Describe the feeling of being in chastity

I agree 100 % , Being owned is the greatest feeling one can possibly have .
Knowing my likes and dislikes no longer matter ,because my Queen dictates my actions from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep.
I am constantly experiencing foreplay, and rushing to carry out my assignments .
No longer do I care about false friends or what they think.
I openly speak of my Queen owning me. I even mentioned being whipped as part of her training me to be the best man I can be for her .
The humiliation that brought me , as I casually broke the news to those I was aquainted with was such a sexual rush , I wished I had "came out" years earlier.
I'm caged , and often my Queen has me cleaning naked ,so I can have an erection in front of her , only to be told to lock back up ,once I'm done.
What is a Power experience for her ,is a sexual thrill for me .
We are truly in tune with each others needs.
It took 5 years of off, and on again seeing each other ,but once I gave in fully , I knew my life belonged to her ,and am so very thankful to be under her strict guidance ,and her absolute slave .

 

First of all: looooved ALL your answers and descriptions, as each end every one is true!

Second: you simply can't describe the colour pink to a blind one... so those who want to know should just listen to the little but thundering "click" when their own private parts get shut up - and soon they would be wise themselves!

 

And how.!

 

Remember when you were a kid, and waiting for Christmas? That's what it's like, but Christmas keeps moving as you chase it.

The feeling of the cage itself is like being securely and safely held.

 

After doing extended lockups and becoming bored with it, Mistress now locks me up each morning when I step from the shower. This ritual provides both of us with a rush! For Her, it keeps Her dominance in mind and for me, my servitude and lack of control. Each day, my helplessness and frustration is renewed and brought back to "top of mind". When not caged in the evenings, I must keep my ball ring on and remain chaste at all times. The daily "In and Out" is good for us older girls who have forgetful tendencies.

 

Physically, the feeling of being locked in a secure metal chastity device is restrictive, sometimes uncomfortable, and sometimes erotic. For me, comfort usually increases after a week or two of constant lockup. Mentally, it is a trip. I usually swing between excitement and irritability for the first 7-10 days. Then my feelings towards my keyholder start to change, from her being my partner playing a fun game, to her being my owner and dominatrix. I start spending lots of time on chastity mansion - not sure exactly why. After 3 weeks I start obsessing about her. My sexual desires focus more and more on her. Physically I experience a buzz almost all the time. It is really fun, frustrating and eye-opening. Longest I've ever gone is 26 days straight. So I can't comment on what its like to go long-term (90+ days they say), though I really want to experience that.

 

That's a tough question to answer. When my Mistress and i started experimenting with chastity, it was nothing more than a game really. Extended foreplay. It was fun to wear the cage, but it came off every day at least for a hour or two. i was still allowed to penetrate her, and cum pretty much whenever i wanted.

It wasn't until we really got serious about chastity and ordered the Jailbird that things changed. Mistress completely changed once i was locked 24/7.

i was now no longer allowed even an erection unless she allowed it. That made me feel owned.

i was no longer allowed to cum when i wanted, and the times between her allowing me an orgasm have steadily increased. That makes me feel very sexually frustrated

It pleases me to give my Wife/Mistress such intense pleasure nearly every night that she passes out asleep minutes after She cums

Knowing i can not get hard, that i can not cum, being kept on the brink or orgasm night after night... it certainly changes how i think. i LOVE the feeling of frustration. i LOVE how every little thought brings me to higher and higher sexual feelings. i LOVE being locked.

 

As many have said, a very insightful question Miss Lucy. For me as I only get to se/serve my KH every couple of months or so it's a mixture of feeling you are owned and making that commitment to your KH. A small sacrifice to lock yourself away for your KH, knowing they have control of your release. I also enjoy bondage when I session, so I also feel being locked an opportunity to feel like a small (HeHE) part of me is consistently in bondage, I guess rather like being collared.

Whilst locked, it's the feeling that the longer you are locked you both crave release, yet crave the feeling to last even longer - a delicious vicious circle of horny heaven

 

It is not so much the feelings I have when I am locked, as the feeling of not being fully "dressed" when I am unlocked. That feeling is unnatural to me now.

 

My wife isn't into chastity at all, so I only get a chance to self-lock every now and again (and not at all right now as we have a house guest staying with us for a couple of weeks). I love the idea of her being in control, but I don't know how it would work out in real life. I love the physical feeling of being locked, and it puts me in a very submissive state of mind.

 

I remember as a kid seeing vampire movies and loving the idea of being possessed by another creature, a master, who could use me for their desires and just wanting that feeling. Something like being part of a cult or brainwashed into doing something against my basic nature and loving it. A secret that I could keep that no one would suspect.

