New and First experience (waiting on cage to arrive)

Small update. My wife and I talked some more about the cage. I ended up ordering a smaller one as well. Still waiting on the first one to arrive. My wife says she’s def ok with being my KH. I explained how I wanted her to control my cock completely. She liked the idea. I’m lucky I have such an open minded wife. Last night I gave her another massage. I stayed hard the whole time and actually got blue balls. She got turned on later when we were cuddling and it led to me going down on her then sex. She came and I came. After I came she actually pushed my head back down there and I cleaned up my cum. The best sex I’ve ever had and I haven’t even gotten my first cage.

 

Gotcha thanks.

 

My wife is concerned that the cage will be to visible under my pants. I want to be locked up as much as possible so I don’t want this to be a hang up. Any advice, suggestions? I’ve ordered 2 cheap cages to try out. 3.5” one which I think it going to be way to big and a 2.5”.

 

Small update. My cage has yet to come in. Supposed to be here some time tmrw. Last night after a long day my wife told me to give her another massage (for the 3rd consecutive night). After the massage I asked her if we play around some. She said “no, I’m tired”, my dick tingled a little at the denial. I know I’m not supposed to but I couldn’t help myself and I asked if she would like me to lick her. She took her panties off and said “lick away but don’t touch my pussy”. I took her panties off and began to lick her ass. As I’m down there she told me to jack myself off so I did. I think I only lasted about 30 seconds. Anyway, I’m hoping these little demands and this kind of new sternness from her is coming from our conversations about the chastity and FLR. I’m dying waiting on this cage to arrive. Also this week I have a full body massage scheduled. She has told me that I will be caged during the massage. I can’t wait. I feel like a kid at Christmas.

 

Yes. I feel like she still feels guilty for denying me. I’ve explained without trying to sounds to pushy or needy that I want her to tell me no, I don’t want her to ask me to do things, I want her to tell me. She’s def starting to see the benefits. I don’t want her to see the full effects until I’m caged bc I want her to know the cage will intensify everything. Maybe I should’ve waited until I was caged to start showing her the effects. Idk..

 

Another update. If it’s annoying how often I write on here just scroll on by but I like recording my experiences esp first time stuff. Had a long talk with the wife tonight. I wanted to see what her thoughts were and where she was at before tmrw. Bc tmrw is the big day, into the cage I go. We talked about several things, our relationship, sex life and she noted how helpful I’ve been lately around the house and even with the kids. One thing she brought up was how sexual and horny I am all the time. She asked why I felt like I had to get some or I had to j/o every night (she’s right, up until mid last week it was every night). I told her I wasn’t sure, that when my dick got hard I wanted to release.. So I asked her since tmrw starts day one of lock up if I could j/o (which usually means she puts a plug in me and stuffs some of her panties in my mouth) and she denied me. She said “no, you’re not allowed to”. Rock hard instantly. Lol. After that I asked since she would be in charge from now on how often she would let me out to j/o and she said “maybe twice a week”. That made me even harder. The rules as of right now are, when I get home I have to immediately shower and lock up. I will stay locked up every second I’m home. She is making me lock up for my massage on Thursday. That will be the first time I’m caged outside of our home. Sat we have a wedding to attend, I’m hoping to be caged the whole time we’re out of town. I’d love to be caged at work but my job is way to physical. Maybe one day but right now I don’t see how it can happen. I’m worried that the urge might take over me while I’m free at work. I think can be obedient. We will see.

 

Thanks. I wrote another update. It’s getting better and better so far.

 

That’s a great idea. That’s why I joined CM. Hoping to find good advice. Thanks.

 

Gotcha. When my wife and I talked about masturbating she said maybe twice a week. It’s not scheduled. She may or may not let me is what she said. I’m not caged yet. I’m at work. It should be in the mail box right now. My wife wants to be the one to put it on so I’m waiting for her as well. I will update tonight when I get home. Thanks for the reply.

 

I did get the first cage in. Took some trial and error but I got it on. The toughest part for me was keeping my dick from getting hard. Ice put a stop to the erection though. Kept it on for maybe 3 hours or so. It was more comfortable that I thought it would be. I used the biggest ring, I think I might need a size bigger but I loved it. Now, the wife part of the story isn’t very positive. It was really bad timing on my part since both of our kids are sick and she’s been home with them so she was tired and stressed, I prob should’ve left it alone but I was to excited. I asked if she wanted to help me put the cage on, she said no for me to put it on myself. I was fine with that. Once I got it on I put my briefs on and came into the room. She was occupied with our youngest so I didn’t mention it. I just wore it around to get the feel. After about 30 mins she asked to see it. She wasn’t very impressed lol. She said “ idk if I like that”. Her initial concern was that ppl would see it but even with briefs on its not that noticeable so that concern went away (there’s one positive). Her next concern was that it looked painful. I told her it wasn’t and that it was very comfortable. She asked “can’t I just control you without using the cage?” Of course she can but I wanted to use the cage. After a little while of talking she said she thought she could get used to it. She established some rules though. She doesn’t want me caged at work for now, she does however want me caged at home and if we go somewhere like out to dinner, grocery shopping, to the pool.. etc.. When she took the cage off later before bed I asked when she would let me j/o. That was a mistake, it started an argument, she said I’m going back to how I was (only thinking about sexy s what I want). Huge mistake on my part.. BUT, overall I think she’ll warm up to it. There are a few positives in there at least. Any advice on where I go from here? Shes pissed off. No way she tells me to lock up when I get home bc she knows that’s what I want.

 

Yeah. Well my hang up is she wasn’t very fond of the cage at first. She may still be on the fence. She did make some rules up but oh well. I think I may give it a rest and then bring the subject back up when it’s a better time.