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    Morning all,
    I have had this secret about chastity for a while and now really want my wife to make it reality.
    I have an idea which I would like advice on.
    I am thinking of presenting my wife with a cage and lock on her birthday which is the 19th may.
    Do you think this may be too much?
    Thanks
    Martin.
     
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    Yes - way too much.
    You have to assume that until this very day, your wife hasn't had ANY phantasies about a locked cock.
    Talk to her first and certainly not on HER birthday.
    Cool down, man!
     
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    talk to her, be slow and gentle, don't mention all your phantasies about how long you want to be locked or how you want to be teased or other kinks you have.

    Maybe send her a pdf of the Lucy fairbourne book (you can buy it or pirate on library genesis).

    Don't do it on her birthday
     
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    Hi, thanks for the advice.
    Will take it on board. The last thing I want to do is upset her.
     
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    others have said it - this is way too much. Put yourself in her position. You've had the chance to think about this for months. It's going to come out of the blue to her. She can't do anything but freak out. You really do need to sit down and talk through your feelings. Don't launch straight into "I want you to lock up my penis" but gently lead her through your desire to submit.

    Good luck
     
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    Unless she has made comments about wanting to lock you up on her own, if you give it to her on her birthday it will most likely upset her. She will most likely feel that it is actually a present for you. Something that you want
     
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    On the plus side, this means you don't have to wait until May!

    "I have this fantasy..."
     
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    Ask yourself this... Why would she want a cockcage for HER birthday?

    If you want this to go anywhere, start thinking about HER birthday.
     
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    That would be a huge mistake. It is her birthday. This wouldn't be a gift for her.
     
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    My past experiences with my wife, open discussion helps a great deal. One time many many years ago in bed after sex we talked about fantasies and what we enjoy. She wanted to try a 3sum, either would be fine. I dovetailed wanting to see her take on another guy. It lead to some great times and then onto swinging. Then we talked about BDSM and she didn't really embrace it when she was the sub. When she tried her hand at being Domme, she loved it.

    Fast forward and we stumbled onto chastity looking to expand our bdsm toys. She could not understand what pleasure I would get out of being denied pleasure. After a few times she discovered her thrill out of controlling me and my cock and its been an adventure. Now she is the one who sets the rules and schedule, I do get my fun and penetration with her, but the build up to those moments is great.
     
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    I don't think I actually need to say anything here! My esteemed friends and fellow chaste males have given a lot of sound advice! ;)
     
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    Good plan, not at all selfish.
     
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    As Mrs BR said...you really plan on making it a good birthday for her!
    The time I dumped it on Madame Vanilla I then waited 5 years to get back to the conversation.
     
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    Personally I think it's too much. Communicate and play with orgasm denial then introduce her to chastity ....
     
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    I agree way to much to start with! Start of by having a chat one night and get round to talking about fantasy’s and kinks, and take it from there.
     
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    Why not get her a new mop for her birthday too and see how much she appreciates that.......
     
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    How about making the day all about her? Would she like a massage? Would she like a pedicure and maybe have her nails painted (by you of course, not a professional job)? Would she enjoy a special meal (cooked by you of course). The important thing is that it's whatever she would like. And don't forget the flowers.

    Effectively, you will spend the day serving her and making her pleasure your priority, but you could call it "pampering" rather than "serving". I'd suggest that you keep it all non-sexual, unless she makes it very clear that she wants that. If she does, say that you want to concentrate on her pleasure and that your orgasm is not important. And all just because you love her so much and want to make her happy.

    A day or so after, you can ask her how much she enjoyed it and, if you get a positive response, tell her that you really enjoyed it too and that you'd like to do it more often, not just on her birthday. Eventually, with a few pampering days under your belt, you could confess your submissive needs to her and ask her to be much more assertive and demanding during the pampering sessions, but try to avoid it being about you and what you want.

    If that all goes down well, you could discuss chastity cages with her and see what her reaction is, but take it slow and keep it all as much about her and her pleasure as you can.

    Good luck.
     
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    That's helpful! Not
     
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    I'm hoping this was channeling the spirit of Stephanie Tanner. :)
     
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    Your sarcasm wasn't asked for either!
     
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    Well, the new boy is making a lasting impression. Not!
     
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    You have been reported
     
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