Chastity gives me something close to that feeling of being under the control of another and I crave that helpless feeling. This has led to submissiveness and now cross dressing to create an objectivity.

 

The first couple days of being locked is a mental rush of excitement. Then I become more submissive to my wife and loved the constant feeling of being denied while pleasing her. Love being in a submissive state and the cage is a constant reminder . We have a Mature Metal cage so it fits like a glove, no physical discomfort.

 

I've been considering my reply to this. As if it were a test.
I guess I feel emasculated and frustrated. Some people have described themselves as being owned, they are the ones I envy the most. I don't think I have ever felt like that, to date.
Its difficult to answer this accurately until I know what I want from chastity. Yes, at times, it is little more than a prolonged version of self applied foreplay. However, I have a yearning to make that never the case. To only be chaste for the purposes of servitude and obedience. That is ownership, that is what I aspire to.

 

After some thought I wrote this i warn you it s its long a little too long I thought but it was suggested by a Lady whose seen the original minus tweaks and knows better than I that I ought to post it anyway.

With my then wife 20 years ago, over, I started into this thing that we do (TTTWD) this journey with chastity… for want of a better phrase.

I won’t bore you with the minutiae.

Once we had our first device and got it’s ‘settings’ right and got me accustomed to wearing it long enough to go to work in it one of our aims was always to extend my time locked and denied, to the point where the release date was not known to me. So sometimes the length of time denied had to be shorter so that I would not know when to expect release, make it more random so to speak.

I very soon did not like getting out early and wanted my denial periods to be progressively longer. It was and remains for me in some way an achievement each time I go a little longer than before. I Wanted.. well that thinking had to go. Over time I became a little more submissive by which I mean far more accepting about completely surrendering when I got unlocked and whether I got or get to come or not. She has the key and I'm happy now that its her will and her rules that prevail all the time.

With different partners the dynamic has been different. My preferred relationship state is to be with a partner that genuinely takes pleasure in her control, she choosing if and when I am unlocked what happens when I am and whether or not I get some kind of release before re-locking. An otherwise equal partnership but one where I am locked by and for her ....and her enjoyment was the goal for our common good.

My view point of/from/for my predicament has changed slightly over time and has become very different.

The submitting to the clicking of the lock is now the start of a mind set. I would not cheat on any partner with another person and nor would I cheat by trying to overcome or bypass the chastity but my preference is to be so locked and secured that I can not beat the chastity without causing clearly observable damage. Its all part of the head-fuck.

Once this is achieved I can be far more comfortable with being controlled.

I do feel owned when locked and very much appreciate that. If someone has agreed to take on the role of my KH then I feel her needs wants and all considerations towards her are all part of the price I willingly pay to her for taking on the role. Whenever my consciousness is directed towards my penis for whatever reason its as though I am being constantly gently but firmly and inescapably held by the hand of my partner. It’s a good feeling. She increasingly becomes my focus and not my own needs and no more thinking with my dick as to some extent most guys do at sometime in their lives. The latter having perhaps got me into two marriages and some long term relationships.

I am when denied in a far more frequent, sometimes almost constant, state of arousal than when not being controlled, throughout almost the whole day sometimes and at least part of each day… the focus of which is always my partner and her needs. I feel a strong compulsion to address my partners needs and even predict them. These do not have to be sexual I just want her to realise and enjoy that I want to be controlled, locked and denied by her FOR her.

I’ve found the longer the period over which I’m being denied runs than the longer I want it to continue. The realisation of this was a surprise. I consciously do want, ahem, would prefer to avoid the ‘drop’ and to experience the feelings associated with post release or orgasm.

I’ve done my share of reading and I’m lucky because the analysis did not create the type of understanding that can detract from the experience. I believe I now know how and what makes male chastity work and I really want it work on me so it will work for my partner.. is that sad or weird I don’t think I care as it works for us.

I call it the head-fuck, the simultaneous states that exist where I do on one hand want and at times feel the uncomfortably strong need to cum whilst feeling when that reduces to just an underlying permanent but much reduced desire I am genuinely grateful that my KH has by both by just existing and by having control has prevented me or made me choose not to seek release.

The feeling of gratitude has become stronger and in this particular relationship I do feel an unfamiliar degree (only slight I think but slowly growing) of submissiveness towards her which I feel we can only explore fully whilst I’m being controlled and denied by her.

I have got to a point where I do (and equally do not) feel I would like us to explore what my partner has come to call her full control with my 24/7/365 locking to enforce and support Indefinite denial. Not something I’d ever have thought of previously but I do really want to cum at times but not as much as I generally want to remain chaste. Hence the Headfuck.... the dilemma of the chaste one.... and also part of the pleasure

I never thought I’d say it and somehow it feels as though I have through previous partners and especially this one reached a point where I think I would / might / could welcome my partner instigating my Indefinite Denial and see where that takes us.

