Our foray into chastity.

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    #1 Brand3023, Apr 20, 2022
    My wife and I have been together about 5 yrs now and while we have always had a great sex life other aspects of our relationship were lacking or suffered over the course of the past 2 yrs or so.
    At first we attributed it to the stresses of kids and the difficulties from the pandemic but things continually seemed to get worse no matter what we tried...counseling, weekend getaways, individual therapy, trying to be more open and communicate better to one another...but we just kept growing apart.
    About a month ago my wife finally just broke down and explained that since my knee surgery about 2 yrs ago she's felt like our relationship has mostly focused on my needs, whether in day to day stuff or in the bedroom. It never occurred to me she wasn't satisfied completely with our bedroom activities esp. We always were exploring new things and playing outside the vanilla box. Toys, restraints, swing, pegging etc but she explained she never felt in control or that it was truly about her. We had a long conversation and I finally told her to find something in relationship no matter what she could feel totally in control of.
    About a week later I'd learn that statement was about to be a reality. She told me she wanted to try male chastity. At first I was a bit perplexed but as she explained more and I began to understand that for her placing me in chastity gave her the control she greatly craved I began to consider it. A few days went by and after some research I agreed to give it a try. She ordered a cpl different devices and this past Saturday we started. She locked me up that morning and almost immediately her demeanor changed she was much more assertive and also more teasing...
    Day 1 was interesting the cage definitely took some getting used too and she wasn't about to let me out no matter my complaints. I spent all day and night locked up. By the next morning I honestly barely noticed the cage except for the morning wood that was struggling to happen. Around 10am I told her I needed to shower and get ready to prepare Easter dinner. She followed me into the bathroom unlocked me and proceeded to fondle me until I was rock hard. We had sex in the bathroom, showered and had sex again afterwards. Then she locked me back up. Since then I've been locked 24/7. She has even mentioned it except for the random you haven't tried escaping question. I'm now curious as to how long she plans on keeping me this way....lol
     
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    #2 Guest 6019, Apr 20, 2022
    Welcome. Enjoy the ride. That's it for you now. Get used to it. Lol. Denial is better than orgasm. It becomes more intense and addictive, the longer you wait. I'm at 10 days at the moment, and the slightest touch from Mrs Jah is exquisite
     
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    #3 Chaz69, Apr 20, 2022
    You're a very lucky guy to have your wife initiate this, as it's usually the other way around. Do as she says and enjoy the ride! And keep us posted about your progress.
     
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    #4 Brand3023, Apr 21, 2022
    Update
    Today after work I started experiencing some discomfort in the cage. Took a shower and tried ignoring it but it got rather unpleasant. Wife is at work so I messaged and explained circumstances. She allowed me out by telling me where the spare key was. Turns out the cage had rubbed the base of the head a bit raw. Sent her the pic she requested and she had me lotion up and put the cage back on.
    I'm finding she's very serious about this and not going to be easily swayed in allowing much freedom.
     
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    #5 Guest 6019, Apr 21, 2022
    What cage do you have?
     
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    #6 Brand3023, Apr 21, 2022
    It's from lock the cock. I think it's called the big black cage
     
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    #7 LesterBallard, Apr 21, 2022
    Good luck
     
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    #8 Guest 6019, Apr 21, 2022
    I had something similar for a few days in the beginning. Then Holy Trainer v4 nano or small all the way, but with metal ring. So easy to put on, and only two pieces, three if you include the internal lock.
     
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    #9 Junebug15, Apr 21, 2022
    Enjoy
     
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    #10 Nicoftime, Apr 21, 2022
    How long does she plan on keeping you this way? Well now hat she knows you are ok with it, and that you are willing, there isn’t any reason for her to ever give you access again…without her.

    I know my wife would never go back to just letting me do whatever I want with it whenever I want.

    This was her idea, so doubt she will change her mind on it unless you make it a bad experience with shitty behavior.
     
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    #11 PastaGuy, Apr 21, 2022
    Sounds great. I hope your wife enjoys the benefits of male chastity. I'm sure you'll see very soon how positive this can be for a marriage. It's helped my marriage tremendously so far.
     
