Hopping on a soapbox for a moment here... After being a member of this site for roughly six months, I've read (probably too) many posts across all subject areas. It's been wonderfully educational and stimulating. I can only imagine what other useful nuggets of information I'll find as time goes on. It only took about a week before I realized how much camaraderie is evident throughout the membership base of CM. This has to be the nicest and most supportive kink site on the web, in My opinion! Truly, a diamond in the rough. That said, I've noticed a pattern of responses to certain thoughts/questions/experiences, particularly regarding submission. These responses usually fall into two categories: supportive or antagonistic. For example... "In time, you will learn to accept your role and things will get easier... Keep calm, please your Dom/me, and all will be well!" vs. "You can't possibly be submissive because you have x, y, and z thoughts... You should be ashamed of yourself because your very existence dilutes the value of us 'true' submissives." Isn't it safe to say, regardless of our commonalities and differences in D/s, that we are all humans and, as such, are inherently flawed and/or confused at times about this thing we call 'life'? We all start at the beginning of a journey, yes? If that's true... isn't it also a total waste of energy for all those involved if someone is belittled for baring their soul and sharing said flaws/confusion... or even just off the cuff thoughts about this lifestyle in general? I'm not saying genuine transgressions should go without recognition. All of us (Myself included) have done things we're not proud of, and perhaps wish we could take back. We all have thoughts that confuse us; I would guess that's why we share, in hopes for enlightenment! But if your sole purpose is to make yourself sound 'subbier than thou' in your response to a struggling submissive... don't you think you could find something better to do with your time? Constructive criticism is completely different than active belittlement. Perhaps this distinction is something we could all think about the next time we fill those reply boxes. I know I'll try My best to keep this in mind... and I hope you will, too. There's enough negativity in the world... there's no good reason to perpetuate it here.