Limited or denied blowjobs?

Wow! Are all German women like this?

 

Not all of us. Or maybe not yet? But I am getting more strict with time as well.

 

let him lick and then drink from his mouth

 

received 25 seconds of her lips on my cock since mid February 2023. Feb 17th to be exact. Lately she’s been getting the Joque spare parts strap on out lately. I’ve received four "bjs" in 2023 - which is my average per year.
However, they are usually only 1 minute long. Longest I’ve had in three years was four minutes which I won as part of a challenge. Lately she’s rather me sick her cock. Here’s the text she sent me about what she wanted tonight:

"I want two cocks. One for you to ride while you suck me."

made me instantly hard….

 

She never liked giving head once the cage went on I fear those days are over. Think that's part of why she's liking this so much. When she let's me out now I'm thrilled to just take care of myself and ecstatic if she does something she enjoys doing to me. I just wish she'd let me go down on her more at this point honestly.

 

My wife is definitely getting more strict as well. For our wedding anniversary in July I received
one last blowjob as a special gift from her. To make it extra special, she ruined my orgasm while reminding me that this was the last blowjob I would ever get from her.

 

Been together for over 30 years and I can probably count on both hands how many BJs I have had in that time, and the last one was well over 10 years ago.
We're only 1 month into our new Chastity lifestyle, so I don't expect the frequency will be increasing!

 

Baloney.

 

I only get to use my fingers, never my mouth, so I'm even more removed from her sex. I NEVER get to orgasm in any way, shape or form, (day 341 of permanence) so sexual activity is always about looking after her needs. I can caress and suck her breasts and kiss her mouth and neck - only because those things are a turn on for her. She will have one, two, maybe three orgasms, on her terms, then tell me to stop when she's had enough. Then she likes me to cuddle in close and tight till she falls asleep.
I find it all very intimate and lovely and it makes me feel warm inside that I'm allowed to take part in such an intimacy with her.
Her orgasm has become my own sexual fulfillment and being denied is not too high a price.

 

My first Mistress would never have given me a BJ, because all "vanilla sex" like things were reserved for her husband and I was just her slave.

My second Mistress was strictly considering me as a slave that she would train until I was ready to serve dominant women in a useful way. Receiving BJs or something like that from her would have been out of the question, since the distance between our roles of her being the instructing goddess and me being nothing but a worm that needed forming was very big. Goddesses don´t blow worms.

My third Mistress loved to torture me by practicing her handjob skills on me in the beginning. If you think now: "What skill is needed for that? Isn´t it super easy?" then you think wrong, just like I did in the beginning. HEr hand jobs were out of this world in quality by the end. I never had such pleasurable handjobs before or ever after. Once she was perfect, she decided they are now reserved for her boyfriend and her multiple lovers. I was just her slave and device to improve her skills. She had me in chastity 24/7 back then and just unlocked me to "practice". So after she was perfect I went through a longer period of no sexual contact at all, since my dicklett was not "needed" for anything from her side. She then decided that she also wanted to become super good at giving blow jobs. We had one session in that manner and I was insanely happy. Unfortunately since I was without orgasm for like 6 weeks at that time, I came very quickly. Like in less than one minute. She decided that I am useless as a training object then and that she will simply practice with her lovers. I whined a bit, since without the long periods of chastity I also can last longer, but she only laughed to my face and asked me in what future world I would imagine to be living. She said in all seriousness that there never will be times where I am sexually touched without being for a longer period in chastity before, so the question of how long I could last when not in chastity for a long time before would be one of complete theoratical nature, due to that never happening in my reality anymore. A very cruel moment and a moment I loved so much in its cruelty that I still dream about it today.

My fourth Mistress liked giving blowjobs. It confused me and I felt it to be "wrong", but I enjoyed them too much to object very hard. Unfortunately she also loved stopping in the middle of a blow job and locking me back in chastity. She never let me orgasm via blow job. The maximum was that the blow job started it and then a handjob finished it. I really wish secretly I would have been allowed to cum in her mouth at least once. But ... no.

My fifth Mistress sees me basically as a plaything. As a toy for her amusement and as meat for her mad experiments. She would never ever have sex with me, since that is not what she has me for. Chances to experience something odd and wild with her (like having to eat some weird goo, trembling in fear what that might be, while she laughs like an insane person or me having to stay alone in a cage for an unknown mount of time till I shit myself literally and even then I am still alone in there ... ). are much higher than ever getting a BJ from her.


So in short ... everything is possible, but chances to receive a BJ are rather slim ... still, if you can get one ... don´t complain, you never know how your story might go on in the future.

 

My wife was never a fan of giving blowjobs. She really dislikes it when I cum in her mouth. (She says it tastes swimmy.) In the 20+ years we've been together, she's probably given me 10 or fewer blowjobs to completion. Sometimes she'll give me head, and then finish me off with a hand job or watch me jerk off.

That being said, she loves blowing me in my cage. She loves how turned on and frustrated I am, and there's about 0% chance that I'll cum. Win win.

 

I love how your third mistress called you out. Did she indicate her reasoning behind being so insistent upon her enforcement of your chastity? I’m just intrigued by your description of this encounter and would love to hear more details.

 

Since she had already a husband like boyfriend that she was living together with and who was her “go to guy” for companionship and life planning, and she already gad three regular lovers (!!!) and regular one night stands for her hunger for sex, she basically only needed me as her plaything and torture victim to enjoy her hunger for sadism and dominance.

