Explaining the dynamic most guys want

Not me.

 

Most guys don't get that if they don't make it about them but about the lady they'll get more than they ever imagined. Once most women get comfortable it seems they really become dominant. Sadly too many are scared off by all of the fakes, flakes and selfish jerks.

 

This is wrong. If we discard the blatant fact this guy has 3 different wives… they’re clearly 3 different people in 3 different houses! Polygamy is ok for some but a chaste husband? I’m not so sure.
anyway, I genuinely think it’s wrong because she didn’t mean it. She was happy, and so the beating was just for fun. It’s much more effective if her reasoning wasn’t so disingenuous.

 

The point is if the wife is not playing his game then there is no game, playing alone does not cut it …. She must be engaged for it to work, Thank you !

 

The point is that the woman is always right!

 

Actually, I think most guys who are into chastity just want the woman to do this because she’s so turned on by having him simply locked up. Most men here aren’t legitimate service subs.

 

That's certainly more us than the OP.

 

In a forum like this, there's no faster way to get dumped on than by saying "all" or "most giys".

 

I get the idea, and its fine. Tho I can think of rewards Id rather than the paddle lol. A reward for service is any kind of attention more than the pet rabbit lol

But yeah there is a spectrum for sure what works is whats important.

 

don't know if you trying to be funny but this cracked me up

 

Idk, maybe I was lucky to figure myself out young and begin playing as a teen (in part with current KH who went on to be a pro-domme for awhile) but all of my significant relationships, including two marriages, have been with kinky like minded people. It's a base requirement for me before a relationship can even become "serious" .

But I saw someone else mention that many women will at least try to please a lover they care about. I agree. Most of the time it's a matter of "Ask and ye shall receive" . If not and if this is something you need in order to be content then maybe it's time to ask yourself some difficult questions.

 

Mr. IB was a writer for the Onion in a previous incarnation.

 

That may be, it is however, quite accurate. In another thread there is a survey asking who keeps track of their orgasms, etc. Over 70% of the guys responding keep track. That being a probable indicator that they are in it for themselves and not for their KH, Wife, Madam, Mistress.

A true service sub already knows that information is for her to have if she so desires, to be shared with the sub at the Lady's discretion. The sub should already know that orgasms dont belong to them anyway. They belong to their KH completely.

 

Looks like a healthy playful relationship.

However, it's absolutely not what I want, and not what I have. My wife is genuinely in charge. She punishes me because she is more detail oriented than I, and enjoys it because she's a sadist.

So in this sequence:

1. I do the yard, she does the dishes because she's decided they need done (e.g. because people are coming.)

2. I get punished because I missed a corner of the yard, and because the dishes should have been done last night.

3. I bring her breakfast in bed because it's my job to look after her.

 

When they can be counted on one hand every year it doesn't take a rocket scientist to "keep track of them"

 

This is certainly a good idea.

However, I think it only covers the small proportion of women who are sexually playful as part of their personality, rather than, e.g, enjoying adventures when young.

I think the thing that really needs normalising is just exploiting his kink to get things she wants.

 

Correct. We love the idea of the woman feeling empowered and her arousal from it. we have very little excitement or interest in hours of vanilla service chores.

 

As an older guy who spent far too much time pleasing myself when I was younger, I've come to the place that I really want to physically pleasure and please her as often as I can while being denied. I owe her.... big time! But for me to pull that off, I need be fully engaged with her emotionally on a day to day basis. That's the hard part. We want to tell her what we want but are we really willing to put in the work so that she'll feel like it too?

 

Yeah, definitely not my ideal dynamic, lol

 

It looks like one of those Internet memes from the last decade: What the clueless think chastity is, What I think chastity is, etc. The only missing element is: What chastity actually is.

 

However, I think it does accurately describe how many chastity relationships work. Just not all of them.