Complicated start

Looks like your wife is consistently inconsistent, like mine! I guess I've got used to it and if I'm not going to top from the bottom I just have to accept it. I can recall her being very negative when I first bought a silicone dildo, then a few months later she was insisting I use it on her. Similar with a little clit pump. As sex is not foremost in her mind she starts off being a bit "yuck" about such things, then gets more interested when she thinks about it. Of course us guys are thinking about it every few minutes! It's 3 months since my last orgasm and that fact is not on her radar at all. But in a sense why should it be? It was I who introduced male chastity into our lifestyle and I think her view is I also take the consequences. I'm interested to see what will happen: perhaps at this point she considers it is permanent anyway as she never deliberately gives me an orgasm of any form, nor penetration. Her teasing is awesome but remarkably never involves my penis. Once she sees it dripping nicely she stops! She definitely benefits from my chastity, but if it wasn't part of our lifestyle I'm sure she thinks she'd manage quite happily with the alternative. When I start thinking "this sucks" she suddenly surprises me, and also when you start thinking "this is going great" she loses interest. But that's like life in general I guess.

 

I would like to thank you for sharing this. Being new to chastity it really opens my eyes to many of the feelings and emotions that are going to come down the road at one point or another.

Not that it's worth anything, but we have decided not to set any kind of date or time limit. For me knowing what the date is just makes it feel like a job or something, I prefer not to know although I have no clue what it's like to go over 2 months without an orgasm.

I hope things work out for you.

 

*nervous giggle*

i believe it is true with all Women and why we love Them so much. UNPREDICTABLE.

 

