What % of chastity is about the penis?

I agree totally with your statement. If male chastity and orgasm control are only about a mans penis in someones mind, then they do not understand the psychology associated with orgasm denial and FemDom or FLR. If someone says they live a chastity lifestyle yet all they talk of is their penis being unaccessible, then they are simply a player in my mind.
Being kept chaste, being denied access to our once most prized possession, turns our focus not to our lack of being able to use and touch our penis, but to the one who controls that ability and decides if, when and how we will enjoy the pleasure of a tease or total relief from a much wanted orgasm. We focus all that pent up sexual tension on them; making sure to pamper them, please them, make them feel good and provide sexual stimulation when wanted.

 

Besides the pictures of cages, discussions about teasing etc, the penis has very little to with it besides that it is the focus of what isn’t the focus.

Pictures with boys are going to happen. We like to show off our gizmos, toys, and more than likely, enjoy being able to prove to others how serious they are. Like a concert t-shirt. You can’t just say you went to the concert, you have to wear the shirt and show everyone lol!

I’m not sure about everyone else, but my penis doesn’t really factor into anything anymore. I never touch it, she rarely touches it, it doesn’t come up in conversation, and has rarely seen it without being covered in steel. When we first started I think she did things that she thought I would like. Looked up male chastity and tried ruined orgasms etc, and was even worried about my skin and would let me out often. As reality of her being in control hit her, she lets me out when she feels like she wants me to have fun. We don’t do anything she doesn’t want, and coincidentally it rarely involves my penis.

I still try to steer her that way sometimes, but by now it’s more like a joke or “that’s funny, yeah I know we could do that if I wanted”.

 

Most black or white statements are usually false.

For example, "Of course it has nothing to do with the penis. Instead, it has everything to do with the Pussy." Despite the fact that I prefer that statement to the original one LUCY quoted, that statement is also false. Its neither wholly about A or B or just a combination of the two. It's about so much more because successful relationships are so much more than anyone one thing.

 

Other than my Wife liking to tease it in my cage and squeeze my balls, with the odd edging and PIV session, not a lot. She likes multiple orgasms daily and I like her to have them, for me it’s very satisfying, it’s almost like me having an orgasm by osmosis, a very powerful sexual experience. I dote on her like a big dumb dog, and she praises and pets me like one. I do as much as I can for her, and I believe she appreciates it.

 

Have you looked in the new photos section in the gallery? I think some have missed the memo.

 

I think my wife would say the same. My wife is far less interested in my penis, or penises in general, than I am. Chastity is a means to end, partly for her to achieve the devotion and submission she deserves from me, partly to fulfill some sadistic tendencies she has by teasing, denying, and humiliating me, and partly to keep me from constantly fondling an object of my own desire.

 

Control the penis, control the man! I agree that a chastity device is just a tool to be used to ensure that control is maintained.

 

it's the opposite of being about the penis. It takes the penis out of the equation.

 

It certainly does!

 

It might start off "about the penis"! But it certainly has very little to do with it as time goes on and the relationship evolves. Well that's how it seems to have gone with us anyway!

 

Unfortunate terminology

 

It might be 100% about the penis, but it's also literally 100% about what happens when the penis no longer has control over the man and the keyholder does.

 

I know, that as we have 3 teenagers we don’t get an awful lot of time to ourselves. I know that pre device there was a lot of pressure, on my part I confess, to getting up early (when I’m at work i work 5am-2pm) and having sex, now I get up, take my various meds, drink a diabetic shake, lock the bedroom door, strip to my cage and get back into bed to spoon my Wife for an hour or so, or two if She just wants to cuddle... or if she wants a pre work orgasm, great... the option is hers, likewise at bedtime if the kids are asleep. Whatever she wants makes me happy and a lot of that has to do with me being in chastity, it made her able to transition from “scenes” to full on FLR... it was a useful prop

 

As with most things Chastity is about what you want it to be about. It’ll mean something different to someone in a relationship vs someone who is single and self-locking.

To me chastity is 5% physical and 95% mental. I’m a self locker and right now it has nothing to do with anyone other than myself. That’ll change as I bring someone else into my intimate life.

 

I think it depends upon the context of the discussion.

If you are having conversations about standalone chastity, of course it’s all about the penis. If you are strapped into enough steel to make a bumper for a 57 Chevy, it tends to be on the man’s mind a lot, which is transferred to his partner. Practiced on its own, chastity can be quite exciting and fun. For a while anyway. Then she might realize something...

If the discussion is within the context of a FLR, then chastity, if implemented, is just one aspect of the relationship. Not likely the primary focus. She has probably made a rule about this. In this case, a chastity device is a behavioral tool or perhaps a symbol of submission. Serving the female in various degrees will likely be the main focus. The penis in this case, securely ensconced, tends to move to the end of a very long priority list.

 

concert t-shirt proof of interest and the fact guys like to show off their toys...and as far as here goes, it’s the topic of the site and besides their kh is the dominant subject matter for pictures I would think.

 

A chastity cage is just a device, or tool. It can be for many things. It can be for making you more horny, or less horny. It can make you more cock centric, or less cock centric (with lots of work!). It can be to make you cum harder, or not at all.

In the past, my wife and I have used it as an tool for making sex more exciting after 20 years. Nowadays it's more for removing the offending part from the equation. Nothing wrong with either, if both partners are in agreement with it.

While I am in the "no more penis" camp, I do feel that we use this forum to share info that's technical, physical, and relationship wise, with each other. We may discuss penises more, because this is a safe place to air our thoughts, and give feedback. I am probably far more quiet and content with permanent chastity in person, than I may appear here, because I'm often just thinking aloud here, among other chaste guys. Even if this was a forum for guys who had had their dicks cut off, we'd still be discussing how to deal with it emotionally and physically, and giving tips on how to pee and such. For all the fun that chastity is, it's also really difficult to achieve and do, and it's great to have a place to share info on the journey.

For my keyholder, and to a lesser degree my wife, this is about removing the penis from the dynamic and/or relationship, to let other things come to the forefront. Having someone take away your genitals is a huge sign of commitment for both myself and the womenfolk. For my keyholder, the joy is in my acceptance of this, and the power dynamic that it creates. In that sense, for 2 women that don't want dick waved at them, chastity is about reaching the point where there is no dick. Some Dominant women who engage in chastity are on the journey there, and some enjoy the process of getting there. Some dick vs. zero dick I suppose! Whatever works.

 

You must be new here.

 

I can say it is about state of mind and dynamic with us, being less goal oriented. We don't even use a cage much. So it's usually deemphasizing my cock.

 

It's about the penis in the same way that going online is all about the computer (or phone). Or a video game is all about the joystick.

 

Good question. For many men, it's all about the penis.

 

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