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    Thanks Giles. Just for fun I am looking up some synonyms for us.

    Ongoing
    Continuous
    Sustained
    Persistent

    For me, chastity is now my norm. I can expect to be held chaste for years to come. I'll spend plenty of free days. I'll likely cum again--even if only by accident. But I can expect to be in a state of ongoing chastity for my foreseeable future.
     
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    Hang on. For those who've just tuned in, remind us of your locking arrangements?
     
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    I'm thinking that we've gone off the original topic, so I'm going to start another one on this.
     
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    Does she have the keys?
     
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    Dr MBogo You heard the lady! In you go.....

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    1. 14 months

    2. No. I still don't "know" that.

    3. very little.
     
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    No I didn't know
    She's in total control. I have no choice. Once she locked it, it was over.
     
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    1. Over 18 month now
    2. Yes, we had a little celebration of my last manual orgasm
    3. So much better, I live to serve my gorgeous Wife now
     
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    o_O:oops::eek::p:mad::confused::cool:

    TomAllen, this is my emoji representation my "permanent" roller coaster of emotion when we bring up permanent. Lol.

    I know you have a debate going on another string, which has produced some interesting and hilarious etymological (not the study of insects, that would be entymology) genius, yet creates a conundrum. I am enjoying it very much. I have a black belt in wordplay.

    If I take off my cage once, it is no longer "permanent" chastity? Comparatively, then, if I stop using the word permanent, can I ever use it again? Or, is it permanently banned? I have a permanent place in my mind for the word permanent, and I would hate to lose my rights to use the word, and then have to permanently, or even temporarily, delete it from my vocabulary.

    It is nice to know that CM provides much more than chastity blogging. Where else can you go to talk about the intricacies and definitions of verbiage and chastity, all in the same place (correctly spelled with an " i ", for all you elementary etymological students out there)?

    (If I misused any words in that previous statement, are they permanently banned from my vocabulary as well?)

    As a sidebar, the word chastity is misused here far more than the word permanent. I will not go in to a dictionary definition of the word, but suffice it to say, some here do not qualify to use the word chastity.

    That raises a question of ethics of morality. Ialso not get in to a discussion of morality, because all people are born with the inalienable right of free will, and using that free will to be chaste or not, to be moral or not, to be judged by the various value systems that define "moral" or "normal", is not acceptable.

    That said, exposure of your free will (which is not uncaging yourself and subsequently exposing yourself in public, that would be "free willy", not to be confused with the movie with the same name, which was a good movie, it was about an Orca, it was not a porn movie, at least not to my knowledge, since I don't do porn, as that is considered unacceptable in the value system for which I am self appointed judge and jury, executioner not required) may put your choices on a judgement seat, and you may be permanently scorned by others that do not share the tenets of your ideals.

    So, what we learned from our etymological journey? First, we learned that some words are rich in meaning, both in quality and quantity. Especially American English which, since it is a language that has been littered with colloquial expressions used as defined words that express innumerable meanings, is far less defined than, let's say, British English.

    Thus, speaking American English is a difficult challenge if it is not your native language.

    Native Americans, ok, not really native americans, because that would be the tribal groups like the Cherokee, Seminole, Hopi, Ute, etc. Have you ever wondered why we even call them Native Americans?

    Technically they are not "American", since they were here long before Amerigo Vespucci discovered America and was named such in 1507. Actually, he discovered "South" America, which is a continent all its own (but lazy Europeans, who were probably just exhausted from all the raping and pillaging and murdering, who stole the land from the Natives anyway, just said, we will just call this North America.

    For you Columbus fans who are now complaining that Columbus discovered it in 1492, he actually landed on the caribbean island of Virgin Gorda, in English, "Fat Virgin", because it's elevation looked like a fat lady lying on her back as he approached.

    However, not only, "in 1492, Columbus sailed the ocean blue", but, also "he got us all a day off of school". His name, Columbus, or the derivative Columbia (not the south american cannabis mecca) was used to establish Washington DC (district of Columbia), and has also come to represent the "first" of something, like the space shuttle Columbia, which was the first space shuttle to launch (1981).

    That by the way, is the actual history of the "founding" of America. Don't let them fool you with the pilgrims and Natives sitting down to a turkey dinner and laughing and watching football all afternoon. Sure they might have done that, but the slaughters that ensued after that between the pilgrims and the natives after that, make the days football (American) games look like a badminton tournament.

