New and First experience (waiting on cage to arrive)

Good luck on your chastity experience! If you or your wife are expecting the cage to help you "calm down some" then I think you're in for a big surprise.

 

I agree with the other response. If my experience is anything to go by you’ll be even more horny with your cock caged!

 

Well it sounds like your wife really dislikes sex, and is using you desire to be in chastity as a way around it. or she really enjoys you being tormented. If she dislikes sex , time to get rid of her . she can't change . On the other hand if she likes sex occasionally , you may be in luck. I remember a woman who pretended to like sex, but would find things her husband did wrong so she could sentence him to long periods of chastity ( no cage ,just no sex of any kind) . Things finally ended and he's happy now living with a male Dominant who has him caged .

 

That sounds like a good start to a great relationship. You are both going to get what you want sexually . Your wife can use your chastity to have you become her slave , doing house work, and constantly doing things you know will make her life more pleasant ... Good for you two..

 

what model of cage did you order ? The chinese ones soon flake the chrome off or rust , also most tiny padlocks can be opened with anything that turns the keyway, like the tip of a parring knife . To avoid chaffing you might rub vaseline around the ball ring and other parts that will rub as you move around . Good luck with your new life ... It's only the beginning of your happiness .

 

Your situation sounds very similar to mine. My wife enjoys sex but not nearly as often as me. She enjoys that she can say no and there is no pressure for anything else. We were loosing our closeness because every time we cuddled or had any intimacy I would be hard which made her feel pressured. She also hated me masturbating and she said it made me lousy in bed when we had sex. My advice is to be cautious with being horny to her all the time. That would likely become a turn off and make you seem needy to her, speaking from experience. I just deal with it and the sex actually comes more often and is way better than before the cage. Good luck!

 

I think the chastity will definitely be a fun ride. Make sure you make her aware that she totally controls the keys and you will back off if told to. Have fun but do not overwhelm her when you are locked. Hopefully a kiss now can be nothing more for her if that is all she wants.

 

Your loving doing the little things your wife tells you to do now ! You ain't seen nothing yet.. wait till you are in chastity for a month or so .
Now you can sneak away and J/O , wait till your perpetualy horny , oh yeah 24/7 . One little command ( or request that you do something around the house for her) and your cock will be straining against it's cage . You seem to be experiencing that already, but now ( shall we call it pre caged opposed to post caged ,lol ) it's up to you to be on the honor system. Post caged will really shock you into what you wished for . Oh, you'll love the shock of it all right . The mental thing is half the pleasure , knowing you are controlled by your wife who holds the key ..The fewer orgasms you have ,the better it gets . I'll be looking forward to hearing your reaction when your first caged .. remember to keep it greased with something so it doesn't chaff to bad. After a month or so you get kinda callouses where it rubs . A happy wife is a Happy life

 

Good luck with it

 

I just viewed the " watchful eye" ,and it is going to be among the most easilly hidden ones . It will protrude a lirttle because of the ring around your balls holding them from between your legs at times . Dont worry ,it has no obvious angles ,and if anything will look like your penis under your clothes . You will have to remove it often to wash, unlike the steels ones with bars with spaces in between. But that is a great start .
One curious thing , your wife like that you will not be masturbating once your caged. On the other hand , she says your way to horny all the time , but didn't like you j/o , the alternative would be you pestering her for sex. Regardless all that will come to an abrupt stop once your cage arrives .

 

Just be careful not to bite off more than you can chew. Doing all of the housework might feel natural when you have that deep submissive headspace, but will you be able to keep it up when you're feeling frustrated and she refuses to unlock you?

I'm happy for you that she's being receptive, though! Open-mindedness is an essential trait for a successful chastity dynamic.

 

You might also want to buy a gag to go along with the cage. That way if you do begin to pester her for sex, she will have a mechanism to not listen to you being needy.

 

This sounds very familiar. It is a funny thing, once I was locked, she wanted sex more often. It felt more comfortable for her since she was in control.

The challenge once you get your cage, is not to become a needy pest when you are aroused and think you need release. This is important if you want her to continue chastity long term. A little begging seems to be ok, but very little, and in the right moment.

Remember, it takes time to adjust to wearing a cage. Try a little at a time and work up to longer periods. It is likely that she will be concerned that it hurts you so don’t over do it at first.

Stand back and let her lead. Be supportive. Find a regular time to sit down over a glass of wine and talk. Let each other know what works and what doesn’t. Don’t criticize. If she takes to it, you will witness amazing growth.

Good luck, a strong woman with an open mind is very special!

 

Xileh offers great advice here - the cage will certainly focus your sexual desire in her, but she will also want to see changes in other behaviours as well. Since being locked up, my wife has welcomed other significant changes as well, in terms of anticipating her needs and being a far stronger source of emotional support for her. My wife was reticent at first about caging me, but having witnessed all of the other effects, is now a very enthusiastic advocate for chastity and struggles to understand why more women don’t insist on this.

 

Congratulations on starting your journey! Enjoy!