Are you a submissive male that will never fuck anyone again?

I haven’t been in my wife’s pussy for over 5 years.

Talk about feeling emasculated.

 

Yes, submissive married male that will never fuck anyone again. It's been more than 5 years for me too

 

We haven't got to that stage yet, but I can see it coming.
(PS. after writing this, sooner than I first thought!)

I desire PIV much less now that I enjoy orgasm denial, there have been many times when I have been unlocked for short periods, and during that time sex has remained exactly the same for us, me giving her oral only and no PIV.

A couple of months ago we had a one week holiday together, and I was uncaged, mainly to avoid her having any embarrassment and any possible delays while going through airport security.
In the whole week we only had PIV once, every other night was our normal me giving her oral.
Since then, we spent a long weekend with relatives. Before now, we've always had PIV in the guest bedroom, we both enjoy surruptitious sex where we have to keep quiet to avoid it being heard in adjoining rooms. This time all we did was oral, no PIV at all.

Add the fact that she often finds PIV physically uncomfortable. Partly she has a shortish vagina, if I thrust hard in enthusiasm I can hurt her cervix, and partly from menopause it's become less comfortable for her. She also orgasms clitorially and not vaginally. All together it means she's not adverse to having oral instead of PIV. She prefers it as with PIV it's one bang and roll over to sleep, whereas when giving her oral I can give her orgasm after orgasm. She's also never been keen on getting wet and sticky when I cum, whether that's inside or outside.

I can see PIV ending for me, it'll be as much my choice (for her) as it will be her choice.
It's never been explicitly said, but our relationship seems to evolve with few words being spoken, we just know where we're both going, and slowly and gently we make our way there without fuss or argument.
It feels very much like when she used to feel guilty about denying me orgasms, there's the feeling that denying me PIV is wrong, but if I show her that I really don't need PIV to be happy keeping her happy... Down the rabbit hole we go...

 

QC what do you mean by your performance drops off? Ability to become erect or premature ejaculation or is it you believe your perform lesser than before?

 

i introduced chastity cages to my wife a couple of years ago, and was locked for about 6 months, almost 24/7. During this I was not allowed to have any PIV, and my wife had her pleasure with her vibrator. She has never come from my cock, so this didn’t seem much of a sacrifice for her to have her cock locked away.
However, my wife then decided she missed having my manhood to rub against her so we dispensed with the cages. I am still chaste, and have occasional PIV - but withdrawing before coming. I get erections; she gets my undivided attentions.

 

I want it....but never get it, and she'd probably be disappointed with my reduction in size, and inability to remain hard

 

Another point of note: having avoided all PIV for about 6 months whilst my cock was caged, we found my wife’s vagina had lost some of its elasticity (she is post menopause), and trying any PIV again proved painful for her. We persevered, and she can now take my 6 inches in her again. However, it was a concerning moment, thinking that I might never get to fuck her again. I still have no problem getting erections, and she enjoys having her cock to stroke. I think if PIV does disappear for us then I would rather have my cock caged again to stop me having erections.

 

I think its been a year or 2 since my cock has felt a pussy on it. I do get hand jobs and sucked. and that was how it went even before I mentioned chastity to her

 

We still have piv, but it’s gone from every day before the cage, to now about 4-5 times a month on average. And after our few years of being locked all the time other than those few play times, my “fucking” has become insert erection and slowly penetrate, mostly grind together until my Wife cums once or twice and then she’ll usually allow me a minute or two of slow penetration before she says enough. She never really cared for hard fucking, I’m not huge but I’m a little over 7” and decent girth, and she’d complain when I’d get too vigorous with her, and now because she doesn’t allow piv as often, she’s become much tighter.
I doubt she’ll ever make me pussy free, we both love the closeness from piv, and while we both feel intimacy from oral sex for her, she still likes to connect every couple weeks. I don’t think I could handle being totally denied piv, at the same time I’m surprised that I’ve handled being weaned off from daily piv too, so who knows what my future holds, it’s all up to my wonderful Wife

 

Very true! It’s amazing how chastity changed our sex lives. We also both love the closeness that PIV brings, and I love fingering her pussy. I wouldn’t mind having a smaller cock, but I really miss it if my wife doesn’t play with it, or pay attention to my chest and ass instead.

 

i've always ended up in relationships where i please Her exclusively orally, and occasionally released for intense CBT that counted as a milking.

 

I’d not mind trying that, but my wife has no interest in milking me or playing with my prostate.

 

If She keeps you in chastity, you could ask to self-milk for Her, ask for electro-stim for Her, use to use a dildo for Her. maybe you could offer to make a confession to Her about something, then self-milk? i dunno but honestly there have to be a billion ways to go if she won't have a thing to do with your prostrate.

 

Good idea. Things may head that way. It’s over a year since I came inside her, and she has no wish to have me cum- because if keeps me attentive to her. I would love to be milked, even if I have to do it with her watching. I am happy that I no longer cum through fucking; using electro-stim on my prostrate or a vibrator on my cock could be my future.

