Limited or denied blowjobs?

Probably that giving a blowjob takes some effort and she doesn't need to try that hard given your status imo.

 

I don’t think repulsed is quite the right word, maybe inappropriate or unnecessary fits a little better.

First when we started dating, me being in her mouth was just a part of sex and foreplay. In fact she said she didn’t mind it cause no gagging and was easy. Once we began her being in control they all but stopped. A few times in the last 4 years.

She is under the impression that her pleasure is my priority, and my member in her mouth doesn’t do anything for her, so not really something we do anymore. I think I kinda gave them up when I told her that she was in control.

On a whole different point, being caged has its own unique drawbacks hygiene wise. I keep it clean, but it would be naive to say that the smell and taste of it isn’t affected, unless you always shower immediately prior.

 

For us, once I had 'the talk" with my wife (now my KH) about chastity, WLM's and me being a submissive things really changed.
Oral sex is given by me to her. I have not had a BJ in 8+ years or so. That ended the day she locked my first belt on. She informed me that she would no longer be doing that. In the D/s world I was the one who will be giving (a lot) oral sex. As my KH/wife/dom she would would not be sucking anything anymore.
I miss my BJ's a whole lot but I have never been happier finally being able to be my submissive self. I cross dress a little and wear panties 24/7/365 Life is wonderful.

You might have to get use to being BJ free as your new norm of being locked up goes forward.

Enjoy your chastity!

 

Blowjobs have be come a thing of the past for us a couple of years into chastity. We stopped for several reasons, the biggest one is we felt that it was a very submissive act for her. Also she received no pleasure from it.

 

My experience mirrors what is mentioned above. Once we got into chastity, my Keyholder Wife went from giving BJs often to none at all, never.

She asks me from time to time to remember back when She gave them to me and think how pleasurable they were, only to say that will never happen again.

I suspect it's a combination of it not giving Her pleasure, the submissive nature of oral sex and Her (and me) wanting to have firm lines between BC (before chsstity) and AD (after denial) times.

No complaints--It's a small price to pay for living out a fantasy.

asa

 

Before we got married, blowjobs were quite common. Combining marriage with chastity and her dominance in our relationship has all but eliminated them completely. She will reward me after a long lock up with one, but I think that's mostly to punish me by having me eat an extra large load of cum .

 

My wife never really gave me blowjobs before chastity. She just wasn't that good at them, so it wasn't something I asked for that often. And she would rarely offer, it wasn't something she liked anyway.

Since I got locked up she's blown on my caged penis to tease it (really odd feeling there) and has occasionally licked it, but a blow job is not something I see in my future, like ever.

She also rarely even *touches* my penis now when I'm caged, preferring to tease me in other ways.

 

Very common before chastity now oral on me only happens when she fancies it in her mouth-she satisfies her lust and then it's 'off you go' and i'm dismissed, usually if not in the bedroom, with pants round my ankles. She also is mainly gratifying herself and can be a bit rough, in a way that would be a big no, were it the other way round when i service her orally. It's not always pleasant but it's very flr!

 

All throughout our marriage, my Wife(KH now) would give me oral all the time. She was really good at giving blow jobs. It was my favorite. She would go down on me where ever and when ever. Some mornings, driving to work, she would blow me while I drove. And she would swallow my load almost every time I came in her mouth.

Now that she has full control of my cock, it doesn't happen much anymore. We have been more open with each other about our likes and dislikes. She told me that she really didn't like giving blowjobs, but did because she knew how much I enjoyed it. I asked her about swallowing and she told me she really didn't enjoy it, but thought it was something she had to do. I never forced her to do it. I always thought she liked it, because she did it the first night we slept together, and did it from that night on. She was very good at it also. Licking, sucking, deepthroat, She surprised me a few times in how good she was. She also told me that she had never done it to anyone else but me.

So now, if my Wife decides to give me a little taste of what was once a very common act, I enjoy it even more that before. It might be 10-15 seconds long and never ends in a orgasm and she told me there is only one person now that will swallow a load, and it's not her...

 

My wife never liked giving blowjobs and once we started chastity she told me the only blowjob I would get again would be one that I’m flexible enough to give myself.

 

Maybe it was because I was always submissive, but i was never comfortable getting a blowjob. I had a few, only because the woman 'seemed' enthusiastic about giving me one. But I soon flipped that to me going down on her. It just feels natural for me to be giving oral attention to others rather than receiving it. I greatly preferred making sure she was satisfied before I considered myself. Still prefer it that way.

 

So it sounds like everyone here has decided its ok to never receive pleasure. A common thread is that BJ's were ok before marriage and now are off the table. Were the bj's just a ploy to set the hook and get their man and now chastity is just an easy way to exclude doing something they really never wanted to do in the first place?

 

Mine aren't 'off the table' they just happen on her terms-that can be very nice to receive the attention or sometimes even 'nicer' being 'used'-my bj's are now more interesting that's for sure!

 

I wouldn't put my balls in her mouth either. They get attention on her terms too though!

 

She likes having my dick (when hard..) in Her mouth
but never to the end inside
and sometimes She finishes me with hand job (Hers, must often mine)
but the very most often, straight back in cage when my dick falls down

 

I have received oral sex from my Wife twice in 25 years and neither was what I would call a blowjob

I don't expect to ever receive oral sex again

 

Ms Val has never given me a blow job. She says that I would probably cum too fast. She gives Sir blowjobs all the time. She tells me how she loves having a big cock in her mouth. Sir always reminds me about how good she is.
She has told me that as long as I'm married to her I will never feel a mouth or vagina on my pee pee.

 

I would say yes to that. Many women use blow jobs to seal the deal before marriage. My first wife said after the wedding that she had sucked her last dick! I thought she was joking! I think as a rule "most" women do not like sucking on a cock and swallowing a load. Yes, there are some that enjoy the act but if I was a betting man I would say most do not. As a male, I have wondered how it felt to have a hot load of cum shot into my mouth
while my head was held in place.
As a submissive, whenever my wife directs me after a release, I'm required to eat my load. She takes great pride in watching me lick it all up. The first time I was required to eat it, I stood there looking at it on her belly she laughed and said to get going, that it's better warm than cold! Finally, I leaned into it and lapped it all up. I can't say I like it now but I lap it up quickly whenever she tells me to.

 

One time my wife fully dressed me in female clothing and then started to give me a blow job, but then stopped. It has never happened again since (either dressing or a blow job). I guess she was trying out both and didn't like either. So none in my future.

 

Bingo! Give the man a cigar. If I choose to give her total control and only do the things she finds pleasurable, I am not exactly shocked that putting a dick in her mouth isn’t getting her hot and bothered. The fact is I would never want pity sex, blowjobs included.

As far as bjs being a hook, no. It is more than likely they gave them because they loved them and wanted to give them pleasure, but once control was given away, they freely accepted to do what was asked and do what pleasures them and not do what doesn’t.

 

My KH enjoys giving oral but it’s far more rare when locked.

 

i 100% agree with this. i can count the blowjobs that i've received on one hand with fingers to spare. It is my preference that my penis is never again inside a Woman's mouth.

 

I used to get blowjobs before being locked since licking I don’t get any sort of oral even when I do get an unlock I still don’t get one anymore