Calling all keyholders

Everyone take a breath and calm down .

Here is a Man asking for advice and help with bringing this to his Wife.

For the most part we guided him and helped him on his path.

Some others were a little too shall we say , Sarcastic.

This is a place where we can all come for help, advice and knowledge. This is a place for self discovery.

To put it bluntly, being a Dick serves nothing to no one. All it does is make someone who is seeking help, become too afraid to speak. Which is the exact opposite of what we want to happen here.

Be kind to each other.

Anger, distain and hate have no place here. If you have a problem with that, you know where the door is.

Iso.

 

Absolutely

Sarcasm, bickering and jibing isn’t welcome.

 

In all fairness I would say plenty of blame to go around as this thread went south, I accept my responsibility here also. Maybe we all weren't very helpful and welcoming to the new guy. Peace, love and harmony

 

Well said Iso

 

Thank you.

Iso.

 

That's a good advise from everyone. This is something you talk with her. And if you did not already exchange on this subject with her. It means both of you aren't ready for that.

Look inside if it's more or less a kinky fantasy you want for yourself at her birthday.

Chastity is a game that have the potential(mostly do) to go out of the bedroom. Nothing to do with sex games that you can stop anytime.

Chastity is a door step to something bigger: will change you, will change the dynamic that could result in finality more or less as a Greek gift if badly planned.

If you're deeply appeal by chastity. And really want to explore this avenue, takes it easy with her and yourself.

Male Chastity is a delicious way of life. I can't say how much I would recommend it to you. Everyone, every couple have theirs dynamics. I don't know yours. I might be off tracks, I'm speaking from my own experience.

But focusing on what's really important, I'm happy for you to want to go ahead with her about chastity. You are permitted to be selfish if you were, you're human and needs attention. But I believe you may truly tough about giving her the control of your manhood for her birthday. That's is a big act of faith and love.

Good luck and the secret is communication.

 

Coming back to the original problem - how to tell your partner that you want chastity.

I think if you're shy you could also send her some reading material. A good website to send to your wife/gf for example is this one which is relatively female-friendly and doesn't bring in anything else like spanking, feminization, cuckolding or worse: https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/

But don't just send her this link out of the blue. Mention something before, like, that you want to do something new in the bedroom and have fantasized about it for a long time already. That you want her to read it whenever she has time (1-2 hours) and is relaxed and not when she's busy or in public.

 

Your wife's birthday is a celebration of her existence, so it's about her and what she wants. If she's been talking about wanting to get you locked up in chastity then, sure, I'd make a cage and key one of her gifts.

If she's never said boo about it, i would seriously avoid even bringing this up on her birthday, let alone giving her that as her only gift. That's basically saying, "Happy birthday, hon! I'm dissatisfied with our sex life, so I want to complicate it and hijack your birthday so we're only thinking about my cock. I love you!"

With all due respect, I think that this is where the comment about the mop came in. While it could've been put more politely, handing someone either a reminder of a one-sided responsibility (new mop, vacuum cleaner, etc.), or the beginnings of a huge responsibility that they never indicated an interested in (chastity device and key) on their birthday is ... questionable at best.

If your wife's primary love language is gifts, what has she been eyeing a lot lately? Has she left hints? If you've done any window shopping (online, or during a daily stroll) was there anything that she thought was cute / sharp / awesome? That's what you're going for.

Acts of service? Make her something that she's been wanting, or do something that directly benefits her that she's wanted to happen. Physical touch? Pampering day! Words of Affirmation? A poem or a story about her, or perhaps a personalized book of inspiration to help her when you're not immediately available? Quality time? What are her favorite things to do with you?

Her birthday is about you insofar as how you treat and pamper her with what she likes, not what you get out of it.

It would never occur to me to schedule a birthday trip for my partner to see a doctor about a Viagra prescription, or to gift him with a cock sleeve, or whatever, unless he was very much into humiliation and we'd already discussed similar possibilities.

As pretty much everyone has said, use your words and initiate non-birthday related discussions about your sex play and chastity. I did a search on the term "introduce wife" and found pages of topics - some relevant, some not - on the topic. I suggest going through the archives for assistance on this one.

Good luck!

 

"Accidentally" watch this video on utube and then tell them, "omg, we should try this", and see what their reaction is.

 

It's her birthday, not yours.

The chastity cage if your fantasy. At this point, you don't know how she will view it.

Find out before her birthday if it's something she finds of interest.

If she expresses an interest, then it's certainly an appropriate gift. If she isn't interested, then a more appropriate choice of gift is in order.

I would suggest that if she expresses an interest in the chastity experiment, then rather than giving her a cage, you'd both be far better served by giving her a key necklace. Perhaps a nice, attractive key, befitting her.

After all, the key is for her. The cage is for you.