Wife turned off by chastity cages

Huh. It is crazy, how she just changed within months.

I mean she said she clearly wants a strong man on her side, which is masculine, strong leader and that chastity makes you look whimpy.

Somehow it sounds crazy that she comes up with some thing like an FLR contract now.

I would be suspicious as hell now.

Wanted she to fool me and test me? Has it been planned for a long time to check out my honesty in chastity .
Dominant play?
Or did she just really think about being a hotwife again?

Or... Did you just be unattractove to your woman?
Some things made me crazy on your text: daddys belly, going to work on time, not being lazy, stop smoking, getting in good shape, holding rossters as pets.

I mean I read this to my wife and she just said:" OMG! Time for him to change."

 

seems to me that you have far more problems than chastity. Several things, she wants you to be in better shape,stop smoking and to go to work. These are core relationship issues that have nothing to do with your dick or anyone elses. These are things that real men do, yet you attribute everything to your dick. She seems to be trying desperately to run your life (go to work) yet you dismiss her efforts and attribute everything to sex. Good luck, look beyond your penis to what she is trying to accomplish. If you give her what she wants a ( man, not an irresponsible boy ) she may respond in a more favorable manner. Good luck

 

I don't monitor what's on Aliexpress, but you can get an A259 cage on ebay for about $12: https://www.ebay.com/itm/334079980687

 

I wear an open cage like that and believe me it's nearly impossible to be really clean without taking it off from time to time. The skin of your penis will roll up and wrinkle and create folds and crevices that will contain sweat, cum, and piss. You will smell, I don't buy anyone who says they can stay completely odor free without taking it off. There is either way to much room in the cage for their size or they are just used to the smell, or don't care about it.

 

In my case it works for two weeks. I tried this last locktober. First two weeks with a closed tube. Here the cleaning has been more difficult, but worked quite well with a toothbrush.

Of course more or less the steel and not the flesh.

Then I switched to a birdcage. Here it is really easy to stay clean.
The everyday shower and toothbrush make it possible. Belive it or not. The contact of brush, soap and skin help.

Of course it is a bit uncomfy, but it works out really good.

Not comparable with taking it off.

In the other habd you are right, my cocklett is a bit to small for the cage so I can get in between easily.
Since hygiene is an important issue for my wife and me we accept a not so good fitting cage.

 

Don’t quit. It’s completely possible to turn your life around. You are still young. Get fit. Lift heavy. Eat healthy. Quit porn and masturbation. Focus on self improvement. Focus on being a masculine man that takes care of his wife and family. Don’t let the bad days make you quit. Get into a routine and don’t compromise. You will be unstoppable in a year if you stick to it. Remember, your penis is only a small part of the equation.

 

Good on you. It's worth investing in yourself, and stopping smoking and exercising will have great ROI.

And you can definitely change; there are few levers more powerful than a cage on your cock.

 

Just do as she says, or what you know she needs or wants, without making too many (or any) suggestions yourself. Let her lead the game and it will become your lifestyle.

That's it really - it can be quite hard to start with to not take the lead yourself at times;
After a while, she'll grow into the space and environment you give her to grow into.

 

Oh yes we learn all day long. That is right.

I wish you the best to get your lazy, daddys ass off the couch and get a superdaddy and mega subbyhubby.

 

It is easy.
Show her you are worth it.

Get in shape for her, stop smoking ( who smokes btw. it even doesnt give you something, except COPD and lung cancer, alkohol makes you drunk, smokes are so useless and only cost money),

Get your lazy ass off the couch. Go to work.
Come home as a daddy and super husband. Proud of being able to work and bring money home.

Show her that you still like her by staying fit and loosing weight ( go to gym, stop eating junkfood, stop eating to many carbohydrates, stop drinking alkohol) and getting strong ( and yes! You can get strong as hell, even if you are older.)
Show her, what a male body looks like from its natural proportions without all those misbuildings due to human- inappropriate lifestyle.

Write a diary to mark your progress in quitting smoking, in loosing weight. Write your thoughts on the day. Document all the positive changes in HER behavioral against you and inside the family.
Make some photos before and after to motivate you to get the best subbyhubby in the world.
( there exist apps for it. I use one for a live without alcohol - my kryptonite)

Ask her if she needs something to drink. ( water, tea, coffee.) Let her feel sexy, show her how good she looks in her clothes and that she is megaadorable.

Ask her if she is satisfied sexually, or if you can give her oral, or if she wants your cock.
Tell her she looks so adorable and hot, that you have to please her right now.

And so on. You know her the best ( my wofe for example often says: No. But enjoys the circumstance, that I ask)

But at first! Get your ass off the couch.

Have your Vitamin D level checked.

 

Can you go minuscule cage or would that be a divorce ?

 

How are things going?

Any updates?


Iso.

 

Be sure to sincerely thank her, then. And show your thankfulness in ways that she appreciates.

 

I hope it goes hood for you, my wife will go hot and cold on it too. She is participating in locktober but still wants piv during, I just don’t get an orgasm from it. She has been denying me, I need to talk to her more about her wants. Your post reminds me of that. Find some middle ground. I haven’t had an o in 13 days and she has had 3.