    Permanent lines were drawn against the natives. Slaughter, bloodshed, and all the rest is PERMANENT history. It cannot be erased. That was the real founding of the USA. The stuff you read in the history of the USA books came well after.

    In 1861, Abe Lincoln established the newly drawn up idea of Thanksgiving, which became a national holiday to celebrate the Country's bountiful harvests that it had been graced by God (who I am sure had "blessed them" for all the wanton slaughter of the natives he had given the land.

    Remember in the movie, The Mask of Zorro, with Antonio Banderas (ooh, and Catherine Zeta-Jones, who back then looked like someone that you would permanently take your cage off for that, or permanently wear it) when that ugly cowboy dude said, (while killing and running the Mexicans out of what is now the Southwest USA, the other Natives, oh yeah, that was Mexico until they pushed them out and built a wall, I mean a new border) "we're doing the Lord's work!"?

    Yes, it was the Lord's work to rape and pillage and murder and take over someone else's home.

    So it's no wonder it was permanently established in 1861 for there to be a PERMANENTLY established day to thank God for the rich history and blessings PERMANENTLY bestowed upon them.

    So it's no wonder that in American English, we don't have a word that clearly defines permanent chastity, without some caveat that disrupts it's meaning.

    With the USA and its Constitutional preamble stating "in order to form a more perfect Union" which, like PERMANENT, cannot be made more perfect, because how do you improve perfect, which is hardly a word that can be assigned to this country, or any country, any more than you can be less perfect, which is not perfect, or more perfect, which is not possible, or LESS PERMANENT, which is not permanent, or more permanent, or permanenter, depending on your grade level, or more unlimited (like many cell plans).

    So thanks to American English, American History that is PERMANENTLY recorded, we neither have true permanence, or perfect.

    Permanent records show that the only thing that is permanent, is the smoke and mirrors used to delude people into "fake news", fake establishment of founders history), or "alternative facts", using the second founders establishment as if it was the original one.

    With that, I say, count me in with my "alternative facts" as someone who is permanently in chastity, though there are actual facts that might skew it just a little bit.

    Oh and the latest run on the US Capitol shows that in reality, the deep seated centuries old rape and pillage mentality is alive and well. It's a PERMANENT and ACTUAL fact that some things never change.

    That's what I think. It is my permanent opinion, because it will never change. It won't be taken off for cleaning up its harsh truths, or shaving any of its thoughts. Lol.

    You can like it or hate it. You can report it or remove it. But you can't change it....it is permanent history.

    Oh yes, I live here. I learned it from the permanent historical records. I was taught local history in elementary school. I grew up in the area that many of the original things happened. The dinner, the pillaging, the murder, the bloodbaths. I have been to the places it happened. I have stood on and touched the ground where many events took place. I have seen the monuments as PERMANENT markers of history.

    That's how I define permanent. LIke my chastity, ......well, sort of.
     
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    Well... that went south rather quickly.

    Fortunately, I don't discuss politics or religion around here, so I'll stay focused on the original concept.

    Permanent chastity / denial is a very loose concept. I tried to help refine that with my CD Matrix, and now we're working on refining it even more in another thread. It's a fun, mental exercise, and I have no idea if any of this will be permanently accepted by the community at large.
     
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    Sorry to say this! What a load of old bollocks! :). No offence!
     
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    #36 subrick, Jan 24, 2021
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    Methinks some of you have too much time on your hands! LOL ;) I guess I do too! LOL

    To me, I would use the words "temporary" or "permanent" to describe my chastity, depending upon what our expectations were at that particular time in our relationship.

    In much the same way a dentist might give you a "temporary" filling in a tooth until such time as a "permanent" repair could be made. Most know, that even the "permanent" filling most likely WILL NOT be permanent in the sense that it will never need any additional attention. But for now, that is our hope. Never need to deal with it again. Likewise, the "temporary" filling is usually only supposed to last a couple weeks or months, but I'm sure it could last quite a bit longer.

    In other words, it's the expectation at the time the filling is created as to whether we call it "temporary" or "permanent".

    BEFORE I was locked up on April 10, 2020, any chastity play we did was what I'd call "temporary". I knew I'd be let out sometime in the not too distant future, though I never knew when, and one time it was 100 days long! But On April 10, 2020, I pretty much knew that this was going to be "permanent" in the sense that I should NOT expect any release of any kind for a LONG time, possibly forever. I should note that it's the idea of the CHASTITY being permanent, NOT wearing the device!!! I can remove the device, if needed for cleaning, but REMAIN chaste either by Her observation or Her trust in me. As long as I don't orgasm or even try to bring myself any pleasure while uncaged with Her direct supervision, in our minds, I am still in CHASTITY and continue the "permanence" of said chastity.


