Erection control Vs. Orgasm control?

Losing your erections is the hardest thing for me to get used to.

 

Erections, 100%

My GF is determined to maintain zero orgasms and I have say that I love being so damn horny for her, but I really miss erections a lot.

 

I voted erections, as I’m permitted anal orgasms often but my spiked device stops erections in there tracks.

 

That's an interesting question. I controlled hubby's orgasms for many years before we even knew chastity cages existed. Taking control of his orgasms definitely had a huge impact on both of us and reshaped our sex life. I honestly can't imagine going back to "before".

For a while we dabbled with chastity devices. I'd lock hubby up for several weeks, tease him mercilessly, then let him finally have an orgasm and we'd return back to the honor system. During those episodes it was obvious that controlling not just his orgasms, but also his erections, had an enormous impact on hubby. But the cage was also sort of a novelty at the time, so it is hard to make a fair comparison.

Now, however, hubby's been locked up for well over a year. His orgasms have been reduced from weekly to monthly to a few per year. He misses them, but feels the sacrifice is worthwhile. Erections are another matter entirely. I usually unlock him several times a week for some teasing. But once in a while I make him go a few weeks without an erection. Those are always difficult weeks for him, and at times he's even pleaded to be allowed an erection. Overall I'd say controlling his erections has had the bigger impact.

From my perspective, although I enjoy controlling his erections, controlling his orgasms is still the more important of the two. But fortunately I don't have to choose one or the other, I get to control both.

 

Disagree with the consensus here. I'm on the honour system so erections are easy and normal. Stopping them is not interesting. Making sure I can't do anything with the erection really is interesting.

 

I can get to that edge where the wave of frustratisfaction washes over me caged, so I actually miss the erection early in to a lock up more than, say two weeks in, when that state is harder to achieve.

I think it's more about getting to the point where you want to come, don't want to come and kind of want it to stop because the intensity has been wonderful but it's worn you out. If we know we aren't allowed to come, then you're desperately trying not to tip it over the edge and possibly earn an even longer sentence. Gulp?! If I'm getting there caged, and I know I'm not allowed release I will always say yes to a stretch but I am sometimes apprehensive of an accident.

 

Nailed it. Being worn out by being horny and desperate and unable to resolve it. From my reading and experience, that's getting towards breaking point.

 

As long as my partner is having orgasms then I don't really miss mine (but she usually lets me orgasm with her), but I do miss erections when I am locked up for an extended time

 

I think anyone who has been in long term chastity can agree that erection control is the thing you miss the most.

Orgasms can unfortunately be achieved in any device (excluding some belts), but after a few weeks of not being able to touch or achieve a full erection is really where the game begins.

The feeling of your penis attempting to get erect by bulging your base ring and device out, and filling all the space inside before finally giving up a few mins later is the thing that frustrates me most.

 

I'm with you ! As far as I'm concerned an erection is only a precurser to an orgasm. OK teasing is certainly fun and getting me horny / frustrated before I'm relocked.But the thing I really miss is the 'Big O' !

 

100% agree.

 

My Wife allows me to get a erection 1-2 times a month, just to make sure it still works. So it's not too bad. No orgasms in over a year is hard to take. I miss getting hard when I want, but I really miss not being able to have a orgasm.

 

Loss of erections is damn powerful, it's the core of chastity for me.

 

I find it tougher when my Wife decides to not allow me an erection for a long time. And for us, a long time has only been a week or two lol, it starts to drive me crazy. I do take 5mg cialis at least every couple days too for health benefits, so that can be brutal sometimes and I’ll have to put that on hold longer when I know she’s having fun denying me erections for a while.

 

What health benefits does cialis give you?

 

Cialis can help with prostate issues as well as heart disease and increasing overall blood oxygenation.

Of course it can also treat ED, although 5mg is a fairly low dose if taken every other day, or say 3 times a week.

 

I ticked orgasm control because I can't imagine how realistic it would be to deprive me of an erection in my case.. I tried different cages and there was always one.. but only after playing banding and prolonged denial, these erections were practically limited to nocturnal and occur much less often .. but it's not the result of the cage itself.. it's probably a combination of physical and mental factors.

 

She hasn't really done much erection control up until this past week with the arrival of my modified cage. Orgasm control has been in place for quite awhile, but adding no erection now, for me is just brutal. Today a heavy ball stretcher was added as a bit of punishment for forgetting to water her flowers yesterday and nearly killing them, so I'm in for a very uncomfortable day of yardwork while she floats in the pool.

 

For me, the hardest thing is lack of orgasms.... Her orgasms! Sometimes I have to go for days or a whole week without enjoying one of her orgasms. That's brutal! That's when I get the horniest and am glad I have the cage for self control!

 

NBChastity nailed it, I started taking the 5mg daily when I started TRT so I didn’t have to worry about some of the roller coaster effects I was getting while figuring out a good dosage and keeping my estrodial in a good range that my body would tolerate. Then we started using a cage a couple years later and suddenly cialis every day didn’t seem like a great idea.
But I still take enough that my blood pressure is always good, I’ve never had a prostate issue, but cialis helps with BPH, and it gives you a good pump when you lift weights. Good stuff all around and my Wife enjoys how it works too.

 

@NBChastity and @Queens servant73, thank you.

 

Since my goal is to maintain perpetual arousal, I may not orgasm. I sometimes spontaneously eject a little semen but it doesn't reduce the arousal, which is our goal. My KH wants me ready to serve her at a moments notice, her or anybody else who knows my circumstances and requests my services, We both consider me a universal sex slave. Anyone who is told, or discovers, my chastity status, may demand my complete sexual obedience, as long as I remain caged.

 

It's become easier to cope with long periods orgasm free and i get pleasure from being caned and fucked. Loss of erections though is more psychologically impactful. My KH is also male and I see his powerful erections daily so there is also an element of humiliation that comes with it.

 

Totally agree. I get very frustrated when she won't let me go down on her for days. Much harder for me to take than losing my orgasms