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    This is my top list of things that I most like to do

    1. Suck a nice cock
    2. Keep my boyfriend orgasm free
    3. Have my ass, pussy and feet workshiped
    4. Being fuck
    5. Tease and denial
    6. Lick pussy
    7. CBT
    8. Humilliate him
    9. Punish him
    10. Been humilliate and punish by a woman.

    So, as you can see I really love to show my superiority to my boyfriend, but at the same time, it was a shame that other things that I love to do, mostly the ones that involve a cock, were more infrequent due to his chastity.

    Two years ago our sex life was based on his cock, although he was in chastity his cock was getting a lot of attention and he seemed to be commanding, like I have heard here "Topping from the bottom". A little more than a year ago that change, I stoped him once I realize this and things are going much better now. That made a lot more difficult for me to be without doing things that I love to do because of his chastity. Four months ago I was watching some porn and find a nice video, one girl taking a big hard cock. My boyfriend caught me masturbating to it and ask me if it turns me on and I asnwered "That cock turns me on, it's just perfect!" and he leave alone to continue. The next day he told me that if I really want to be with a cock like that I only have to go out and search for it, that he would be happy if I'm happy, that he knew how much I missed sex and have a cock to play with. I haven't cuckold him yet but it is in my plans now and I am a litte bit nervous about it.

    So, I was wonderig, what do your KH/Mistress/Wife's do to deal with her desire? I mean, that a man be chaste doesn't mean that his partner have to as well, am I right? Because if you are on a truely FLR, she doesn't have to settle for being fuck with a strap on or have to give pleasure to get hers fucking his chastity boy. It's just my opinion and I learned that a few months ago.
     
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    I totally agree
     
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    My Queen started out with large dildos and toys and then ended up cuckolding me with her ex-boyfriend. Nine inches versus less than four inches. 25 minutes versus 10 seconds. A man versus a lil girl in diapers and chastity. Life is too short for you to be sexually frustrated and only fantasizing about a big cock...You are in charge and it is your pussy. Go and get it filled like you need.
     
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    Well this list reads like you will be in need of sex ;)

    Use a Womanizer / Hitachi Magic Wand for stop the feeling. Let him watch or help you'r orgasms is on the way.

    Use a Strap with him. He wears the strap and can fuck you.

    The Rest of the List 1,3,4,6,10 could be found over the normal sites at the web. Mean fetlife and so on.
     
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    My KH struggled a LOT with this. For her anyway, it was a matter of separating our having PIV sex from my orgasm. It’s taken a long time, but once she lengthened my lockup periods it became easier for her to demand sex but withhold my orgasms. Now, when she wants sex, she gets sex. She simply doesn’t allow me to cum - something she has a lot of fun with. I know not orgasming is a difficult thing for a lot of guys, but I’ve never really had an issue controlling myself under normal circumstances. Obviously after weeks of denial it’s harder, but I can almost always tell the moment I’m freed and allowed to grow naturally if I’m going to have difficulty controlling myself. On those occasions we either adjust positions, or if absolutely necessary, some delay cream more than does the job. But more often the problem on my end is that if I have to hold myself off long enough I eventually lose the erection. But she enjoys herself either way, and she never tires of coming back down to earth after orgasm number whatever and telling me we’re done, and cramming me back in the cage.

    We’ve been experimenting with sheathes for those times when I’m either feeling sensitive, or she’s feeling mean. Haven’t had much luck yet. Hard to find one I fit in that is thick enough to deny sensation yet is still comfortable for her.

    Long story short, cuckold if you guys want to cuckold, but there’s no reason (other than if he cums super fast and can’t control it) that you need to give up sex to keep him from orgasming.
     
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    chastity does not need to mean no sex for you. what it does mean is you know he will not have sex with anyone else. chastity does mean power. yours over him. if you truly do have a flr he will obey and service you when, where and how you want it. if his chastity is about what he wants and you do without then give him the key back . it is not doing you any good. when you are ready to make your lifestyle about training him to preform on command and you never do without, then demand the key back. if he wants to be locked up then being caged is the reward for a job well done. pleasuring you is his duty first and foremost. if you are doing without then he is topping from the bottom and you are letting him.
    to me cuckolding would be admitting i failed in my flr. i failed to properly train my puck to fulfill all my needs. remember " happy wife happy life " is all the reward he needs.
     