    So, with that, the questions:

    1. How long has it been since your last full orgasm? Early April 2020, not sure of the date.

    2. When you had your last orgasm did you know it was your last? No.

    3. How has you life and relationship changed since? Most importantly, I am so much more devoted to my Beautiful, Lovely Wife and Keyholder. :love: She has locked me up and taken complete control of my sex. Assisting and helping Her to reach orgasm is more pleasurable and rewarding to me than my own orgasms. It seems my desires for Her never diminish anymore. I am ALWAYS horny for Her. All I can think about is bring Her happiness and pleasure. I take whatever opportunity I can to touch, caress & massage Her. Since then, we have been working on our FLR, which is coming along slowly. We're there in the bedroom, but we're figuring out where FLR works and where it doesn't in other aspects of our life. She alone determines when there will be any sexual contact and then what it will involve. My job is to be there to support Her, entertain & amuse her as She teases, torments and denies me, to assist Her with Her orgasm, and then to help bring Her back down, relaxing & massaging Her afterward, with NO expectation on my part for any type of reciprocation from Her. I have had no orgasms of any kind since 4/10/20, BUT we have had FAR MORE intimate contact since then then we've probably had in the 10 years BEFORE combined! She has a genuine desire to be intimate now. She knows that I am completely satisfied with Her orgasm and She doesn't have to feel guilty about just drifting off to sleep afterward, while I lovingly caress and massage Her to sleep. I don't have hard statistics, but I don't think it would be unreasonable to state that She now has more orgasms in any given month than She used to have in an entire year! And I ALWAYS loved helping Her achieve her orgasm, so it wasn't lack of desire on my part. But before She locked me up on 4/10, most of the time She would avoid sex because She just wanted to go to sleep after She came and didn't want to feel guilty about denying me. She is past that, now. ;) She fully knows that I adore Her and get complete satisfaction from her orgasms. Even to the point that quite frequently now, after She has given me a CBT and/or teasing and denial session, She asks me: "Do you need me to have an orgasm for you?" She's SO considerate! I ALWAYS answer "YES!!!!" .

    ~subrick
     
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    Tom Allen. I totally agree that religion and politics should not be discussed here. Hence the statements abut being non judgemental.

    Also, to your point about going south, I did that. It's no better in the south. When I first came here, it appeared like the civil war had just ended, and the Emancipation Proclamation was just a suggestion from some Yanks up north of the Mason Dixon Line.


    Chaste J. For the record, my bollocks aren't that old, and they do a very good job of holding my ring in place. I do admit that they do not get used for their intended purpose, they are in permanent retirement.

    Really, I am not kidding, permanent retirement, even by Tom Allens standard, which, I think, is the correct standard, and the benchmark that we likely all agree makes the most sense.

    Subrick, yep, I probably need to sleep more instead of posting. Lol. Great job on the filling analogy. I stopped to think about it and I have had all my fillings replaced and had rework done on others.

    I laughed each time I went to my dentist and at the check out there was a jar with fun size chocolate bars, and I said, it's a dentists office. She said, it was job security for the doctor and staff.

    I guess until they pull all your teeth, ouch, now that is PERMANENT!
     
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    Me thinks you just need to calm down a bit and not take things so seriously. Easy enough for me to say I suppose, I just can't take anything in life very seriously at all. I think you are over thinking things and winding yourself up to much. Either that or you really are the most passionate person in the world. Mind you if everyone was like me I don't think much would ever get done at all. We are what we are I suppose. :)
     
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    Love the tangential train of thought! It's a lot like how my mind works, on a "permanent" basis. LOL
     
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    whats it mean please.
     
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    @subrick Even though I am in a very different condition as I have full orgasms I fit perfectly with what you say. I feel more and more satisfaction in my partner's orgasm and when it ends and she completely ignores me I rarely find myself disappointed. Which almost always happens when she makes me orgasm because I know that for at least a few days I will not feel those feelings related to chastity.
     
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    I've been chastised and locked, orgasm free since july 2019.
    Once my crossdressing became a larger part of my lifestyle, Mistress decided I am not permitted to experience a male orgasm.
     
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    After my last 2 nights I and my wife are discussing my inability to climax.
     
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    well it dont matter realy dose it cos they only last a little teeny bit of time.
     
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