Hello jasmic/harddenial.
Consider yourselves lucky gentlemen. At least the women in your lives allow you to pleasure them orally, digitally or with a dildo. I would give ANYTHING to do any of those things, especially given that I have not had an orgasm in over 2 years. I cannot even remember her touching my penis in that time...she MAY have fondled my balls a handful of times in that interval. Anyway, I beg, I cajole, I try to reason with her about how most women enjoy these things immensely and nothing happens. I never believed my Dad and his buddies and how they always said once women have the children they want and slip into their 40s that the sex and interest in sex they have fades away. I remember them saying how I should enjoy myself early on because once they feel their primal need to bear children fulfilled they will come up with a list of excuses a mile long not to be sexual. Granted, I am sure there are women who are exceptions, but mine is not. I hear my Dad laughing...probably shaking his head with pathetic shame seeing me spend the better part of an evening plugged, wearing pantyhose and a nightshirt and pathetically and patiently massaging her
legs and feet hoping to spark some sort of engaging interest as she snores away to waste yet another evening of possible intense play after having the house to ourselves for the most part. It just never happens. Furthermore, I think we are kidding ourselves about communicating with them as well. I try to bring up the subject of our sexlife to discuss it and how to make it better as I beseech of her to interject her thoughts and I see her gloss over as if I were talking about sports (she fits the 'sports are a boring waste of time' female stereotype there too). I will prattle on for 30 min trying to engage her in honest discussion and exchange of ideas and I get general silence punctuated with the stock "You think too much." , "Go with the flow.", "Why are we discussing this again?", "What do you want me to say, I am trying to be a good listener?", "I give you an inch you take a mile...haha.", "You know I have never been comfortable discussing these kinds of things.", "If I was unhappy with anything I would tell you.", "The way we are doing things works for me." and of course the old standby, "Well, this was YOUR idea and YOU put yourself into this predicament, so why are you complaining...you get what I want you to get." Honestly, I don't even think women like ours WANT to communicate. I would be willing to bet that your wife just wishes to her core that you would shut up and do away with communication day and your communication journal jasmic. She has you in that silken cocoon in the corner of her web now (as does mine) and she is bothered that she has to keep coming over and administering a euphoria inducing venomous bite as often as she does this far in. Now that you are entering into the long term denial phase she was likely hoping that you would shift to a lower maintenance phase..but we are men and women dont get it...that just does not happen for us...I know these locked up balls of mine simmer at the
mere sight of a curvy ass and shapely legs in those confounding spandex leggings women wear most of the time these days (these are the pantyhose of the 21st century which will surely be kicked to the scrap heap of style too once the feminist movement catches on to how blatantly sexual they are and how they make a red blooded mans blood boil...but I digress...that is another rant for another time! Haha!). Anyway, I too offered my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder an end to chastity and kinkiness in general calmly and she recoiled with a resounding "No, that is not what I want." So what DO they want?!?!? Who the Hell knows! As one of you said, "It sucks!". I want to break out of the cocoon because I know deep down this is more than likely the status quo of where we will be into perpetuity. Is it any wonder women outlive us? I will gladly survive and function on 4 hours of sleep if I can squeeze in some erotic play and romantic interaction...my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder would rather sleep...I love it when I am massaging her and I stop and she stirs an hour later and mumbles "Why did you stop?" and I reply that she was snoring and she retorts that she was not sleeping and that she was just relaxing....hilarious. I am not trying to bash my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder or any other woman though, so please do not take me wrong. I am just getting a lot off of my chest after seeing your frustration guys. I hopped in my rocket ship and left Mars and headed to Venus long ago with the intent to learn the culture of the female planet and be a better man that the knuckle dragging, burping and farting masses on our planet Mars. I am more than likely on a one way trip and forbidden a return to Mars now that I am locked in a chastity device, wear pantyhose too often to keep track of and have a love affair with my collection of anal plugs and toys. I am trying to learn the secrets of the culture but my dear Venutian will not share them. It REALLY, REALLY sucks. ...and so here I sit in my nightshirt and lounge pants still wearing my pantyhose underneath (...how can women HONESTLY say they are uncomfortable?---such BS) as I let my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder sleep in for Mother's Day. Our littlest just got up and now the plan is for us to make a lavish breakfast for my Queen. So what am I saying guys? We made our own beds...we should have
been more careful with our wishes. It is not all we wished for and hoped for. How can we be sacrificing the very core of our manhood as we are and giving so unselfishly and still have such reluctant partners? Mind blowing. Mine hears her friends whine about how little their husbands do for them and what slobs they are yet it does not seem to make a difference. Oh well...I must close. I am frustrated and the kitchen awaits...and like a good, pussy whipped man I need to attend to my woman's needs.

...sigh. " Be careful what you wish for."

allaboutHer

 