 

Into chastity for over 35 years but only locked for 14 years since they did not make cages back then or if they did it was pre-internet so no way to know. I have not had any form of penetration with my wife or our girlfriend for 35+ years or so. None of us can remember. I was on the honor system at first and then after we retired and moved away from our girlfriend who wanted to stay behind with her family, we got into locked up chastity and I wear my cage at all times except for medical reasons as we are old and I already had two surgeries this year, and usually a break at the end of each year to let my penis grow back to normal size and test out the plumbing with one or two orgasms. Then it is back to locked up for another year of no orgasms.

I have been sexually submissive since i was 19 and a cuckold to a live in girlfriend. However, I can also be dominant and have cuckolded a few husbands, especially my wife's girlfriends. In my non sexual life I am very alpha and need to be top dog or best at what I do. I was active in all popular sports, making the all star teams and winning gold medals. I was also a combat squad leader for a year.

I am sexually submissive and mostly into S&M. For me it is a stress reliever because it demands all your attention. Difficult to think about problems when someone is kicking you in the balls or whipping your ass bloody. I was lucky in that my wife's girlfriend and I had a history because she has very large breast on a trim body and at 14 I grabbed them in a pool and she slapped me so hard that my ears were ringing all night. That is when I first fantasized about her and even now she is the only girl in my fantasies and I think of her every day and miss her. She was a staunch feminist and throughout the years sparred with me verbally having not forgiven me for grabbing her breasts.

Needless to say she was into causing me pain and during sex she would moan with pleasure when I moaned in pain. She would get so wet from her lubrication dripping down her thighs. However, sex with her was her using a vibrator while I licked her ass or feet until she had an orgasm. She would sometimes give me permission to masturbate but only while she was causing me ever increasing amounts of pain until I came. She would punch me in the face, put cigarettes out on me, etc.. So yes, I was ver submissive in bed but once we were done, I ran our poly triad. I was outvoted most times but they usually did what I planned for us to do, etc. since I had the money and ideas.

You will get used to not fucking. I do not even remember what it felt like and after so many decades and ED, I do not want to fuck anyone as I would not be able to perform anyway. I am 72 so my sex drive is not what it used to be. Not having orgasms has made me connect deeper with my wife. While she has a few orgasms with her vibrator or my hand, rarely my mouth, we spend a lot of time kissing, touching and hugging each other expressing our love. Yes, she also likes to hear me moan in order to have a fast (I mean in seconds) powerful orgasm, she does not act like a dominatrix. She knows I like sexual pain and now she is conditioned to treat my moans of pain like she treated my moans of impending sexual release. Then when done we go back to just a normal couple again with no BDSM games outside the bedroom.

Might be the reason why we have lived a fetish and poly lifestyle for over 50 year together. We have tried every, even the yucky fetishes on fetlife. Yet, I am still an alpha male teaching self defense with firearms and my wife's friends tell her that their husbands are afraid to anger me since I look like a mafia hitman and train and collect knives and guns as well as other weapons. They would never suspect that I am sexually submissive.

 

Impressive story. Thanks for sharing. My wife and I are both in our sixties, and only discovered chastity about 3 years ago. I really enjoyed being caged and denied erections. Whilst now uncaged I am no longer allowed to cum, though my wife likes me inserting my penis. We stopped doing our usual penetrative sex, with me usually on top, as I felt I was thinking solely of my pleasure and felt I was more of a beta male. Now, if my wife does wants her cock inside her we lie side by side and i let her guide any movement; I haven't thrust in and out of her in those three years. My cock is a tool for her now.
I fully recognise how much closer being chaste has made our relationship. I cuddle my wife far more than before, and she loves it. My wife is very vanilla; she won;t punish me or play withanything other than my cock. I am in a happy place, and would gladly have my cock locked up if I thiought sye wouldn't miss it and would tease me....

 

Your situation sounds very much like ours. Thanks for sharing!

 

My erections aren’t what they used to be, even with Cialis. I rarely have PIV, but now masturbate more when we have sex. Fortunately I can achieve orgasm with a somewhat limp dick.

 

I am 62, and enjoying that I can still get hard erections without viagra. With me not allowed to cum my erections are my source of pleasure- that and the occasional PIV with my wife.

 

Yeah, that was me about 7 years ago, with a little help from low dose daily Cialis. After my Prostate surgery, things seemed to have went downhill. Age related is my best guess.

 

As you point out, you may surprise yourself with what you can "handle" once you try it, you may even learn to like being weaned off and eventually denied PIV. With the right mindset and motivation you can be trained to enjoy almost anything.

 

Totally understand now !

 

a virgin then, very impressive

 

Totally understand - Thanks for clarifying!

 

To me this is really sad along with many of the other horror stories I'm reading here.