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    My wonderful Goddess has decided it would be better if I had no orgasms anymore. I figured it would be interesting to see what experiences others in a situation like this have had. So here's a couple of questions for y'all.

    1. How long has it been since your last full orgasm?

    2. When you had your last orgasm did you know it was your last?

    3. How as you life and relationship changes since?
     
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    1. Dec. 20, 2020
    2. No
    3. It's rapidly evolving.

    It's been very recent that I was informed I must go a full year.....almost never. I have still not fully digested it.
     
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    Can I ask, how does draining actually work?
     
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    Are you speaking of Milking?
     
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    1. 5mo
    2. Hope it was not
    3. Hopefully she becomes KH!
     
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    Just to be clear, I'm in permanent chastity right now, but I do expect this phase to end within a year or so.

    1. How long has it been since your last full orgasm?

    About 4 weeks.

    2. When you had your last orgasm did you know it was your last?

    Yes.

    3. How as you life and relationship changes since?

    It hasn't as yet. We were already doing long term chastity with few breaks. I think Xena may have become more casually dominant, but it's hard to measure.
     
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    Its been over a hundred days since my last O. Initially thought it would only be a month until my next one. My Domme has gone missing, so unsure of next step. Immediate decision is whether being chaste will help me deicide what to do, or should i have an orgasm, clear my head, reset and start something new.
     
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    Interesting topic!

    1. How long has it been since your last full orgasm?

    A little over 4 years. The last full orgasm was Dec. 2, 2016.

    2. When you had your last orgasm did you know it was your last?

    Mistress never gave any indication if it would be my last, but it seems to me that it may be. One never knows, and I know better than to ask.

    The last ruined orgasm she allowed was a little over 1 year ago, Dec. 10, 2020. She didn't say it would be last but she did say it would be my last for a very long while.

    3. How as you life and relationship changes since?

    While I miss orgasms, I do not miss the mood drop that happens afterward. As I get older (late 60s now), that drop has gotten worse and takes longer to recover from. There could also be a psychological component or some behavior modification from orgasm control conditioning over the past 16 years - where I feel guilty for cumming, or something like that.

    I do find that I am able to channel or redirect that unreleased sexual energy into other life activities. Currently, we have a long-distance relationship, but before (when it was a "short-distance" relationship), I was able to use that energy for work service for her and for being her pain slut, as she wanted me to be. I do miss that aspect or outlet for my energy & devotion, though.

    Orgasm control & denial has also fueled a lot of introspection, wondering why I do this - seeing both pluses and perhaps minuses. But mostly I feel this has enriched my life.
     
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    :rolleyes: Gaauugghh!
     
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    Mechanically permanent chastity.
    (When a better term comes along I will start using it.)
     
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    We had played with chastity off and on for 20 years, always for long term periods (weeks to months at a time).

    I last had a full, PIV orgasm about three years ago. We don't remember exactly when, because at the time we didn't expect it to become perman... err, such an extended situation. It just sort of evolved that way. About ten months into it, I mentioned that we were coming up on a year, and she said that I should be prepared to keep going. We did, right into another year. About halfway into the second year, she realized that she had forgotten what I felt like, and decided that there was no point in unlocking me.

    Ironically, being locked up has led to more frequent lovemaking (as it did during previous periods), and pre-covid we were going at it a couple of times a week, sometimes more. We have a child still living home, and since she's not out visiting friends anymore, we've cut back to once a week.

    Since we are veterans at this, it has not led to any major changes in our relationship, but over the last year, I've become more introspective about the possibility of doing this for the next twenty years. Mrs Edge says that she would be just fine, but then, she's getting some really good orgasms.

    We admit that this kind of thing may not be for everybody, and once in a while I am amazed at how things have gone for us. But overall it has been about the most positive experience in our marriage.
     
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    How long has it been June 28th 2020
    No I had no idea it was my last
    Our FLR relationship is constantly evolving we are starting anal training and I am going January 27th 2021 for my PA
    We have an agreement i will service her when ever she wants I will never have PIV or a full penis orgasm again only caged or anal. She will not peg me but after training she will watch me ride a suction cup dildo. When we are home I am her slave. As far as our friends she does not want them to know.
     
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    it was ages and ages ago. i dint know it was my last and really it wern cos i was milk a lot after and thats a lot difrent but mess still comes out. i dont has milking now cos no mess comes out me.
     
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    Lock filled with super-glue then welded shut?
     
