So I have been playing with cages for about a year now without her knowledge, mostly when she is nor home. I tried bringing it up a few times casually but not much of a response . About 6 months ago when she was running some errands I locked myself up and tied myself to the bed using out under bed restraints. I left a note and some lingerie to join me in. At first she was taken back by the cage but didn't say much about it. I ended up putting it away after we made love. This past Monday after getting home from work early I put the cage on myself and while she was downstairs wrapping presents I wrote a note to her that I was napping and waiting for her in bed. I taped the key to the lock on the note. I must have dozed out and when I awoke I found a note on her pillow saying the key was in a safe place until later(a little interest). Ofcourse the kids woke up from nap not allowing us to play. Later that evening she was tired so nothing happened and I just slept with it on. Tuesday I took the kids to school and returned home and sat down for some research on how to tell her how this can help our almost sexless relationship. I ended up with a 3 page letter. I left it for her to read and even included websites for her to read. Later that evening she took my cage off and told me she is just old fashioned and we had sex then off to bed. After reading many threads here I ordered the book Male Chastity A key holders book. It should be here Monday . I also ordered a cb3000 that hopefully fits a little better. My question is how do I get her more involved with chastity? I've thought about just putting the cage on myself and dropping the key in her bra? I did notice and I think she did as well that while I was caged i did touch, caress and kiss her more. Any and all advice is welcome.