My wife wants me locked and I'm not sure.

On the one hand, horny tend to plateau out after a few weeks and you enter a zen state - I've done 11 months.

On the other, a full belt sounds like it would have issues for long term wear, especially with regard to your back.

 

Wow your life sounds very interesting. I would definitely go for it , it seems the next logical step. Good luck

 

You need more than a month to acclimate and decide to be locked forever after. Based on your personal experience, I think you should be open to it, but I also think it's very difficult to get a good fit, and forever is a long time.

 

In your relationship it would appear to be the next natural progression! 24/7/365 in a full belt? As long as you are released for proper cleaning and a good general check then it's possible I would imagine. As for the frustration side of Chastity, personally I think it's one the best things about it! Strange really, how much fun you can have in your sex life without orgasms! That's without orgasms for you! Your Keyholders should always have as many as they want of course!

 

Always do as a lady tells you! Good luck on your journey.

 

I have my doubts, you could never but never go back.
Maybe a compromise talk a about it.
A sub has always the final decision.
Please take care what you wish and others want you to wish.
Now you can make up your mind.
Love xxx

 

I'm opposite of the other commentators. I was not able to do the lock up thing. My wife really wanted/wants to do it but in our initial experiments after a significant amount of discussion she really was just a lock it and forget girl. She didn't comply with the behaviors we had agreed on and unlike some on this site who accepted it and got docile/accepting I got angry/enraged. I wasn't crabby, I was actually thinking about ways to get back at her and thoughts even entered my mind to hurt her. Obviously this isn't how a loving relationship is supposed to work and after an eye opening discussion ( for her) we discontinued the game. She occasionally mentions starting again but in my mind her previous behavior in the game leads me to think she will repeat the pattern. I am truly afraid that in a moment of weakness / frustration, I would lash out and seriously either physically or emotionally hurt her. I am not saying I am in any way representative of other members on this site, only relaying results of my limited foray into this type of play.

 

Dude I’m saying this in the nicest way possible, but I think you need some treatment. You’ve mentioned quite a few times that you’ve had the urge to lash out or physically hurt your partner.

I am not judging your past trauma, or whatever military stuff that keeps you in this flight or flight mode. I just hope you get the help you need before you ever act out on accident.

You’re reaction isn’t typical from what I’ve read and experienced in about a decade. Frustration, depression, and feelings of neglect are usually as far as it goes. Urges to hurt or lash out are not something I’ve ever heard of except from you. So @Houseboy42 don’t be frightened

 

in the end only you can answer this.

Do you really want to commit to this? Because if you don't it won't work. And you could put a strain on your whole relationship. It has to be mutual consent.

good luck

 

Welcome. For me I find that after a few day of being locked up, all that i want to please my Mistress.i start touching and cuddling her more which she loves. And I start caring less about my desires.

 

I’d seriously look at Lori’s new PA alternative system. A belt is a lot to accept if chastity isn’t YOUR fetish too. I’ve tried one and couldn’t stand having the silicone covered cable in my butt crack all the time.

Piercings aren’t that big of a deal (to me anyways) and seriously add to security. It’s nice not having a ball ring on a tube device but without the ball ring, erections can happen and it’s not a fun erection.

 

I can't in all honesty offer you any informed advice as I don't know you or either of the Ladies.
Personally I'd go for it but I'm a device wearing veteran as are most of he others that suggest the same as I do.

Maybe you might be more willing to try it if you were to negotiate more favourable terms, on the basis of it is a lifestyle experience you have not yet had but after a trial period of .... whatever.. you want them both to agree that if you don't care for it you can take it off and leave it off permanently or just use it for occasional play type scenes.

 

IMHO, you should say yes. It's a logical step and progression in your service, and will definitely enhance your submission to your ladies. Ms Z is totally within her rights to control and cease your masturbating, which I'm sure you will admit is both disrespectful to her authority and interferes with and limits your submission.

 

. This is a great attitude. To think of masterbating as being disrespectful is so right. You have to realise that you don't have a right to cum. In our earlier days the right for me to come was always earned. Not masterbating will nearly always improve your attention and attitude.

 

Your case seems quite unique. In some ways you are the perfect candidate for full time chastity. You already live a life of servitude and have for some time. Ceding control of you cock to your Mistresses is logical. A submissive really shouldn't decide when or even if, he should be allowed sexual pleasure. There would be frustration initially with being in a device, but it did plateau for me in my longer periods of containment. On the other hand, going full time without a proper period to adjust physically to your device could be difficult. If your Mistresses are willingly to give you that adjustment period it would be more likely to succeed. But the ultimate decision seems tied more to how you want to live this phase of your life. Advice from others can only do so much, it is up to you to visualize if a chaste future is what you desire. Good luck and thanks for sharing with us.

 

If you haven't already been in a heavily sub position for twenty years I'd say nooooooooo. But the sexual frustration is only part of it. For me the hardest part is accepting that you have NO control in your own body or sexual release anymore. If you can submit to THAT then you will probably enjoy it. Getting your partner's rocks off while you are helplessly denied got a long time is amazingly hot.

There would obviously be a learning phase, where you will be cranky and moody, but you just have to push past that with mutual understanding from the women (also, take chamomile every night before bed, seriously). There would be days you hate it and everything and just want to blow your load, but as a whole just think why SO MANY men continue to lock their dicks back up...

 

She migt be fed up of your messing in the house.

 

Would you do that your self, if your out of the cage, or ......

 

House boy, every one of U/us has a relationship that fits into our own little world, It seems you have and serve two Ladies. You also have commutation about your future and what they expect all that to me sounds great. My Mistress/Wife from the first day W/we met in person told me long term Chastity would be in our future if I collar you and handed me a cb2000 that was twenty years ago. A year later W/we had the collaring at a local BDSM club in the coming weeks I sold my house had a major garage sale and moved into Mistresses house as Her slave beginning A life of total servitude or as Mistress likes to tell people Her Housemaid/cook/and since the dressing started girl Friday. Six months after that W/we Married it was Lifestyle A leather Daddy married Us on my knees I took Her Lastname and became Her slave. No one can tell you to go for it or not! I am impressed She gave you A out. yes will there be changes, will it be frustration yes, IMHO There is a different mindset in long term chastity compared to playing around once in a while? So you have to decide can I do this, Do I want this type of change in my life, How will it change things between the three of U/us. I give you thumbs up It sounds like you serve with pride and honor, Instead of saying blindly oh yes Ma'am lock me up. your giving it a lot of thought Thank you for the post and I wish the three of you The Best.

 

Take your time my friend you have a big decision to make

 

A month to get accustomed to the belt sounds very short.

That said, it is my firm believe that all men should be locked by women (and maybe unlocked for a brief moment if the keyholder decides one has earned some pleasure).

You should come up with a training schedule for getting accustomed to the belt. From personal experience, the only belts that I can wear for extended periods of time are metal cages with bars parallel to the penis. I personally would suggest going for such a device. There is "the curve" if you are well hung, but also a few smaller ones (which I prefer.

As with the training schedule, you should probably start with daytime wear, then add nights occasionally and after a while ask your Mistresses to pick a time on their discretion between 3 days and a week to keep you locked. That way you will also get used to the feeling of helplessness.

Once you reach one week, try to double it up each time, till you can do 1 month. (If you can't work it out, reset to 1 week...)

Once you can do the month I would suggest to ask for a 3 month trial and then you are ready for eternity (or how ever long your two keyholders decide).

That's what I would suggest, no guarantees.