She really had no reason to ever show me mercy and I loved that a lot. So in the most advanced phase of our relationship she decided that I would never have sex with any woman ever again and also only should be allowed one orgasm on Christmas and one orgasm on my Birthday. Those should basically act as two thorns in my “mental peace making with an orgasm less life”. She said the thought and hope for those two events would make it impossible for me to ever develop full acceptance of my situation by saying mentally “good bye” to my orgasms.

She even introduced the hope in me that I might gain up to two flexible orgasms per year under very tricky conditions:

A) being 100% obedient would grant me the chance for one annual bonus orgasm.

B) being 100% without the slightest hesitation when given a command would grant me the chance for a second annual bonus orgasm.

Six weeks into that new rule set I already lost my chance for the B) “no hesitation” bonus orgasm. I was driving with her together to a dungeon studio that I had rented for us to gave a session. The navigation system said: turn left at the crossroads. Mistress said suddenly “Turn RIGHT here!” … and I was perplexed for a split second and stuttered: “But …”, before I turned to the right (into a wrong street, that was leading in the opposite direction of where we wanted to go. She looked stern at me and then was laughing manically, when she could see that I just realized what I had done and what it would obviously cost me. I was so angry and frustrated and emotionally overwhelmed in that moment …


I hope this sheds some light into her logic and maybe answers your question on the why she was so insistent in enforcing my chastity.

She very often told me: “Your purpose is to provide me with the pleasurable thought on your constant frustrated tortured state, so that I can orgasm better and more frequent when I think about my slave”.

It was a wonderful time and I am still eternally grateful for even the tiniest cruel act she did to me.

 

Thank you. Wow, she sounds like a remarkable woman!

 

I feel for myself, I cannot worry about something I have never experienced in my life, so I never worry about it and move onto other things I may control.

 

Yes, she was great. I really miss being her plaything. It’s my own fault, I ended the relationship, because I fell in love with my current partner (she is also my new Mistress).

In hindsight I would say that in terms of having a great time sexually, it makes much more sense to have a mistress who is NOT your life partner. All the delicious “point less” cruelty can be performed much more joyfully, when there is no vanilla time afterwards and no joint working on real life problems mixes with the BDSM world.

I guess my former Mistress would never been able to be as merciless and cruel, when I would be hanging around afterwards in a joint apartment, treating my wounds from whipping and running around neurotically, because my lack of orgasms is driving me insane.

But yeah, love is a strong force …

 

BJs are a thing that creates contradiction in me.

My wife is truly talented at sucking cock. Better than any woman I've ever experienced.

Before my submission and chastity I was dominant although my wife didn't really fill a submissive role. Nevertheless, when she sucked me to completion and swallowed, I felt it as an act of submission from her and it delighted my dominant headspace.

I felt my orgasms were better from her blow jobs than they were from PIV. I preferred to cum in her mouth. She knew this and for the last few years before chastity, I came in her mouth almost exclusively. Her swallowing my load was an important element to satisfy my dominance. She always did.

While that was our norm, our sex sessions were infrequent, at least in the most recent years. Right up until chastity, we got intimate maybe once a month.

I accept that for many women a BJ is not for them a submissive act. But from my dominant perspective, it absolutely was.

So, then I switched, became submissive and we discovered my wife, while vanilla at her core, felt much more at home finding her dominant capabilities than she ever did her submissive side.

She sucks what is now her cock, a lot. It feels as amazing as ever. And I am conflicted as it's always been a submissive act in my head. But it feels so good.

She shouldn't do it (in my view) because as a submissive I shouldn't get such pleasures reserved for dominants. But I'd be loathe to accept it if she never sucked her cock again.

She hasn't let me cum in her mouth since the switch. I've only been allowed 2 orgasms since we started this new dynamic. One piv and another via supervised masturbation at my own hand. But she edges me via blow jobs a lot.

Last weekend she sucked me to the edge 8 times in a session, finishing with a ruin - all over my belly of course.

I've told her about my conflict. She simply says, she's in charge and if she wants to suck cock, she'll suck cock, that's the end of it. She's right of course.

My release fantasy, assuming she decides to grant me an orgasm, is to be tied down on my back. She edges me orally over and over, for several hours. She leaves me tied and exits the room for 30-60 minutes at a time, only to return and continue the oral edging. I don't know if she'll actually grant me a full orgasm. I never know when she'll do that. But she finally does, and lets me empty my entire load into her mouth. Unlike before chastity, she doesn't swallow.

She crawls up my body, bringing her head over mine, signals me to open my mouth, and then slowly allows all of my cum to dribble out of her mouth and into mine, before ordering me to swallow it all.

She knows this is my fantasy. I have no idea if she'll ever make it reality. If she wants to she will. If the thought doesn't work for her, she won't. I'll be happy giving her what ever she wants. She controls my every sexual experience now. She controls me to make her feel good. I love her so much.

 

Last blowjob from wife was 19 years ago. Maybe after I get her new teeth I can open her mouth for it again.

 

My mistress is also very good at it and can deepthroat very well. I gave her an unwanted facial and sort of threw a couple of tissues at her probably because of watching too much porn. Didn't mean anything by it but I hurt her and of course completely lost interest in sexual stuff for the rest of the night. I think that's all we did. That was my last blowjob. We discovered chastity by chance soon after. 5 years ago I think.

 

Agree with the last sentence, I only get to share in her orgasms but it is enough.