Erection control Vs. Orgasm control?

What do u use to stop erections do u have any picks. I always get a massive erection in the morning please help thanks

 

For me it's Orgasm Control.

I can play with myself as often as I want

But...

Orgasms are for my Wife and no one else.

Iso.

 

What do u do to stop erections

 

I still get attempted erections, especially at night, but the cage won't allow anything but a bulge between the base ring and my groin. Does get intense if it continue

 

there are pics of my device in my albums, when you see them you will see why it stops erections!

 

I must ask. In nubs and micros, where the heck does your D go?

 

I'm now in my tenth month of being locked, but despite having had three ejaculations in that time I failed to achieve an orgasm on each occasion. One did come close, though...
Anyway, I can live without orgasms just fine, but I went through a phase of really missing being able to have a full erection. The feeling of being constantly constrained in a small cage eventually broke me down to the point where all I wanted was a simple, innocent erection; nothing else.
Now, I have accepted that orgasms and erections are not for me to enjoy. Even the swelling in my cage barely lasts a minute these days. The little sausage really has given up!

 

I hear you. The idea is to break us and have us submit to whatever the KH says and wants. Pretty damned effective I would say. Although my wife and I have been playing fem dom variants off and on for our entire marriage, she was still hesitant to start back up after more than a 3 year hiatus from sex of any kind. However, it took less than 2 months , maybe even a month, for her to see ~2 hours a day minimum of her work I started doing, total control of anything and any decision the wants, no arguments, and being worshiped, for her to say hell no, we ain't going back. I asked 2 nights ago if she was going to make chastity permanent. Her response "I already have"

 

This is your choice? Or your wife's? Sounds pretty rough if it's her enforcing this ...

 

I wear a cage. That stops the erections. Some people also use "points" (of varying sharpness) to cause pain when an erection attempts to form, which may cause the erection to go away, but I'd approach that option very carefully. Cage design is important, too; you don't want the erection pulling the ring away from your body, so make sure your fit is as close to perfect as possible.

 

I thought it was going to be so hard giving up 5 wankings a week behind her back, but it was actually fine. The nocturnal erection was hard for the first month or two, but then it’s no longer an issue for me. Even though my cage was tiny at the moment, I still get erection easily when I watch certain femdom porns, and I kind of enjoy the sensation of the little fella trying so hard to get bigger in the cage before finally giving up.

 

She's my ex, not my wife.
I deserve it.
Karma.

 

I have an HT3 Nub (on occasions HT4 or 5 Nub) -

No belt - 50% erect and balls pulled all the way to top of shaft - frustrating but you get some of the satisfaction of an erection and the cage pulls dick down due to weigh, which is nice.

Elastic belt with the press-studs as found on eBay - about 25% erect and dick bulges out behind cage and bends a bit. Also get very hard at base of dick under balls (perineum)

Homemade belt from thick webbing with adjustable clips and straps to make super tight - 10% erect and nowhere for it to go! Very hot as I know my keyholder has taken my erection away when we play like this - but I only wear for short time as don't want to risk any damage.

On the original question:

Keyholder taking your orgasms - Hot
Keyholder taking your erection also - Even Hotter

 

There's more to the story, and it sounds interesting ....

 

orgasms do absolutely nothing for me. I can take them or leave them. I crave the erection and the feeling of a rock hard cock in my hands, her hands and inside her.

 

I'm secured by a PA piercing so I can get like a 7/8 erection before I finally run out of room. Most chastised men say that's worse, cause it's better to have no erection at all rather than a partial one.

I don't agree though. Stifled erections don't really bother me, it just reminds me of my place and my submission to my dominant. And thats a good feeling.

Lack of orgasms sucks though. I was forcibly milked (no pleasure at ALL) this weekend and my last 2 orgasms were both induced ruins while caged. The lack of cage-free, full-erection joyful orgasms are the hardship for me. I haven't had one of those in months.

 

Hi I love your spiked device do u wear this 24/7 also any link where I can buy this thanks u

 

Thanks for the expalanation. I still had to think about it, look , and think some more.

 

It sounds fictitious at best, abusive at worst. There's a line between consensual power exchanges amongst consensual adults, and being broken by an ex because he "deserves" it. He can't even directly answer the simple question of "this is your choice?"

I guess here's hoping this is just some edgy consensual non-consensual play.