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    On the same note if the wife is completely in charge and decides she desires another man to fulfil her needs sexually then she should have the right to do so. As a submissive you love her and accept this is what she wants and this is what she needs. I am completely unable to safisfy my wife with my wee wee and she can not have a clitoral orgasm so that leaves us with essentially two options. I either fuck her with dildos the rest of her life or she fucks a real man. As the OP said does she have to settle being fucked by a strap on? Toys have brought my wife great pleasure but it is simply not being fucked by a man. A man fucking her makes her feel like a normal woman sexually.
     
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    (PSA Though there's nothing wrong with it, cuckolding is not an inevitable result of an FLR.)
     
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    cuckolding is wrought with all kinds of traps and pitfalls, enough to make the bravest leary. i have known many a couple go down this road but few survive it.
     
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    Im not saying you should not seek out other guys if want to and its ok with your bf (reality being much more relevant than fantasy) different folks will have different views on that but its your relationship and therfore you understand the dynamic of it best.

    I would suggest that he that can or he can learn to control/containhimeslef sufficiently that you can both enjoy unlocked lovemaking involving any activities you choose and all without him losing anything more than some pre-cum.

    IMHO It is beneficial too, very bonding and I do mean very....

    it lessens his need to cum without diminishing either his desire for you or his desire to cum. thus no lessing of your control and no downtime caused by the Drop.

    It has the added benefit of further encouraging his willingness to be controlled and places the emphasis on your pleasure and further asserts your control of the situation and throughout the relationship generally.

    Much less or more likely NO increased risk of contracting STIs. that a 3rd party could potentially, albeit, unwittingly bring.

    Often one's partners especially if cohabiting are on call 24/7 and if you maintain denial he will not always be ready but both willing and appreciative too.
     
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    Well, thank you for share your thoughts!

    This is so kind! Wise words, but to be clear, I am not sexually frustrated, my boyfriend does a good job worksiping my pussy and ass and he is awesome using his cock. That being said, thing is I am too young to just having one cock for the rest of my life, because I see him as the man of my life but I only have known three cocks in my life and I always wanted to have many, and I haven't been with a man endowed enough to not be able to deepthroated it or bigger than 7 and a half inches, and I want to known, live, experience that feelings and that desire is spinning in my head :confused:

    He is like you, he is young as me so he can stand as much as I want. Before we started chastity and FLR I told him that I wanted to be with more men to enjoy but that he will be the one I always will love and I'll never be tired of him or his cock. So we were to many swingger bars but never match a couple we felt nice with, sometimes he were attracted by a woman but I didn't wanted to be with his man and were times where I'd loved to be with someone but he just didn't wanted to be with his girlfriend so we didn't go further. Toys are good for a while but it will never be the same to feel a real cock to please or to be fucked.

    I have a question for you @Thatguyontheinternet@Thatguyontheinternet What does your wife do when you did something wrong and she needs to punish you but at the same time wants to be fucked? either let you fuck her to calm her needs knowing you didn't deserve it or to denial you as a punishment and at the same time denial herself? I am just curious, sorry if I'm too annoying :(

    I understand that and thrust me when I say he pleases me properly but he never be able to give another penis to taste, smell, play, suck.... Maybe the problem is that I know him too earlier as I haven't lived enough before this relationship, that I think will be my last because we are soulmates. Good thing is he supports me and love me the way I am and he is more than happy to let me do something he knows brings me that happines, I think that is the reason he mentioned cuckolding in the first place.

    Cuckoling presented it self as an answer of how I would get what I want and he eventually would have to accept it if it was my decision, he knows me and knew my thoughts about it long before we had what we have now. Now, you said something that is in my head frequently and it is about the STI's since I don't like condoms :(
     
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    My wife is like you and hates condoms. She also enjoys the feel of a man pumping cum into her pussy and we both love me performing cleanup duties when she would return home from her lover. She avoided the STI issue by deciding to never fuck a stranger. Her lover was her ex-boyfriend who she knew and trusted and it was very easy for her to fuck him bareback.

    If you find someone that you want to fuck that is a stranger and you insist on being unprotected then I would consider asking him for proof of a STI test. In the cuckolding lifestyle there are many men in the community referred to as bulls that are just waiting around to get contacted by a couple that needs another cock in their life. A lot of them have their tests up to date as majority of the time the excitement of bareback sex is to hard for the couple to resist.

