Maybe Something Different

Incredibly, we've kept up with our routine. I let her know that if she was interested in keeping my mood a certain way, she'd have to limit full releases a bit more. I'm trying to give her more of an understanding about how I tick and how the build up changes my demeanor toward her. It's been getting through. I got off on Tuesday, the 8th, and then it wasn't until tonight, the 13th, that I got another orgasm. She let semen out in between, but those were ruined and one came from a little prostate milking (just a tiny puddle). Also, there were a couple of days of no cumming at all.

Rarely does a day go by that we aren't in some way intimate. She is getting more and more into me too. The other day she was playing around with it, stopping and starting, and I was really up and throbbing. She sat there staring at it while gripping the bottom of the shaft in her hand. Then she just pounced on it, sucking intensely, swirling her tongue around my penis, and moaning. I've always want to get off from oral sex, but I've rarely been able to. She knows that. So she was loving the fact of how much of a tease that was and also the act itself.

I was half-jokingly telling her that I wanted to get a piercing for our next chastity device. She pretty much ignored those texts and in person remarks. Then she told me, "You get off on that idea, but if I said 'Do it!' you'd be terrified." She's probably right, and that sounds to me like she isn't completely opposed to the idea. I've brought it up before, and though she says she doesn't want it, she gets really horny after it's mentioned. It might just be that she is turned on by the fact that I get turned on by the thought of doing that for her.

 

It's been a while since my last entry. Things were really bland for a few months. We really didn't spend much time with each other sexually. One day my wife came into our room and started talking about it. She suggested we start using the "toy" again (her word for the chastity cage). Funny enough, I wasn't into it at all at the moment, so it just dropped. About a month later, we went on vacation to visit family. It's tough to find time for each other during this. She started wearing things that she knows I really like. They were tasteful enough around family, but, when we were alone for a bit, she could lean over this or that way and really give me a view. She did this for a few days until finally, she pulled me into a bathroom one afternoon when everyone was out of the house. She didn't want anything from me in return, she just wanted to see me explode everywhere. It was so intensely satisfying, and I felt so into her once again.

We left to see her family in another part of the state, but I had to return home to my parents' house early. With the memory of that brief bathroom blowout fresh in mind, I resolved to do something I'd never tried before: abstaining from ejaculating for a week. While we were apart physically, we had some really good conversations. She opened up to me about somethings in a way she never had before. Like, for instance, that during some of the more explicit parts of our texting conversation, she masturbated. We also talked about the fact that when our sex life is most healthy, she is the one in control of things. It's not just because of the obvious build up and how this affects my mindset, but it's also because I so enjoy the kind of attention she gives me when I am submitting to her. But we also discussed how things happen that interrupt our dynamic, and, though we still are best friends and are happy with our life, sex is something really important too.

The result was we both really tried to lay out a plan to keep ourselves going with this dynamic. It's not like we are expecting it to be permanent, but we just want to see if this will help keep the spark. One big change is that we came up with a release schedule for me. A "trouble" in the past is how often she would make me climax and so deflate those feelings of being enamored with her. Like I told her, I could ask her to stop, but me requesting the denial in the moment is not in keeping with my desire to submit to her control. Also, let's be realistic, I probably wouldn't ask her to stop very often. The schedule is a big change for me; Monday was the last time I had full orgasms (she wanted me to fully orgasm multiple times that day). Since then I got ruined orgasms on Thursday, which she did twice and both were perfectly frustrating as hell. Tomorrow I get another full release. We are going to be doing one orgasm a week soon, and then she will revise the schedule as she wants. Meanwhile, I'm making her orgasm almost everyday. She discovered how much she likes me inside of her while she masturbates, and I love it too. Also, she gets "rough" sex from me (one of her favorite sexual activities) whenever she wants. She had to take a day off though after the last one of those.

We also committed to scheduling the non-sexual things more during the week, so we'd always have some time for being alone with each other. She's made a list of things that we are both working on in terms of behavior changes. I am supposed to help remind her, but I will get some kind of consequence from her if I slip up on some things. She's been into having me wear the chastity thing as often as possible too. She actually told me to order a new one to start off our next chapter. She said, "I love how only I can pleasure your penis. I love controlling it." We just put on the new one today before she went out to have lunch with some friends.

