Training a man to have fewer orgasms

Although, I acknowledge that at some point the initial stages in chastity and the excitement and exchanges become less frequent over time.
Why would you want to be trained to have no ruined orgasms?
Personally, I think that if you’re not even having a ruined orgasm than surely there is no fun exchanges going on. My wife has stated she probably won’t let me have a full orgasm again which i understand the reasoning for.
What reason would there be for the male in the relationship to have no fulfilment whatsoever?

 

Get what you mean! But I find the biggest thrill is teasing and denying! Even better than a ruined orgasm. We are all different though, and there is no wrong way of playing this game.

 

Oh, incompletely agree. The denial is what drives me. I was just wondering more than anything why you would want to deny a ruined orgasm… as my wife has decided I won’t have a full orgasm; If she was ever to decide I wasn’t allowed to cum at all than where would that leave us? She tapped my cage the other day and i ejaculated everywhere. She was only laying on me and messing about. It’s just natural that at some stage it’s going to happen. Just through teasing. She may decide at some stage that also is not allowed. Can I control that? What drives a KH to deny complete pleasure. As you say Tease and denial is a thrill… at what stage do you go to complete abstinence of pleasure? What do the couple receive from that? As to me, it sounds too one sided and almost selfish. Chastity is a choice… but no one chooses to be unhappy in a situation. Can you receive pleasure when you have no intimacy?

For completeness I’ll say i consider a caged orgasm to be ruined

 

I felt similar in the past, when I thought tranditional ejaculatory orgasm was the ultimate pleasure.

From a Taoist/Tantric POV ejaculation is a waste of energy so our ultimate aim is orgasm without ejaculation, and we are actively working towards it. My experience so far corroborates a lot of the woo-woo written about such orgasms.

Ejaculation is nothing really, and a properly ruined orgasm clearly demonstrates it's a minor part of orgasm.

You can have pleasure from many things, even thought alone can produce orgasms if you dedicate enough quality time to it.

 

i am more happy now that i dont have spurty ones.

 

We started MC in August of 2018. I have gone from 7-8 orgasms a week to maybe 4-5 a year. My Wife(KH) started slowly. One every week, then once a month, then a few a year. When I'm locked and can't masturbate and my Wife(KH) denies me, I really have no choice. She has let me go cage free a few times and I don't cheat on her by masturbating. She knows now how I am after a orgasm(The drop). So, I guess she has me trained not to orgasm without her permission. She has trained me to tell her how close I am to cumming and to say no to a orgasm. There are no ruined orgasm, I either have a full blow orgasm or nothing. She gets me to the edge and will let my penis twitch and leak... But no cumming. So that is how I've been trained to have fewer orgasms...

 

Im starting wish I was trained now. Still pretty new to this life and I’m a coupe of days from my first full month (31 days) without a full orgasm.
She has said it would be for special occasions etc. but last night after pegging me and me desperately pleading to be inside her… she informed me she didn’t really believe there was another special occasion now until her birthday. That’s next January. She doesn’t count Christmas as that’s typically a low for us on the sex front with both being exhausted from socialising and work lives.
Without me realising she’s implemented the “cold-turkey” method. I’m feeling slightly anxious about it today!

 

I've only been locked for 3 weeks so far, have been allowed to cum twice in that time. First after 5 days, then 7 days, currently on day 10. Don't know if the longer intervals are intentional and I daren't ask.

 

were you allowed to cum from PIV sex? If so do you worry that chastity has damaged your stamina so much that you no longer satisfy her for long enough… and that’s why she’s leaving it now

 

I'm in a same sex relationship but yes I was allowed to top and I had to go slow and easy or I wouldn't have lasted very long at all. We've since bought a dildo harness so he can get his fix of dick however he likes it and with no need to unlock me. Looks like I might only be required when he wants slow and sensual, but more often than not he wants a good pounding.

 

It is fascinating that your best friend has been of help to introduce you into the lifestyle, as I always thought women recommending one another how to keep their husbands chaste belonged merely into the realm of male fantasies
Interestingly enough, this "natural development" towards ever less frequent, less pleasurable and less privileged sex acts for the man kept chaste by his partner that you describe is almost identical with the one my girlfriend and I were going through. It went from her giving me regular deep throats to less frequent and devoted, then only exceptional and unfulfilled, and in the end no blow jobs any more. From elaborate hand jobs to occasionally wanking me off mechanically to letting me do the effort of humping her hand, then two fingers only, then setting a time limit for getting myself off, leaving me the alternative either to minimize the pleasure by hastily pumping me over the edge or risk to let the opportunity slip away, ending up even more horny and desperate for relief. Finally taking away any feeling by ointing my penis with numbing creme, just to tell me coily that I could masturbate now If I needed to, thus restricting me to anal pleasures only.
From conventional intercourse our sex life quickly shifted to me going down on her and pleasuring her passionately with my tongue as long as she liked, while she would at best occasionally bow my stiff member down with her foot. If I am allowed to enter her, she delights in numbing the cock that is hers by agreement, rolling a condom over it and using me like her living dildo, a mere toy. On other occasions, she would let me fuck an artificial vagina under her supervision and direction, or let me ride her strapless strapon dildo.
I am really intrigued by the idea, that all this is a means to gradually subdue my male sexuality and finally absorb it completely into her female lust.

