Last development?

Sorry to hear she didn’t want to continue. It is good that she was able to tell you how she truely felt about the experience. It is not unexpected, but I hope you did thank her and let her know how much it meant to you that she tried it. Many couples have an unsteady start to chastity.

Maybe later she would be interested in trying it without the cage, just your commitment to not masturbate without requiring anything of her. Or perhaps there is something she might be willing to do as a punishment if you fail to keep your promise (a fine, a chore jar, a pampering session for her?) Of course, to do that, you really don’t need her participation all, only your own willpower.

Good luck with whatever comes next from this.

 

We do something similar, my wife is not very sexual, but we have a a set one day a week for sex play. She can ask for sex anytime, which she rarely does, but we have that one day we do something sexual. The other days, I am not to ask for sex at all. I do this whether I am locked or not.

I also have that commitment to never masturbate when not locked without her permission first.

 

I consider myself lucky, my wife uses sex to release pressure and to relax. Depending on what has to be done on the weekends and how her week went, we play at least one day on the weekend. Now that the weather is improving, Sundays are reserved to relax around the pool and depending what we have arranged, it could be a play day. She has a high pressure job and depending on what happened during the week, Friday night could be a punishment of a night to just relax.

If she is burnt out, we have a relaxing dinner and relax in the hot tub and watch TV until bedtime. Now those times when she needs to let off steam, I can be taken to the basement and she flogs or spanks me to get out the aggression. Now if its a 7 day release week, Saturday after all chores are done and all shopping completed (divide and conquer unless joint work), the cage comes off at night for a few hours of fun before I am re-locked. Then Sunday is the start of a new week and we sit at the pool on nice days or find something else to do on the not so nice ones.

On those 14 day release cycles, the first Saturday night is milking night, but only after she is pleased and all her desires are fulfilled. If our friends are over, both ladies must be satisfied before the 2 guys are milked. There is no release on this weekend, Sunday becomes a struggle because the ladies (if company, if not only my wife) tease us all day long. In a few weeks, the 14 day cycle will be even worse, my wife will tease me all day with the porn star tan. That is when she wears her triangle suit suit, a string bikini where little triangles are on the nipples and the crotch and late in the day she sill take them off and she is tanned except for those three areas and likes to rub her nipples against my chest and her bottom against the bone above my cage. Its tough to sleep Sunday night and makes for a long week and attempted erections all week long.

 

Why do I suggest continuing mental chastity on your own even if she is no longer participating?
1) Encourages self control
2) Teaches appreciation for other forms of intimacy
3) Focuses your energy on building her desire for you
4) Shows her that you are committed and this is not just a playtime activity
5) Decreases consumption of porn which can contribute to unrealistic expectations within a relationship. (Porn is great when couples are willing to explore new ideas, but novel sex ideas must come after building communication between couples.)
6) Enables her to have a greater effect on your arousal (Women like to know they are desirable based on physical response just as much as men appreciate it.)
7) Conditions you to crave her attention over the attention of your own hand.

If she does not want to participate in chastity, consider asking her if she minds if you do it on your own. Be open with her about what you want to do. If she is not supportive of you using a physical device, consider other reminders such as a bow, a wrist band, or even a bell on a door handle (reminds you of you commitment.)
1) If you like devices, ask her if you can wear it during the day or when she is not around
2) If she doesn’t like the appearance of the device, be certain to remove it and not let her see it
3) Be certain the cage does not damage her property
4) Her needs always outweighs your desire to wear the cage.

These are just some of the things I learned about the benefits of mental chastity. My wife appreciates that I do this for her and has not participation beyond enjoying the benefits as above. Your situation is unique and what works for one couple ma not work for another.

 

Have you tried giving her massages? Buying a massage table worked wonders for our sex life.

 

sadly, you can't force people to think a particular way. Hope you find some mutually acceptable resolution.

 

Sorry to hear about that, I hope you can sort it out.

 

@Anonoman, sorry to hear as well, but take @Blue00 's advise into account. Go and find yourself, do what feels good!. In the mean time, keep on talking with your better half. All the best!