Anti cheating device

That's a good deal!

 

I tried explaining this exacr thing to my other half, and he took it the wrong way. You've explained it so much better than I did.

 

How do I tag him, so he can read this?

 

This is a nice note and reminder that chastity serves a very basic purpose. Not only is chastity a physical deterrent, it’s also a symbolic one. Just like a wedding ring in my mind.

Cheating deterrent
Masturbation deterrent.
Behavior enhancer.

Thanks for the reminder.

 

My wife feels the same, she made comments about how admirable she felt it was that I’d offer her that kind of piece of mind. Which was funny because that wasn’t even on my mind as far as a reason to pursue this lifestyle lol. I now work almost exclusively with very attractive female co-workers. My wife enjoys knowing I’m locked, she knows nothing would ever happen but there’s that extra layer of security that guarantees it.

 

@Queens property This is what I was trying to say the other day.

 

Yes, this. This is what I was trying to get across to my other half. I trust him 100% but goes deeper than that. Especially as I have a brain that is often unkind to me.

 

Well put.

 

If you're married cheating shouldn't be a thought regardless

 

I think the consideration is that you have symbolically shown your partner you have no desire to cheat. A piece of paper is nice, but a cold hearted steel cage really shows devotion!

 

My wife has, in the past had the odd moments of fear or suspicion that I had or was up to something. I never was, but certainly, that has not come up since being in chastity. It removed that small insecurity, and that makes me happy too.

There is a lot of trust involved in day to day life as well. Nevermind pulling out... The key is on her nightstand available for cleaning anyway, which she doesn't involve herself with.

I could knock one out in the shower quite easily, but I don't.

I could come in my cage but I don't.

The cage is hugely symbolic. The commitment it reminds me I took, when I feel it's presence, or before I jiggle it or remove it to clean, is ultimately what chastity is all about.

She'd know if I cheated and had an O anyway. There is no way to hide the drop.

 

These were the reasons my wife was willing to jump into chastity with me. She's come to learn (as have I) that I have an addiction to self-pleasuring that I could easily give in to. Yes, she trusts me to a GREAT deal. But she understands that temptation can become too great! This tool provides the perfect amount of deterrence for me and makes it difficult / almost impossible to cheat without her becoming aware!

 

My journey started when a lady I was working for hit on me big time. Just starting in a new relationship , who is my wife now, I didn't want to start a relationship that way. SO when I got home I told her about my day. Later that night she brought up the subject of chastity and if I would wear one only while working . Oh course I said yes, and we picked one out and ordered it. That was ten years ago. Wow that long?
Since then I have went from just wearing to work . To wearing 24/ 7 for long periods of time , and became her maid fully dressed . The journey continues .

 

I think this is one of the reasons my Wife found it so easy to love.
Not that She didn’t trust me, not that She couldn’t. But I do think She worried about it sometimes, however irrational that was. Now, She doesn’t have to even think of it

 

Yes indeed. When my wife and I first started dating and playing around with various kink, she expressed her doubts about me staying faithful. Around that time was when the CB2000 first showed up on the internet. So I purchased one. I have been in some kind of chastity device ever since. We have been through many devices since and have settled on the Evotion Bijou for the past few years. If for any reason I have to remove the Bijou from from 'her' cock she insists that the device is promptly installed back on 'her cock' once I am back home. My wedding ring and the Bijou are worn 24/7. I have no emergency key to the device, she has possession of the keys. We are both content with this arrangement.

 

I never understand people who downplay emergency measures. The whole point in life is to NOT need them but have them in case you do. I mean why have a car with airbags and seatbelts if you’ve only been in one or two car accidents? And fire alarms are really pointless if you’ve never had a fire…

 

I personally believe ‘needing’ an emergency is a grasp to retain control. It’s the unwillingness to accept being out of control… even if that means an unplanned trip to ER. Honestly, how often does that actually happen to us?

 

My Chastity does provide Mrs Chaste with an extra level of reassurance if you like. Her first husband ran off with a woman from work which was totally devastating for her. Leaving her with a 2 year old son. A couple of years later, along comes me. Now Mrs Chaste does trust me. But then she trusted her first husband! We have talked about it and I am not like him at all, but that little niggle is always there. But as she said it's her problem and one that doesn't cause issues with our relationship. Fast forward some 20 years and the discovery of male chastity! BINGO! So here we are a further 10 years on. I'm locked up and safe. She genuinely loves having me in chastity and it is no longer optional. Funnily enough, we were talking about a group I do a bit of voluntary work with. There are several women that I'm friends with and the person in charge is a woman as well. She has never met them and probably never will. But she still says that little irrational niggle is still there and the fact that I'm in chastity does make her feel more secure! To be fair, we do make it a part of "the game". I'm kept chaste to protect me from being led astray by all those "wicked women" who lust after me! Yeah, like! Funny things, our minds. She knows she can trust me but "once bitten twice shy " as they say.

 

Totally agree @Nicoftime
My wife told me about the monogamy aspect before I even thought about it. When I remarked that I was a bit dissappointed that she didn't trust me completely she replied that it was other women she did not trust. "You can't help that you're a man, sweetie, and as that cage proves, you CAN be manipulated. It's funny to think of some slut coming after you now!".

I think there is a sub-concious aspect to this as well. I think women are programmed to be more comfortable with a man they feel is in their orbit - securely theirs.

I even agree with the emergency key thing. I don't judge others for carrying one, but for us it would take away an important element.