I feel really lucky. I love how happy she seems feeling desired by me so much again.

 

As I posted somewhere else on here, the edging and prolonged wait for a release really built up in an uncomfortable way. Fortunately, she milked me a little ahead of my scheduled release day. This was mainly just prostatic fluid with a little sperm, but there was a lot. Release day was no less amazing. She decides how many times I get off on that day. We had a long love making session that began with her edging me with oral sex, me doing the same to her, and then lots of piv that ended with her slowly stroking me to a huge climax. She of course came (twice). Then, later at night, though she was satisfied, she got me off again.

Yesterday, I wore the new cage for a longer period of time than i have previously. She took it off before bed and just touched me a little with nothing happening for either of us. This morning was a nice surprise though. After cuddling for about half an hour, she finally reached down to start playing with me. Then I did the same for her. Halfway through she pulled me on top of her for sex. Her eyes were rolling back in her head, and she contracted so hard against me when she came. When I lied back down next to her, she said she wanted me to come in her or on her so badly but refrained since we are on a schedule. I think I made a little pathetic moan, and she reached down and began to furiously stroke me. I was so certain she was about to finish things, then, to my utter surprise, she stopped at the edge and just rubbed my balls while making out for a few more seconds.

We talked at lunch. She told me that one huge incentive for her doing this is that I said she wouldn't be able to resist making me come. She wants to prove me wrong. However, she also admits that she is loving the current dynamic. I was a little scared and excited with what she said after that last milking. "You aren't even waiting that long yet." I really don't want to start waiting longer, and I don't think she actually wants me waiting longer either. But she loves to scare me with hints that she might make me wait longer in the near future.

 

Well, the ruining happened in the middle of the week, and she wanted to do it twice. Thursday was surprisingly difficult for me. She barely touched me that night after unlocking, but she was able to enjoy her own orgasm pretty intensely. Not being touched very much was harder for me to deal with than edging.

Earlier today, she started making up for it. Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on your point of view), I started ejaculating in the middle of the teasing. I wasn't supposed to do so until tomorrow. She immediately removed her hand, which was something I didn't expect her to do. In the past, she'd have kept going at it, regardless of our stated intention to wait longer. Tomorrow is supposed to be the day of real release for the week, but she might change it given the accident. I doubt she will postpone it. I'm pretty sure she's going to want me ejaculating all over her after a long intense session of piv.

Something interesting, I've never liked piv much in the past, but waiting longer between climaxes is making me enjoy piv so much more. I feel a greater need to see that my penis has satisfied her. I remember times I tried to go down on her instead of sex, and she'd be pulling me back up so we could continue with intercourse. Now, though I still love giving her oral, I'm also loving the feel of intercourse.

 

It was just what I suspected. She had been touching me and saying it would be a warm up for later when she starts pulling me on top of her and then yanks off her shorts. After a while she goes, "I want you to come on my stomach." I was about to do that when we got interrupted. We finished things later that night, but it was kind of anti-climactic compared to what had started earlier that day.

Things will slow down for us a bit now. She thinks she has a slight tear, and is waiting for the soreness to go away. Before it was just the "good kind of sore." But I guess this kind now isn't. She's changed our schedule a bit. She thinks it would be more fun if she ruined me twice during the week and still gave me one full release as opposed to just one ruin day and then one full release. I'm not complaining.

 

Well, so much for the idea that we were slowing down. In spite of whatever was wrong down there, she was obviously wanting me back on top of her tonight. I got her off once with my hand, but that wasn't enough. I love feeling her come on me while I'm inside her. She came twice from sex, and then I got close. I pulled out ready to come, but she refused to stroke me the rest of the way. I was glad about that. I've been calming down with bourbon. I'm hoping she isn't overly sore tomorrow.

 

That's really great to hear that you guys have revived your sex life. When we were not doing much with each other for a month, I really missed it, and my wife definitely missed it. There's something about sexual intimacy that transforms all the other aspects of shared life.

