I have been trying chastity as a lifestyle with my wife for many years. We have been married for 18 years and our sex life is really awesome. We have three daughters who are all old enough to take care of themselves in and around the house. She does not really like the whole chastity cage idea, although from time-to-time she does play along for 2-3 days maximum. I run a 2 companies and have numerous people working for me. So I am always in charge, making decisions and thinking for and on behalf of other people. For me it is a huge turn on to "let go" and relinquish control to my wife in any and all matters sexual. I am a self proclaimed masochist and here my wife is epic, she love giving me pain and is really into biting, chewing and overall CBT which is awesome. She does have a wild side where she would dominate me from time to time in the bedroom to some extent, but still holding back somehow. I am not into any sissyfication of cuckolding, just the idea of my wife having control over my penis and orgasms drives me nuts. I also LOVE giving my wife pleasure whilst locked. She loves penetrative sex, all natural, NO Dildos or foreign objects allowed. This is a FIRM rule as I have tried this before. She does allow me to perform cunnilingus on her but again it is not something I get to do a lot. She feels self concious about her vagina , even reaches orgasms in no time when there is some alcohol involved. Followed by shame and shutting down again. I have tried numerous times over the past couple of years to get her more involved, but she endures and accepts my fetish without real complaints. So I play a game where my wife is an unaware keyholder, carrying the keys in her bags when away on business trips etc. I will send pictures and tell her, but to no avail. So yes, I continue to play as there are the odd occasion where she will play along and boy does she have a cruel side (Which I LOVE). I also love and adore my wife, so any outside keyholder is not even a remote option.She is awesome, being the fuel that fires by every sexual fantasy even after all these years! I would like to get her more involved or interested. I stumbled upon this site, hoping to find like minded people and learning more. Perhaps share experiences and get advice from people in similar situations? Perhaps get a woman's perspective in all these matters?