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    #12 cj0434, Apr 21, 2022
    Encourage your wife to journal about it here. I would love to know what she’s thinking about all of this too. As for the cage, it can take a while for your body to get used to it and also to find the right cage that works well for you.
     
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    #13 ChasteHubby2015, Apr 21, 2022
    It’s rare to see someone whose wife initiated male chastity and I’m glad that you care enough about her desires to accept it. I’m glad it’s making such a huge positive impact on your relationship and her happiness. She’ll need to find you a better fitting and more comfortable cage and eventually, she should also get you pierced and into a secure device since escapability is already concerning her, and rightfully so. Hope to see her participate on this site one day.
     
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    #14 Brand3023, Apr 21, 2022
    Wife called this morning and asked if I was working local and if so to come home real quick. I swung in on my way to my next job and she told me to drop my pants. I did and she unlocked me inspected my penis and then grabbed a small package that was sitting on the island. She produced the vice plus in black and proceeded to lock me up in the new device. When she was satisfied I couldn't escape she pulled my pants back up. Gave me a kiss and said have a nice day babe.
    I'm finding out she's really enjoying this more than I expected.
     
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    #15 Chaz69, Apr 21, 2022
    Ah, this one, personally I hate that style of cage. I would also suggest a knock-off HT style cage as a replacement as resin is better than plastic, they come in 5 different sizes, so chose the model that looks like it best matches your size. Each one comes with 4 different base rings, so you should find one that works for you.

    https://www.ebay.com/itm/353581105451

    However, I don't think you can properly clean yourself in these cages, so you will need to remove it every few days for a clean. If you want to avoid that, get an open design metal cage, and my preference is the "bird cage" style as you're much less likely to get caught up in the bars.

    This is the one that I'm wearing and I love it:
    https://www.ebay.com/itm/293156642997

    Here's a smaller version:
    https://www.ebay.com/itm/293156641775

    And here's a large version:
    https://www.ebay.com/itm/113874811298
     
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    #16 ChasteHubby2015, Apr 21, 2022
    That’s an excellent device that, if fitted with very little room for growth, makes it very difficult, if not impossible, to escape. It sounds like that’s exactly what she had in mind when she ordered it.
     
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    #17 Brand3023, Apr 21, 2022
    This is carly the wife of brand3023.
    This experience has been so empowering for me and I'm so lucky to have a husband that's supportive. He's not small or even average by any means and I struggled when I first discovered this if it was the right thing to ask for. We have a great sex life and have always been adventurous but I needed to feel like there was an aspect of our lives that was mine. That I had control of. I found chastity and I became intrigued. I don't want to cuck him or be a hotwife. I just want to know he's mine and only mine and when I want him or need him I hold the keys.
     
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    #18 CuriousAndy, Apr 22, 2022
    Hi Carly, that's lovely. It sounds very much like my wife and I, that secret aspect of our lives seems to deepen our connection to one another. I love feeling that I'm totally hers.
     
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    #19 ChasteHubby2015, Apr 22, 2022
    I think that’s great. Just of curiosity, how did you discover male chastity and what intrigued you most about it?
     
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    #20 Brand3023, Apr 22, 2022
    I was looking into ways to assert myself in our marriage. Ended up finding flr and bnwo and while neither really were what I wanted they both mentioned chastity.
     
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    #21 Brand3023, Apr 22, 2022
    What intrigued me was its ultimate power in many ways.
     
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    #22 Brand3023, Apr 22, 2022
    Sure he could cut the lock and go do whatever or even go get plowed in his ass but then I'd know he's not truly committed to me
     
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    #23 James1990, Apr 22, 2022
    This is great stuff! Very interested to keep reading your journey. I have a similar style to the first cage you guys used and it's bulky and too large for me but comfortable enough for daily use. I have a coupe cheap knockoffs on order right now so hopefully they're a bit better fitting. Keep us updated on how the new one goes. I'd definitely be interested in something more secure.
     
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    #24 LockedbyFridayGirl, Apr 22, 2022
    And many more ways that you haven’t even discovered yet!

    Loved the “Pit Stop”!!!
    Switching of the cage! That was Hot!
     
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    #25 Brand3023, Apr 22, 2022
    I decided to sleep naked next to him last night. Poor guy was fighting an erection all night. I almost felt bad and let him out but decided I'd make him suffer.
     
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