 

Pussy free, handjob free, blowjob free, erection free, orgasm free… my george.. What has female led and male chastity has done to the better of MANkind..? Zilch. And the female gets assured of unlimited free flowing juices of her own via pussy pounding, tongue lashing along with occasional deep thrusting from big coloured penis thrown in for a good measure..
the female has attained nirvana status here on earth.. and the male willingly and sacrificially submit himself to ensure this..
if there is a doggies heaven.. maybe not zilch, im sure there is one for good slaved dedicated naked boys…

 

When I was married we used the honour system for several years. I was previously a four times a day masturbator so initially it was difficult but we still had an active, almost daily sex life. Over the first year she reduced the frequency of my orgasms as she found that the longer I went without, the larger and harder my penis would be and the more satisfying the sex was for her.

So most times either I pleasured her with my tongue and went without myself, or she'd chain me spreadeagled to the bed, and depending on her mood, either instruct me not to come and stop and get off as soon as she'd orgasmed, or for a longer session apply numbing spray and a ribbed condom so she could ride me for up to half an hour. Then she'd leave me for a short while to calm down before releasing me after I promised not to play with myself.

She'd allow me an orgasm about once every 7 - 14 days and often I had to earn it by some sort of forfeit, usually cross-dressing, holding a butt plug, taking a whipping or pee-holding. I miss those times.

 

Your answer is very clear and concise, it hits on several points that are often asked.

 

Thank you.

 

You are very welcome my friend

 

I think people overthink this, it's easy...be assertive, and keep him locked till you want him to have one...simple

 

I am being trained to have none. My wife is concerned about drop off as I am not the same for a few days. I am constantly teased in the cage and I ask to cum. She stops. Then starts, then stops.

my role is to pleasure her and not myself. She loves the power and I love her. Getting down to zero is hard but will be essential

 

Lots of good points above. In our case (once I could wear a cage overnight, etc) she started doubling lockups and reducing orgasms in between (both full, ruined, etc). But she added intimate attention at the same time. She encouraged me to take "Altar Training" hypnosis (to increase MY pleasure from giving her oral) and would ride my cage or strap on, making sure I felt her pleasure. Many times when I was out she would ride me, freauently w numbing cream/spray, with clear instructions not to cum "or else". We noticed I could last a really long time this way and was super enjoyable for both (Kareeza?). My stamina has improved - except if she tells me to cum and then I have zero control (cant explain how/why). One of the best parts for me/us is that she is so turned on by this that we can snuggle and if I am turned on, she gets turned on, and even with the slightest of contact from the cage she cums and I feel waves of pleasure equal to any orgasm I have had. To me this is the essence of orgasm denial "training" - to replace the selfish goal of his peak pleasure with a greater combined intimate pleasure from moving past that.

I miss my full PIV orgasms more than ever. I just now see that lustful craving (which she manipulates so well) as fuel for our new, higher level, lovemaking.

I think the hormonal "high" of fewer orgasms would be far less tolerable without this added pleasure (can I call it "compersion" if no other guy is involved?).

 

Sounds like you are both heading naturally down the tantric sex route.

Have a read about the "valley orgasm".

It's where we are heading, after the long lock.

 

The little spasm on the dick coupled with some oozing out of sticky stuff medical world calls it orgasm meant very little for good proper men.. it is for some adolescents to feel the thrill of assurance that their little growing up dicks have come of age.. only to be surrendered to strong dominant women for good lifetime keeping..

 

I got to day 12 before he let me cum, then another 15 days after that so the intervals are getting longer. On day 6 at the moment so I probably won't get to cum for another couple of weeks. I don't know if he's training me or just increasingly enjoying my desperation and obedience. I think it's a case of if I'm a bad boy I stay locked for longer as punishment, whereas if I'm a good boy I stay locked for longer as a reward.

 

Who, and on what basis, is judging what feels like fulfillment to other people

I often find giving my Lady pleasure by whatever means, ...... can be and usually is its own reward