Hello jasmic/harddenial.
Consider yourselves lucky gentlemen. At least the women in your lives allow you to pleasure them orally, digitally or with a dildo. I would give ANYTHING to do any of those things, especially given that I have not had an orgasm in over 2 years. I cannot even remember her touching my penis in that time...she MAY have fondled my balls a handful of times in that interval. Anyway, I beg, I cajole, I try to reason with her about how most women enjoy these things immensely and nothing happens. I never believed my Dad and his buddies and how they always said once women have the children they want and slip into their 40s that the sex and interest in sex they have fades away. I remember them saying how I should enjoy myself early on because once they feel their primal need to bear children fulfilled they will come up with a list of excuses a mile long not to be sexual. Granted, I am sure there are women who are exceptions, but mine is not. I hear my Dad laughing...probably shaking his head with pathetic shame seeing me spend the better part of an evening plugged, wearing pantyhose and a nightshirt and pathetically and patiently massaging her
legs and feet hoping to spark some sort of engaging interest as she snores away to waste yet another evening of possible intense play after having the house to ourselves for the most part. It just never happens. Furthermore, I think we are kidding ourselves about communicating with them as well. I try to bring up the subject of our sexlife to discuss it and how to make it better as I beseech of her to interject her thoughts and I see her gloss over as if I were talking about sports (she fits the 'sports are a boring waste of time' female stereotype there too). I will prattle on for 30 min trying to engage her in honest discussion and exchange of ideas and I get general silence punctuated with the stock "You think too much." , "Go with the flow.", "Why are we discussing this again?", "What do you want me to say, I am trying to be a good listener?", "I give you an inch you take a mile...haha.", "You know I have never been comfortable discussing these kinds of things.", "If I was unhappy with anything I would tell you.", "The way we are doing things works for me." and of course the old standby, "Well, this was YOUR idea and YOU put yourself into this predicament, so why are you complaining...you get what I want you to get." Honestly, I don't even think women like ours WANT to communicate. I would be willing to bet that your wife just wishes to her core that you would shut up and do away with communication day and your communication journal jasmic. She has you in that silken cocoon in the corner of her web now (as does mine) and she is bothered that she has to keep coming over and administering a euphoria inducing venomous bite as often as she does this far in. Now that you are entering into the long term denial phase she was likely hoping that you would shift to a lower maintenance phase..but we are men and women dont get it...that just does not happen for us...I know these locked up balls of mine simmer at the
mere sight of a curvy ass and shapely legs in those confounding spandex leggings women wear most of the time these days (these are the pantyhose of the 21st century which will surely be kicked to the scrap heap of style too once the feminist movement catches on to how blatantly sexual they are and how they make a red blooded mans blood boil...but I digress...that is another rant for another time! Haha!). Anyway, I too offered my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder an end to chastity and kinkiness in general calmly and she recoiled with a resounding "No, that is not what I want." So what DO they want?!?!? Who the Hell knows! As one of you said, "It sucks!". I want to break out of the cocoon because I know deep down this is more than likely the status quo of where we will be into perpetuity. Is it any wonder women outlive us? I will gladly survive and function on 4 hours of sleep if I can squeeze in some erotic play and romantic interaction...my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder would rather sleep...I love it when I am massaging her and I stop and she stirs an hour later and mumbles "Why did you stop?" and I reply that she was snoring and she retorts that she was not sleeping and that she was just relaxing....hilarious. I am not trying to bash my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder or any other woman though, so please do not take me wrong. I am just getting a lot off of my chest after seeing your frustration guys. I hopped in my rocket ship and left Mars and headed to Venus long ago with the intent to learn the culture of the female planet and be a better man that the knuckle dragging, burping and farting masses on our planet Mars. I am more than likely on a one way trip and forbidden a return to Mars now that I am locked in a chastity device, wear pantyhose too often to keep track of and have a love affair with my collection of anal plugs and toys. I am trying to learn the secrets of the culture but my dear Venutian will not share them. It REALLY, REALLY sucks. ...and so here I sit in my nightshirt and lounge pants still wearing my pantyhose underneath (...how can women HONESTLY say they are uncomfortable?---such BS) as I let my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder sleep in for Mother's Day. Our littlest just got up and now the plan is for us to make a lavish breakfast for my Queen. So what am I saying guys? We made our own beds...we should have
been more careful with our wishes. It is not all we wished for and hoped for. How can we be sacrificing the very core of our manhood as we are and giving so unselfishly and still have such reluctant partners? Mind blowing. Mine hears her friends whine about how little their husbands do for them and what slobs they are yet it does not seem to make a difference. Oh well...I must close. I am frustrated and the kitchen awaits...and like a good, pussy whipped man I need to attend to my woman's needs.

...sigh. " Be careful what you wish for."

allaboutHer

 

Hello jasmic.