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    1. How long has it been since your last full orgasm?
    When she wanted me to have one. Longest was two months, usually every couple of weeks. It's not a race and she really likes sex.

    2. When you had your last orgasm did you know it was your last?
    I'm pretty sure I haven't had my last. She lets me know if it is going to be a long lock up, it's a tease for her. If a KH wants to have fun with her chaste man and motivate him, she might not want to deny orgasms forever...

    3. How as you life and relationship changes since?
    We are still partners in our relationship, but she is more dominant now. We are much more intimate now which seems ironic. Intimacy now takes many forms, not just sex. It only occasionally results in my release. She like to tease. I do a lot more house work and regularly give her massages and pedicures. In general, our life is much better.
     
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    Actual quote from someone around here.
     
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    Permanent chastity is a distinct thing, true, a badly labelled distinct thing, but still a distinct thing. Given that permanent can simply mean stable, indelible, or not easily removed the label in current usage is actually more accurate than "chastity device" since our devices do not actually ensure chastity, and are mostly used for unchaste purposes.

    So I'll tell you what: once everybody has started calling their crotch jewellery "Locking anti-erection devices we can pull out the back of", then I'll start calling my mechanically permanent chastity experience "open ended arrangement involving a not easily removed locking anti-erection device that I can pull out the back of"!
     
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    I beg to differ. The concept and description of a "chastity device" is easily recognizable: A device (belt, trapped testicle cage, piercing anchored tube, etc.) that prevents the wearer from some degree of cheating or self abuse (yes, I'm going all Victorian here). While in practice, the designs generally aren't perfect (for their intended purpose), I'd argue that the concept is easily understood. If you told somebody who had no prior knowledge of them "Hey, I'm wearing a chastity device," they would immediately have some idea of what that device was supposed to do, even if they had no idea what it looked like.

    In contrast, while the term "permanent" has several connotations, the most commonly understood usage is "lasting or intended to last, or remain unchanged indefinitely." Assigning a time limit to the word creates an oxymoronic expression, like "Jumbo shrimp," or "Microsoft Works.* "

    If you've been following the Caged/Denial Matrix threads (and why hasn't the latest one been turned into a sticky post?), it's easy to see that we barely, as a community, can even agree on the simple aspects. This group has weekly questions on things like "If I remove my cage for cleaning, do I have to stop my count and start over?" or "I was unlocked for a plane flight, does that break my streak?"

    Personally, I would like to suggest that we just drop the term, except that the connotation of "permanent" is too hot (in the sexy way) , and people love to fantasize over it. Even Mrs Edge and I enjoy our fantasy about it, and we know better.

    So, I'm fine for using "permanent" as meaning "some indefinite time," because that is a common usage. However, i take umbrage at the use of "permanent" coupled with a time period, because it renders the term meaningless at best, and downright silly at worst.



    * Sorry, old software joke from the early days.

     
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    Ahhh, Windows 3.1 era. If you were able to put one of those machines on a network and be reliable, you were a god.

    I prefer the term “Full Time” chastity. Much like a full time employee, you get authorized breaks and time off. Maybe.
     
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    That's a good phrase.
     
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    I agree. There are so many words that can express what most of us are talking about that the use of "permanent" seems silly.

    Long-term
    Lifestyle
    Full Time (as mentioned)
    Career Chaste
    Dedicated
    Rarely Free

    I spend at least a third of my days OUT of a chastity device. Yet, I am chaste on those days too.

    Is a married man "permanent"? I am a permanent husband now. Seems weird.

    A chaste husband......is a chaste husband, until he's not.
     
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    Ah, I get you. The one thing is that I think this runs up against the need to be realistic and honest in threads like this, otherwise you run into the opposite problem of unrealistic claims to the perpetual, and more importantly giving false information about emotions and relationships: I can't honestly claim to believe I've had my last orgasm ever.

    Also, though I agree there isn't a consensus on what isn't permanent chastity, most people seeing a sealed lock, a rivet or permalocker variation would agree that that counts.

    @Lazlo Toth is right that there are more specific and accurate terms. Would "sealed" immediately convey what I'm talking about?
     
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    My last full orgasm was on the 2nd May 2020. I had a ruined one on the 2nd August 2020 and nothing since.
    I did not know in August that it was the last one but I feel much better now that I know I won't be allowed an penile orgasm again. I was really our decision and it is quite freeing to know there is nothing to expect from it ever again. I can just move on and enjoy other aspects of life.
    I have now learned to enjoy anal sex and can reach multiple anal orgasms
     

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