    Of course you can start out slow. Maybe a few handjobs or blowjobs before you commit to sexual intercourse with another man. From the sound of it you clearly know what you want and I look forward to following your adventures.
     
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    as a ma'at , our religion and community standards are that a ma'at can only have intercourse with there puck. so we tend to view cuckolding as a misguided practice. on the other hand since you stated you would before he committed to you he accepted it as part of his lifestyle and relationship.
    looking for the well endowed 8 or more inches may turn out more difficult than you think. less than 1 % of all men are over 8 inches and that is just length. girth is another issue( i give more importance to girth over length). like all penises girth is spread very much in the same pattern as length. hence 3 and 4 inches around is more common than 5 or 6 inches around and you guessed it, over 7 inches round is less than 1 % of all males so the 8 by 7 or more is less than 1/10 of 1% of the men. it works out for males between 20 and 50 there are about 55000 males that fit the bill and 60 million women or 1 per 69 square miles in the usa.
    to make it clear i have never met one but in my travels i have met a few ladies who have. the over riding consensus is the novelty size is all they had going for them. good luck in your endeavors but i suspect that like the general population the good ones are taken off the market real fast.
     
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    If your in a forever together mindset why? It could end like our swinging. With some avoidable STD.
    Yea it was fun but came with a price.
    The grass is always greener till you get there
     
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    I don't like to get cum inside me, I prefer to swallow it or feel it on my skin and since I make him recicle his cum when release came, I get nothing for me. Fuck an ex-bf is a no for me, I ended up with them for some reason and I don't have any plans on go over them again.

    That's kind of true, you see, some countries have a penis lenght rate smaller than others. For instance, asian people have the smaller rate of all and african ones have the biggers cocks on earth, followed by south american men.... and I live there :) I have never seen a penis smaller than 6 1/2 or 7 inches and I've never been with a black man so I think I live on a privilege country.

    Don't misunderstand my words. I want to be with differents dicks because every one has his taste, smell, shape and look and I really love them. I want to find big ones, of course, but that is not the main purpose of this. And yes, I know it has his risks but that is because if doing well pays off really well ;)

    And about STI's there are the same risks of doing it outside this lifestyle, like go out to party and meet a guy and end up fucking, but I don't want that, I want to know the guys first and when I would be sure then go further.

    I already am talking with two men, one I met at the gym and the other one on a fetish club, we'll see what happen, for now I am keeping my boy teased but he failed in not coming and cum 10 days ago so he is now punished :mad:
     
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    Hey Maria
    You sound like a woman who knows what she wants. Good for you! I have been cuckolding jack for over 10 years now and can't see that ever changing, but it has to be something you both totally commit to. I can't really describe the mindsets that cuckolding introduces, but it is no small change in your lives should you go down that path. And when things are happy and sexy all is good, when you fall out (and you will sometimes), the cuckolding cannot be used as a weapon against each other. As others have said, that can lead to discord. And NEVER underestimate the over excitement of a submissive male at the thought of cuckolding! Real is so many different levels of emotional chaos than you can imagine. BOTH of you need to be totally on task when considering this change in your lives. All that said, in a FLR, you are in charge and your needs must be met. Think wisely, enjoy deliciously:)
     
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    Thank you Mandy, you have said some good advises. I have thought since I was younger that monogamy isn't for me and my boyfriend knew this long before we decided to be together on a serious relationship. He knew that at some point I would be needing other people physically but my heart and soul are entirely his. Been in a FLR just make it more exciting and interesting for both, but there are some concerns that I am still trying to figure it out such as find the ones that might be a good option to fuck with or how to deal with STI's, those are the bigger things that stop me to do it now :( Although I already have been flirking with two guys I ain't decided yet. Hope KH and Mistress like you with experience could help me ;)

    Oh, almost forget it, I really Love your picture, if you allow me, perfect shape and a nice body :D
     
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    Aww thank you x
     
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    Tbh, when I first started cuckolding jack, I was quite reckless. Found the key to the candy jar I suppose. Looking back, I was very lucky not to have anything really negative happen, the younger me did not make good choices. That said, I did have a really good time and jack was and is amazing. I do miss the variety now I'm with my regular bf, but we work through that ok;).
    Any questions, just give me a shout.
     
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