Boy do I know the sulky part...ZZZZ...."she can really let her hair down...ZZZZ...."a chance to have some fun"...ZZZZZ....."if I was the Master and my Wife was the sub" ZZZZZ...OH, what you said a thousand times over!!! So I wake up on the wrong side of the bed on Mother's Day but make sure she can sleep in assuming I would wake her up when it was almost ready and who in the Hell comes walking into the kitchen as I cook away with the our youngest quietly entertained by their favorite cartoons (our oldest slept over at a friends house) an hour earlier than I planned to awaken her? Yup! My sleep deprived Wife/Mistress/Keyholder. Something inside my head broke and my mouth engaged without a filter and I ripped her HARD for getting up early and yet being unable to stay
awake the night before and now ruining her surprise (control freak thing to always know what is happening). I should have tried "Happy Mothers Day" instead. 2+ years without an orgasm and moving a millimeter at a time and all the things and thoughts you had will cause this I guess. Well, I salvaged the day the best I could with a nice meal out as well. I needed m
key to remove my device for the very physical sport I play and was told "I don't think you are getting your key as punishment for yelling at me as soon as you saw me this morning. Figure out how to change discreetly." Where the Hell did THAT backbone come from?!?! Well I had to talk her off of the edge and make her realize I could suffer a VERY SEVERE injury with the device on playing this sport. I told her I am fine with ANY other punishment she wants...I even said I would submit to a body piercing or tattoo of her choosing as a permanent reminder that I am not to yell at her...ever---she even said that..."You are NOT to yell at me...I am your Mistress." I say again, where did this come from?!?! TOTALLY not her. Well, she thought about my reasoning and agreed to give me my key BUT followed up with "A very stern punishment for this is in your future---I just need to work through it in my head." Shocked I am...and so I wait. My money is she ends up making it much less severe than I would..."If I were the Master and she were my slave...". Kindred spirits my friend...but like I said, you get WAY more of what I want, so consider yourself blessed and take what may be now near permanent denial with broad shoulders.

If I were Master, and she was my slave..:spank: ...she would have pink cheeks. Ha!

allaboutHer

 

Hello jasmic.

"TRULY TRAPPED"....We have crossed the Rubicon...We can talk the talk...we can get all bent and frustrated when we are left to our own devices...we can say how we may be done with all of this...we can even offer up an end to it to our Keyholders...we can rant and rave about how they dont get it or give us what we want or what we think chastity and orgasm denial should be...it is innate that we do this...we ARE men...we know what we expected to be like and do...we NEED to delude ourselves into feeling tough and like we have a say in the matter but we really don't at the end of the day. We have given away the deep seated secrets to how we can be turned into pussy-whipped submissives...it is like kryptonite to Superman...mark my words, you like MOST of us here will accept as LITTLE or as much as your Wife/Mistress/Keyholder sends your way. That in itself is as humbling as it is arousing which is maddening!!!! Haha! I so clearly remember in my early days at CM following a member here and predicting early on that he would eventually be performing fellatio on other submissive men at the hen parties that he and his wife attended and received vehement denial
from him and got ripped by several here for "injecting my own fantasies" and being told to "shut up". Now, I AM NOT SAYING THAT ABOUT YOU, but my point is, I think most submissive men like us have an ever expanding perimeter to our limits. In many ways I am glad my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder is on the more timid less adventurous side, because I know I can be and would be very pliable and coil be led easily into the dark corners of kink and exploration. BUT ANYWAY...."TRULY TRAPPED"....think about it....think deeply and it is rather unnerving, worrisome, humiliating AND arousing all at the same time...just the phrase makes me tingle as the endorphins, oxytocin and dopamine course through my body...ow!...a burning sensation...its her painfully pleasurable bite again...I feel the paralysis and the floating sensation coming on again......mmmmm《fade to black》

allaboutHer

 

Oh, and by the way, that long ago member eventually found himself performing fellatio at those parties and went headfirst into a full blown FLR and left CM when he surrendered his "self". He went to the very dark corner.

allaboutHer

 

Hi Jasmic, I am glad things have stabilised and are moving forward for you both. I know how when finances etc get tough things can really deteriorate so things are looking really good for you both. Please keep up the journal I know I only update mine irregularly but in reality nothing but life is happening right now it's still good to know you are around.

 

@Jasmic68
Wish we could get the Mistress's talking. I believe if Mistress Wolf talked to your Mistress it might open some doors She has kept tightly closed and locked.