To Those Who Wear a Cage

It's going to be way more difficult for me to avoid masturbation if there is no physical barrier. But the rules of the game state that she is in charge, so I'd try to give it a shot (no pun intended).

 

I'd masturbate.

 

And would you admit it, or try to hide it?

 

I need to be caged. I would find it difficult not to masturbate.

 

Me also

 

I think this happens naturally. I have been caged little shy of 7 years. In that time frame, my average release is about every 6 months or so, during these breaks I would be cage free from a week to a month. Nothing really changed in regards to my feelings or dedication to my KH, I could masterbate but I didn’t. Once both you settle into your new roles, the cage is not what stops you anymore.Let’s face it, if you wanted to masterbate now in a cage you could, If you do , well you miss out on the true joy that chasity brings between you and your KH. ( yes i know there are several extreme cages and situations out there) I generalize.I think after a while its not the cage that keeps you in line, you want the cage more than your KH, the cage is just the illusion of control that you accept. I would think the request to go cage free is more of a punishment vs end

 

Admit. She knows what I am.

 

What a difference a few years make. At first she enjoyed it but openly said if she thought I was cheating the cage or sneaking a wank she would’ve handed the keys over and quit. Recently she said she would probably keep me locked for a year or more if that happened.

She likes me locked now more than I. All that being said, if she said we were going cage free, but keeping the same rules, I would comply but would also mention to her that my resolve isn’t strong enough to go too long so there will be failure. I would agree but would have to let her know that the cage isn’t just a tool to keep me from touching it, it’s a tool to keep me from getting erect, from casual touches, and a form of bondage that keeps you in a constant state of unfettered frustration.

So I would agree, but the results would not be what she would like.

 

I'd do whatever my KH asked. Point of FLR is to follow. Of course, I'm submissive and see chastity as part of that.

 

But for those who have worn cages long time, I could see problem. Wearing cage can be addictive.

 

I wonder why she would want that?
Cage free doesn't work well usually from what I have read anyway.
For myself I would be hurt. My cage is a reminder of our closeness and intimacy. As people say here, like a wedding band but more.
If it hurts you to lose that, have you told her how you feel?

 

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.... the cage isn’t just a tool to keep me from touching it, it’s a tool to keep me from getting erect, from casual touches, and a form of bondage that keeps you in a constant state of unfettered frustration.
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Chastity started for me after years of genital bondage linked to orgasm denial, so the cage is a vital aspect of the kink for me, not everything, but vital. I remember a string on CM which discussed that orgasm denial and caging were two aspects of chastity, such that some put the emphasis on one or the other aspect, or both. For me it is definitely both.

 

I always used to confess

 

Since this started to curb my addiction to porn and masturbation I would probably fall back to old habits in a very short time.

 

Better to confess than have Her tell me

 

Hmm. I would try to comply. I managed a week after my recent health related pause. However, I value the cage as a symbol. Mind you, whilst free I had no Holder to keep me in line. It was about five days when She got back in contact before I was caged again. Point is, I stuck to the honour system in the meantime.

So, as long as my Holder stayed in touch and in charge, I would stay with the honour system. On my own I would fail within a week.

 

Hmm! I'm very weak and the cage ensures that I stay chaste for Mrs Chaste! The other thing is that Mrs Chaste doesn't like me being unlocked anyway. Some of that is due to a little bit of insecurity on her part! Her first husband cheated on her. Although I'm trusted by her she does say "it's nice to know you can't do anything if someone tried to lead you astray!" Love being locked up!

 

Interesting question. Masturbation has never been a problem for me. We met at 15 and She was more pleasure seeking than I was. I never got into the habit, watched Her a lot though. Even after we were married at 19 it didn't change. Almost 43 years later here we are, not much has changed in that department.

I believe that I have been tested in all aspects of chastity, and lately without it. After over 7 years there have been many changes in both of us. She has full confidence in me to remain totally Her's regardless of locked or not. It excites Her to see me locked and with a friend of Her's unlocked. I sold out to Her, I would rather remain this way it is more comfortable for me. I will always go with Her wishes.

 

You were 15 and weren't masturbaring?

 

I can cum in a cage if I want to. Just use the magic wand. So the cage doesn't prevent masturbation in my mind. What it does is it acts as a constant reminder of her authority. If I see a stimulating image or have a stimulating thought and I began to get aroused, I feel the tightness of the cage. It also acts as an erection preventer. If I lost that constant reminder and was free to get an erection when aroused, I would not last.

 

We worked really hard on weaning me off masturbation before getting really serious about me staying locked. The big problem for us is that the no erections rule is a big cornerstone of what we do. If I'm unlocked overnight, I will, at some point, awake with an erection. During the day is no longer a problem, but to us, an erection unlocked is too close to masturbation or sex.