1955 ‘Good Housewife’s Guide’

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    I came across this ‘Good Housewife’s Guide’ that was actually published in 1955:

    https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.littlethings.com/1950s-good-housewife-guide/amp/

    It’s almost unbelievable! And somewhat disturbing. Time to write a modern day ‘Good Husband’s Guide’ or ‘FLR Guide for the Male.’

    I’ll start:

    1) Kneel down and take her shoes off when she gets home. She likely has had a trying day and should be greeted in a way to show you are there to please her as soon as she walks in.

    Care to add more guidelines? ;)
     
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    @Ma'am M I started doing that in 2001 when She went back to work, I became Mister Mom.
    I never knew they wrote down all the things that I should do. Oh they left out the doctors
    appointments, dentist, pick them up from school... ect. Now that they are grown this is all
    very easy. Now She gets The shoes off, feet washed, lotion-ed and kissed. And that's just
    the first 10 min. I bet the men back then had no idea of pleasure of serving a beautiful
    woman, like @Ma'ams Slut I love to serve.
    Don't know where to start.
     
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    I am also a stay home, homeschooling dad. It’s a ton of work and I would not give it up for anything.
     
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    Haha, I’ve seen this before... Unbelievable
     
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    I am sure I have a copy of that somewhere.
     
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    I've seen that many times before but now it takes on a different meaning since we evolved into an FLR! We are retired and I am a lousy cook but much of it is practiced in reverse in HER house!
     
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    This old article has been making its way around the internet for years. I’d be willing to bet if you asked women when it was first published, they probably thought much of it was outlandish.

    With that said, there certainly was a big difference in home and marital dynamic in generations past. My grandparents were having children in the 1950s and were part of the generation that this was written for. When my grandmother passed away in late 2007, my mother and aunt took turns grocery shopping and cooking for my grandfather for almost a year. In over 50 years of marriage he had literally never learned to grocery shop or cook. I remember once, and only once, when I was about six, I had to be home alone with him for some reason and I was hungry. He got some leftover macaroni and cheese out the fridge and heated it up in the microwave. He cussed profusely the whole 30 seconds that it cooked, complaining about having to do a woman’s job.

    But, notwithstanding my grandmother’s dedication to cooking all meals, she certainly didn’t pamper him like this article suggests. They fought intensely and frequently, sometimes coming to physical blows over usually petty things. More often than not, the fights were instigated by my grandmother.
     
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    Ok, not sure what the fuss is about. Picture 1955, post war world and most countries affected are trying to recover. After many years of instability and huge numbers of mostly men wiped out to free the world from tyranny, it's not too surprising that the media of the day would be trying to do 'their bit' to bring some semblance of normality (for this generation). As a veteran of both D/s and a warfighter, I think we should treat this type of thing as just another piece of history. We learn from it and try as hard as we can to make the future better for everyone.

    On the second point regarding something similar for a 'Good Husbands Guide' or 'FLR Guide for the male', absolutely! The working day either at work or at home is hard, anything that supports all efforts is a good thing.
     
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    If you google submissive marriage, you will still find a lot about “how to be a submissive wife”. This is still, even in today’s day and age, a very popular way to manage a marriage.

    I think it is a bit more of a palatable and conforming idea compared to the opposite. It’s easier to get behind an idea that is more in line with how their mother or grandmother did things.

    In reality it is really no different than a bdsm relationship, it provides expectations and boundaries, as well as define roles. It just so happens that around here we are more into swapping the roles. I think a lot of us are ok with the unevenness, but unlike before, it’s no longer expected and is always a voluntary power exchange.

    I’ve read some of the current articles about modern women leaning submissive to help aid and deepen their marriage. Of course I find it something I wouldn’t be comfortable with, but do understand that having only one truly lead and submitting to a partner does have its appeal and history of success. It just so happens I prefer a bit more of a partnership, I like her making most of the decisions and me reserving veto power if it’s something I feel strongly about.
     
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    My grandmother would have laughed at this nonsense. She was the matriarch of her household and made the rules. My grandfather was certainly no slouch though. I miss him dearly!
     
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    there is a classic but under-noted line from the ending minutes of 'groundhog day'. bill murray's character asks andie mcdowell's, "what can I do, for you, today?"

    as has been said, "the rest is commentary." : )
     
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    And THAT was what they wanted society to be?
    No wonder the 60's happened!

    n+1) Constantly be aware of what 'ingredients' contribute to relaxing your Domme & learn from that. Strive to apply what you learn & consistently improve upon it. In this way you can make sure She becomes absolutely spoiled.
     
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    that's a awesome idea
     
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    A good House Husband or House sissy should be attentive and an all around good listener. The male animal is typically a poor listener and women know it. Surprise her, Pay Attention! If the Lady of the house really wants your opinion, she will probably give it to you. :)
     
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    What a role reversal from then to now.. Gee sounds like my Goddess read that and now it's me. No complaints . Loving it.
     
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    Put her stuff away after kneeling while greeting her at door. Have house nice and clean and organized upon her entry. Have a drink ready for her to help relax after a long day. I’d say make dinner but I’m pretty bad at that but I will add clean up the dinner mess and get the coffee ready for the am!
     
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    Excellent!:D
     
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    It's reading one of these that lead my wife to be feminist and now I guess I'm more and more becoming the 50's housewife. Servile and obediant for her. Funny course of time.
     
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    I can totally see that being the norm in 1955. It is what it is. But there were a few things in there that seemed really degrading for women, even by 1955 standards. “His topics of conversation are more important than yours”....kinda shows you what they thought about women back then.
     
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    WOMEN! Know your limits.


    How terribly frightful!
     
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    Thank you @henry58
    That may seem amusing and comical but there are still many males that think like that.
     
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    How true, the "but there are still many males that think like that."part. A while back when I worked in construction, we lived across from someone just like that without the accent. Had my wife going ballistic. It was interesting to watch her attempt to bring him into the 20th century. I think his wife finally dumped him sometime after we moved on.
     
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    I get that this was the norm in the 1950s. There’s definitely a feel of mysogyny though. And unfortunately women have had to battle this cultural role of subservitude to men.

    The main reason that we even use the term FLR is because it is quite contrary to these cultural norms. And while I think females are superior and better equipped than men in many ways, I do wonder whether those of us in FLRs inflict the same demeaning feelings in men (but you just happen to like it)?
     
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    We are a strange breed, some more strange than others ;)
     
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