Chaz69

Hi TradWife, thanks for the comment. I do understand that you're both very vanilla and using a chastity cage may feel a bit kinky, but that is just a matter of perspective. In it's purest form a chastity cage is about chastity, which is the abstinence of sex, so in a way it's the opposite of kinky. But at the end of the day, you should only do what you're comfortable with.

I understand and it is something we will talk about. He is absolutely committed to avoiding masturbation and has been pretty successful with only a few lapses in the last two years and non so far this. But if he did fail it would be a sensible option.

We are not intending to have penetrative sex again ever and I am content with remaining completely chaste myself.

At the moment we are usually able to minimise the sexual aspect in that my husband usually ejaculates within a couple of minutes of my touching his penis and with it still entirely flaccid. I would not want a longer break to cause him to become erect when I do it.

well like I might have said I have been playing with this for 23 years I enjoy it oo much. she was onbaord and I really enjoyed it. I would always pleasure her orally. but then I went and got a strap-on to use on her and she did not really take to that. Just be careful

We're taking our time and doing this together, we talk and we decide what to do next, so nobody's springing any big surprises on the other.

that is how you do it. Had I know that I would not have sprung things and understand the difference between the fantasy and the realty of it