 

I chose orgasm control. This is a long post-sorry
I'm a year out from prostate cancer and surgery to remove my prostate. Prior to my few symptoms, (ED was the main one), my wife and I always had PIV sex, with her on top and controlling not only her orgasms, but mine as well. I can count on my hands how many times we didn't have either cowgirl or Amazon sex in 43 years together.
Once my PC was confirmed, I had one last ejaculation July 16, 2022. My prostate was removed a year ago today. Since then we have had to get more creative and our intimacy has changed I think for the better. I still haven't been able to achieve a raging hard on and because of that, we use many more toys. I masturbated and used a pump frequently from 5 weeks after surgery until probably February of this year.
I have been really curious about chastity for some time and until my surgery, never went more than a few days without an orgasm since I was a boy. I read a lot of books and websites about chastity and brought it up before surgery to my wife. She dismissed it. So this past February, I decided to try honor system chastity by myself to see if I could understand the benefits for not only me, but my wife that many talk about.
I stopped masturbating and looking at porn and refocused my attention on her. I have a service kink anyway and my wife started to notice a change in me. I'm more attentive, have more thought clarity, and I'm like George Costanza in the Seinfeld episode about being the "master of of my domain". I'm far more interested in pleasing her and I wait on her hand and foot and do every job in the house that she hates doing. (Which is cooking, cleaning, yardwork, most laundry, etc...).
But the thing that drives this burning desire for my wife is to now only masturbate and have an orgasm in front of her. I've never had more intense orgasms. Happens once maybe every 5 weeks since February. ( I've had 4, she can't believe I'm counting them. In fairness she's probably had 12-16 during the same time). We have Viagra, but we haven't used it, as this sex is way better than PIV. I don't want to go back to PIV, but if she does and wants me and not the strap-on, I'll do it.
I'm on honor system chastity, told her this (and part of me tells myself to be careful what I wish for as it relates to cages.) She seems to just accept it.
When we have been intimate, I don't want to orgasm because I love the edge and how it makes me feel. I don't understand it, but all of you are right about the benefits, for both of us. The intensity of how I feel without having an orgasm for weeks is truly mine blowing.
I love to worship her and crave touching her. She uses toys now and allows me to kneel before her and watch her. (Satisfyor Pro 2 - 5 stars)
I've told her I don't want be allowed to cum and she is slowly accepting that I want to be denied. I'm not allowed to touch myself until she cums, (which is really hard to do BTW).
She has discovered she likes to make me tell her about my fantasies about her and then ordering me rather sternly to cum for her.
My long story, I haven't been hard for well over a year, but the orgasms I've been allowed are really mind blowing. For us, orgasm control seems to be our new normal.

 

Always hard to know from a distance. But his story, thus far, is a lot more vanilla and believable than stuff I've personally seen, so I'll give him the benefit of the doubt for now.

 

My kh is controlling my orgasm and erections ,sometimes she tease me without cage sometimes with just to make me hard ,have had Zero orgasms /ejeculations now since mai

 

I miss erections more than orgasms.
They just felt sort of rampant and primal.

I've been locked so long that so I don't even get caged ones.
Just some puffiness.

I can't say I miss the caged erections (morning wood urgh).
But the uncaged ones I do.

 

I get nothing from ruins either except frustrated , or dribblings. I got my wife carte blanche for a whipping , for an hour, hit as hard as you want, marks as you wasn't. I think 5 days ago, in order to free up her inhibitions about hurting me . For incentive, I offered her a cigar afterwards if she followed through ( she loves smoking , but had to pretty much give it up after a serious health issue 2 years ago. She/ we still have the occasional cigar, which she loves, but only gets with my permission. She lacks the willpower due to an addictive personality . It's literally the only thing left where I am the Dom, so needless to say, I treasure that tiny bit of power. This is the first time I asked for anything but going down on her, so I don't abuse that power)

Why did I of that you ask? She has always been concerned about hurting me, even though she loves whipping me. The power rush. And I love to see her happy, and wanted her to finally free to do what she wanted. Well, her logic was " I can go easy on hi and get no cigar, or I can whip and cane him to my heart's content and get a cigar. Duh". Still have a few marks, but the reason I am saying all this is that multiple times, she remarked that I was dripping precum as I was getting beaten, As I was gagged and she couldn't put it where she usually does, she just wiped it on my leg. The punch line at the end was " Well, with all that dripping, that was your orgasm"

Swell. Be careful what you ask for. Instead of the being a one off wack away to your heart's content whipping, she said 'Now that I know I can whip and cane you as hard as I want with no real damage , I can do that a lot more often"

 

In our 40+ years together, there's never been any type of spankings or beatings even during play. My wife used to bite me earlier in our marriage, but not in about 15 years. She'd leave bite marks all over me. They hurt so good. I have asked her many times to bite me again. She said she's afraid of unleashing the "beast".
I think the same would happen if she used something as ubiquitous as a paint stirring stick on me. I think she'd like it more than she would care to admit to. I'd like to find out, but I don't think I could help her release her fear of hurting me.