I've heard about the way men can have a big change after orgasm. If I'm really pent up, I know the orgasm changes my mood. I don't lose energy, but the drive isn't so extreme after the release. I think I have a shorter refractory period compared to some. For most of my life, whether I was masturbating or with a partner, I'd get off 2-3 times daily. When I wasn't with a partner, I'd often times just do it as quickly as possible to keep my mind clearer for other things. When we started playing with chastity our first year of marriage, I felt it was a huge struggle only to do it once a day. Now that I've aged, it's easier to wait a few days in between. I still don't get anything like the crash that some people have described following a release.

She is enjoying the behavior change. The biggest change is how much more attracted to her I am. That she has that level of control is what makes me get so into her. Then the build up just intensifies the feeling. We are in a healthy cycle where our mutual attentiveness to each other feeds itself.

How do you stand the level of build up you must have? I always think it sounds hot, but in reality, I think I'd go crazy. If you can take it, which I'm sure your wife sees you can, then I bet it really is awesome.

 

When we've watched porn together before, it has done some ok things for us, but definitely it can dampen one's drive toward his partner if viewed alone too often.

Well I guess you get to wake up with some frustrating espresso. We usually have time at night, since the kids are in bed by then.

 

I think I'm going to be proved right about her inability to make me wait very long. Though we have a schedule, this is what the week has looked like. Saturday, Sunday, Wednesday, were all full releases, and Tuesday was a ruining. I'm not complaining, but, like I told her, she wouldn't be able to resist. It's ok. I'm really at crunch time for tossing together a few things and needing to do a ton of reading, so she might be taking off the edge so I've got full concentration to devote to those matters.

 

We'll see what happens. I brought up the Locktober ads I've been getting in the email a while back. So today as she was on her way to do something, I sent her the text "Happy Locktober." She laughed, and then said "Maybe we should make it that month." I wonder if she'll say anything more about it later.

 

We are kind of doing a longer stint now. I basically had to ask for it. I don't like to ask for that; it feels like I'm trying to control her being in control. I'm hoping she'll see something she likes about the longer wait. I really doubt it though. As other people on here have observed, she's really into me climaxing. I'm going to try my best to make her see the benefits.

 

Thanks for the tips and encouraging words. Your wife does sound like mine in terms of loving her husbands orgasm.

She started giving me ruined orgasms just this year. She was surprised at how much she liked it. I'm hoping those are still possible even if we are waiting longer. We also have had some success at prostate milking. She doesn't like that as much, but she said it's because she still didn't feel comfortable with it. The glass wand we have works pretty well, but it's not something she's done a lot. She did say she'd do the milkings especially after longer love making sessions involving edges where I've not gotten off.

This morning before work was really good for me. I like how much more easily I notice her and how more thrilling small things are with her.

 

This Friday and Saturday were wonderful nights. Saturday she was intending only to do something briefly in the bedroom, but she got really wound up while teasing me. She's gotten so good at knowing when I'm close and when to pull back. I thought for sure I was going to lose it once, but still, she'd timed it perfectly. I was left twitching and dripping precum. This set her off, and we started to make out intensely while getting her clothes off. I love the feel of her body after waiting for several days, but after the edging, I was much more forceful (something she wants). I alternated between sucking on her nipples while playing with her clitoris or flicking her clitoris with my tongue while playing with her nipples, one of her favorite ways to climax. She was in a mood where she couldn't get off except from sex, so it was a good exercise in self-control and concentration for me: giving her orgasms, feeling the spasmodic contractions around me, and all while holding my own orgasm back. By the end, I'd lost the desire to hold it back. So I started pushing toward my own. I was surprised as she started gently pushing me up with her hands. I stopped and she just goes, "No, I don't want you to get off yet." She said something about how I had thought four days wait wasn't going to be long enough, and so she was going to make me go longer. I don't know if she was legitimately wanting me to wait longer or just doing what she thought I wanted her to do. At any rate, I stopped.

