so, I run a Tumblr blog, all femdom, and I post a lot of pictures that at one point would have turned me on. I look at them, post them, sometimes caption one or two. I mean they’re good pictures I guess, I have over 3000 followers. My point is this, none of that, or any of the novels that used to turn me on have any effect at all. If, however, I smell my Wife on her pillow, she’s in the room, or god forbid she as much as brushes past me I’m instantly straining in my cage. It’s as if she, and only she is imprinted on me, like I’ve been conditioned just to react to her. Am I imagining it, or has anyone else experienced this phenomena?
Is that really a problem at all ? The opposite of being turned on by porn and not your wife would be worse. Were you single or already married when the collection was in the making?
This is exactly why my husband is not allowed to watch porn unless I say he can, and why he's not allowed to play with himself etc. Not having porn interfere in the bedroom makes most men much more receptive and interested in the actual woman next to them, instead of unattainable fantasy girls who do everything they think they dream of. My husband says it's better for him now to be with me, than he ever imagined.
Yes, this has to be the aspiration. TO be serving the person in front of you, not remembering and trying to re-enact what you saw on your computer screen. Well done, and good luck to you both.
Heh, doing the blog while locked was her idea, I’m off work for six months after rotator cuff surgery, it was a refined piece of torture to keep me occupied and horny.
Dogtanian69 and, one of the reasons it’s on Tumblr is the difficulty of not being able to post nudity..... and yet still be labelled as explicit.... my Wife set a challenge..
no problem no phenomen before my wife/kh, i had erections which are "in the middle" (hard to cum, but not so hard as in night) strong, hard in the night, but falling quickly "in the middle" even i do it with the hard nocturnal erection and with Her : always hard, always long, and a long time only with Her, other women make no effect, or a little
I’m not sure if it’s chastity or what, but my thoughts and reactions have definitely changed. I used to fantasize about a great deal of people and scenarios. I actually cannot remember having a fantasy or dream that didn’t involve her. Her voice grabs my attention and makes me excited to see her. Just the other day I had a full on sex dream, was so intense it woke me up, it was about her and even in the dream I had my cage on. I think it trains you to focus where you need to
Once again the words of wisdom from one of the most knowledgeable people I know Ring True. Well done @Nicoftime
I’m not in anyway complaining, I honestly think it’s the BEST thing ever, I adore and worship my Wife, I’m happy just to be in a room with Her.
I also have had this happen, and have been like it for many years now, i still look at blogs like yours and am on Instagram a fair bit, but I see a pic and instantly imagine my madam in that outfit or scenario, not the actual person on the photo or video. We also look at and watch it together, and madam will point out something and I will say god yes I’d love to see you in that! Madam would say oh you like her then? and would always say no. I like the outfit, the scene, I couldn’t care less about the woman it’s you I want! And just like you all I need is to see my madam, just rest my hand on her thigh and I’m straining in my cage!
Exactly the same here. Before chastity I would frequently fantasize about other women or situations. Now it is only her. I will never understand how this little cage reshapes my brain so well.
Frank Herbert wrote about women with this power. He called them "The Honored Matres". Apparently I am in the same boat as the OP, as the only woman who drives me crazy with sexual abandon is my wife.
yes, i guess it is a side effect of FLY/chastity/cage, as I became more obediant and sensible to her need I am also more excited by her and no longer by younger beatys that you can find everywhere on internet or on the beaches. it is like my fantasy and sexuality is now fully boundd to her body, will and needs and no longer mine.