I may never come again. This is my chance! Maybe my last chance! But I can't bear to think of her dissapointment if I do. Not in me, because I have been very clear about what I would do given the chance, but in herself for allowing it to happen. Her confidence is, for sure, her sexiest feature and I dont want to kill it.

    If I just hand them to her it will still be a failure. If I sneak them back then I am the liar. I want to take the top of the (split) cage off and let her find out and make a deal if locking me up, but not sure if I can be "good" after so long.

    I think I know communication and honesty is the right policy, but the details are not easy. Making it worse is that her best friend is staying with us for the week. Not easy being open about anything. Ugh.
     
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    1 year of continuous lockup?
     
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    The temptation for you must be off the charts.

    You know her best. In my situation, I would give them back and be honest about my temptation and struggle.

    She might be amused.
     
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    Id hold them up in front of her, wave them about and just say you left these lying around.

    She will be proud of you for being honest. and you may even get a treat.
     
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    If she has managed a year without being ‘careless’, I would question why now?

    Why, almost to the one year date did she leave them out?

    I feel there’s more to this, I feel this could be a test.
     
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    My wife would have found it out. She knows everything I do.
    Today she said that she will easily fond out if I play around with the wand again.

    So i better dont do it.

    If she now just leaves the keys " accidentially" somewhere it is a test for you. What do you do after the oneyear lock down?
    Jerk, nojerk.

    My wife did this to me also. She said, jerk if you want, you have to know.
    Since then I never touched my cock again without her permission. Now I even dont touch it anymore except for cleaning or peing if not locked up.

    I doesn't exist anymore as a pleasure zone.

    Show her the keys.
     
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    Give the keys back to her and submissively ask her to be more careful, admit that you are still not to be trusted.
     
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    1 year with no release? No question about what I'd do lol. And no regrets.
    Yup mu dumb ass would surrender the key like a fool in love.
     
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    I would not only unlock and enjoy myself, but I would hide my device. She would expect nothing less. But, I have to sleep sometime and hand cuffing one hand to the bondage bed is pretty easy. Then it’s a whole new ball game! My wife hates the idea of an overly compliant Chastity “prisoner”.
     
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    Give them back asap!
     
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    I suggest you remove it right before bed. Climb into bed discreetly so she doesn't see that you don't have the cage on. Then go about your normal cuddling, spooning, whatever, behavior, and see how long it takes for her to notice and what her response is.
     
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    Oh, but the humiliation of she didn’t notice :p
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Everyone has a different dynamic, and even then it still changes.

    I once asked her what she would do if I did something without her permission after a few months of starting. Her reply was “probably just give the keys back and quit all of it”. She brought it up again about 4 years later out of the blue and said “you know when you asked me about touching yourself without permission? I wouldn’t give the keys back, you would be locked for at least a year, and you would probably forget what an orgasm felt like”.

    Same person, same lifestyle, same everything. The only thing that changed was her preference. She would prefer no one use it, if it meant losing the control she had grown accustomed to.

    One piece of advice is to be honest. Do what you want and deal with the consequences. If she finds this lifestyle fun and exciting enough, she will embrace correction, if she feels isn’t worth babysitting you, she’ll hand you the keys back.

    Probably more about your risk assessment than anything else. Good luck
     
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    Clean Living My Lady enforces complete submission and service

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    Headtrip,

    My response: Give them back ASAP, but let her know what you've gone through - the agonizing over the choice - so that she sees you're being honest and hears how all this is affecting you. Account for the time they've been in your possession, as she probably knows exactly.

    Could learn something from her response. You might get a reward, you might get another year. That's up to her. Please come back and report how this ends, whatever you decide.
     
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    Thanks, all, for the great advice. I needed a sounding board and you gave it to me. Here is what happened:

    I gave her the keys back a few days ago and explained my anguish over it. She thanked me, said my honesty would be rewarded and then...

    She "hid" the keys in her makeup bag and put that in my backpack!!! I was pissed!!! After all my honesty and explaining that this was HER game, not mine, she basically assumed I would just be good. My torment went through the roof and I was honestly disappointed I hadn't wanked.

    Of course I took the keys back. But I have to give it to her that it was only some hours before she figured this out and asked why I gone through her "personal stuff". I said "really, I haven't orgasmed in a year and you think I am going to feel bad about unzipping your toiletries bag in my backpack? Do you not understand what I am going through???" For some reason that seemed to snap it home. She took the keys back and said "don't worry, you may never see these again". I don't know, actually don't think, it was a warning or a trap. She just started taking things for granted IMHO and didn't think that I actually was troubled by the thought of an orgasm (oh, hell yes I am).

    Here is the good news: She properly locked the keys up, let me service her orally, and then later let me service her with a strap on. It was heaven. I so needed that, and it made all the honesty worthwhile. The feel of her riding me and the strap on, the vibes we share, the pheromones', the feelings, ahhhh..... This was not, is not, my game, but it works on me in amazing ways. My wife is not perfect, but she is awesome.

    So now it has been a year and a week. The keys are back in a safe. I can only hope that she understands my needs a bit better (to share her orgasms) because it is just as clear that I won't be getting any of my own. Yet I am somehow happy.

    Thanks again.
     
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    So basically she let you walk around a minimum security prison for a while, then when you didn't escape, she locked you back up in maximum security and threw away the key.
     
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    Congratulations one the year locked
    Personally I would say test
    Be honest and confess what you did You never know it might lead to a enjoyable evening
    My wife has normally got one key on her bedside table in full view . I know it's not worth the risk of touching it Last time it earned me a spanking with her bath brush follow by a caning
     
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