Last night was supposed to be just a milking. We have a curved glass wand with two different knob sizes on its ends that she uses. She started at my prostate until that relaxed, and I went limp. Then she went further back and began to really pull things out. There was a decent puddle starting to form, and it started to feel incredible because she went back to focusing on the prostate, not the area further back where more ejaculate material is stored (seminal vesicles). It felt like I was right on edge as drips were falling from my limp penis. She began to feather stroked my penis while really pumping the wand over my prostate. She stopped the teasing strokes, and in about ten to twenty seconds drove me over the edge with the wand. It's the first time I've ever involuntarily screamed something as a result of sex. It was one of the most intense prostate orgasms I've ever had. I could feel stream after stream getting pushed out of me while I was quivering all over. Once finished, I collapsed onto my side and looked at the mat. It was covered with a few large thick puddles. My legs were all shaky, and I had to be close to her for another fifteen minutes or so until I came down. My penis was not sensitive, so I don't think I'd entered a refractory period at all. Still, the uncomfortable feeling of pent up semen was gone.

Today I'm still really into her, even if the feeling of being horribly on edge is gone. She was getting ready for the day this morning, and I started cuddling up against her when she was in the compromising position of taking off night clothes to get into her day clothes. Of course she's telling me to stop and how annoyed she is and that I have never learned to stop doing that throughout our entire marriage. The constant smile on her face let's me know to keep it up.

 

Last night I thought I was going to get ruined. She kept pushing it closer and closer. Then, she just said we were done, and that I shouldn't have taken so long if I was wanting to get ruined.

A dental emergency happened today, and I'm not a fan of dentists. I thought for sure she was going to make me cum out of feeling sorry for me. Well, almost, but instead she ruined it. It's been 8 days since my last full ejaculatory orgasm. She says it's going to be at least 14 days until I have one too. If she just edged me with release of the pressure, I think I'd be crazy. But, with the milking and the ruining, I'm hoping she'll make me go until the start of November.

The most exciting thing about all this is the way she's starting to embrace wielding control. After she left me leaking and throbbing last night, I asked her if she liked leaving me like that. In the past with our shorter denial periods, she would have said something about me wanting it or that it was to make me orgasm harder later. This time she just said, "Yes, I did."

 

I got home early from work. After I said I was going to try to behave myself I got this text, “Don’t try; do it. Or you’re getting spanked. Put on the toy and do the damn dishes!”

“Toy” is her word for the chastity cage. She said she’ll try teasing me tonight with her naked body while I’m locked. I told her that the idea excited me a while back. I’m super horny right now and doing the dishes haha!

 

She got home on Friday, and after a few things were taken care of, she came into the bedroom. She didn't really do that much of the teasing with her body, but she had me take care of her while I remained locked. Now and then, she'd play with my balls. One time she rubbed the tip of my cage against herself before pulling me down there. After she climaxed, she took off the cage. I was more revved up then I even expected to be. She brought me right to brink and then stopped. I had such a huge drop of precum. That was it! Then she got up and said we would make dinner. Later that night, she played with me a little in bed, but she didn't even stroke me much, which was its own kind of frustration.

Yesterday, she must have been in the mood to see me cum, but, again, it was a ruined orgasm. I'm becoming so desperate that the ruin feels really good. She still hasn't perfected the timing (thank goodness). At first it starts to stream out with no force, and then it pulses a little. The pulses feel almost like an orgasm, except I still want more right afterwards.

Today I want to cum more than I did before the ruined o. Since I hit puberty, I've never waited this long for a full orgasm. I'm shattering those records. She still doesn't let me go more than 4 days though before she relieves some of the build up. I'm not wearing the cage most of the time, and I find myself touching my erection while in my room alone. She's adamant that if I masturbate, it's going to be 20 hard swats with a wooden spoon. About a month ago I only got 5 swats, and those were not pleasant.

 

Today we had a lot of time together in the bedroom. She's gotten better at knowing when to stop because I'm close. I had to tell her a couple of times only. After that she was going to be done, but I got her into the mood for sex and promised I wouldn't climax. I have no idea how long we did that, but it was really intimate. Afterwards, she cuddled for a few minutes (me being the little spoon), and she gave me occasional playful swats on my butt with her hand. It was pretty perfect.

Then I got my miles of running and cooked lunch for us. She's taking one of our kids to the movies and before she left, she locked me back up. Now, I'm swelling against the cage, but it feels very good all the same.

 

Hey, thanks for saying so. We kind of fell off from playing with chastity for a while, and I also didn't know if anyone is interested in what is going on with my rather tame version of chastity play.