There is more I could have said but not now.... and besides I doubt anyone got this far.

 

Great question!
So many inspired answers!
I harldly could contibute with something new to all that has been written!
I only want to say chastity is life changing and can become a life purpose!

 

This is crucial for males to understand.

Whenever I am approached with requests to own a sub who wants this or that, or I read posts from caged ones who say they'd like Mistress to do this or that to them, or worse, males who wonder about the chastity 'game' and how to get someone to play along while they sometimes wear a cheap plastic device for a few hours at a time... frankly, it all seems pointless, and it demonstrates these males' intent to use, manipulate and ultimately disrespect us in their attempt to satisfy some temporary, porn-induced fantasy.

Chastity is life-changing. And the life purpose for the males that truly practice it, is to obey, worship and be fully devoted to the Woman of their lives.

Nothing more. Nothing less.

 

Losing and handing over control of one's manhood. And with that comes strengthening trust and connection with one's keyholder.

 

For my wife and I it is simply amazing there is the fact you have given your self completely and it is like years of foreplay with no end in site and how proud I am of seeing the key around her lovely neck
Wish we had started years earlier lol

 

Since our Lori's is still being custom made - the lock [security screw] has not 'clicked shut' yet. That being said, we are no strangers to TND/OD/FLR. So, I will substitute 'chastity' with 'orgasm denial' - and thats a question people who learn some details of our relationship do ask.

In a single word, I would say: Euphoric.
The Euphoria is multi-faceted.

- In the 'hunger' sense:
I wouldn't really say that is true for me - I am not always 'hungry'.
I have moments where OD can take over my thoughts for hours at a time - and if that is what is meant by 'hungry', then I am in those moments.
Something I have noticed is that this is tied to the frequency my wife gives me permission to O. The more often she lets me, the more often I want to. Is that being more hungry?
Christmas day was the last time - in those 2 months, I am finding that my desire has diminished as I put my focus elsewhere. Is that being less hungry?

- In the 'extended foreplay' sense:
Decades ago TND/OD was part of our sex play - and so in that sense, it was EF. Well for me anyway - LOL.
My wife wondered what OD was like and so tried to stop just before going over the edge; "Oh, forget that! If I get that close, I've got to finish!".
To me, EF implies that an O. is the ultimate goal or expected end - and for us, that has morphed into something else. Our practice of FLR has the focus on her pleasure & mine if she wants that.

- In the 'owned' sense:
I have never felt 'owned'. I have felt powerless to some degree.
Ask me that again once the Lori's gets here.

 

It is different in the end than the beginning. If you are in a loving relationship and have taken the time to learn your place and how to please your keyholder, being locked is the most natural and connected feeling you could ever have with your partner (it brings new and profound meaning to the term "significant other"). If you were locked by a stranger it would be terrifying!

(Thank you Ms. Lucy for another interesting and thought provoking question.)

 

That is what I love about this place - the diversity & perspectives.

Yes.
That was something I took for granted - being locked (or denied) by a trusted partner in a symbiotic relationship. Sometimes I am not even aware when I make assumptions.

And yes again.
Having a complete unknown be in charge of the same situation would be entirely different!

 

To explain to someone who has never experienced the feeling of being totally controlled by someone is very difficult. You need to experience it to really appreciate the inner feeling of peace and contentment you get from giving yourself to someone.

Almost everyone has a job of some kind and when you know your boss appreciates the little things you do to make things better it gives you that feeling that what you do is important and being in chastity is no different. Sometimes all my Mistress has to do is touch me to show she cares about me and it makes it all worth while. It's definetly not all sex and Excitment like most of us first thought about when we first handed the keys to someone. The longer that I have been locked the sexual part of it has become less important.

 

About the physiologic side, the fact that "not cumming" is already a major part of my life. I feel really hungry and open to be bad.
I m sure that the fact to give the key to someonelse is a MAJOR act in human life.
Also, need to buy a cage, And want to do it for real, not by internet. As an humiliation I reject since a long time.

 

First, I've not been locked up by anyone else and have only self-locked.

That means any feelings I experience from the process are necessarily less intense than it must be for someone locked by a KH.

However, the feeling is still intense. And what it does is make me view others, and particularly women, in a different way. They are free and powerful, and I am not. They are in control and I am not. They are dominanat and I am not. It emphasises the difference between us. It makes me focus on who and what I am.

It is also, I have to say, intensely erotic. There is a bizarre juxtaposition at play: at the moment when you are least able to engage in sexual activity, your brain is at its most erotic.