Phase 3 / Year 3 / :)

It did help as you made me laugh, thanks.

 

quick non sexual update. It has been a week since I got my PA piercing.
No sex for me, not even taking advantage of being free However I feel great. There is still some pain from time to time when I use the bathroom. Every time i grab my Penis I check for the base ring which hasn't been present for over a month however since there is some stimulation from the piercing I feel I am caged. Walking feels interesting as I feel some stimulation. Peeing works well as I am a PA owner with foreskin - so no extra spraying although I got used to sitting down so I continue that way.

My wife is on a business trip so no pleasing her either, even though we seem well aligned at the moment. And also less worried about the Looker not working out with the Lock. I found some ppl that are happy and problem free with the solution. And I can get used to some pinching.. that'l be o.k.

 

2 weeks since my piercing. no more pain... i was a good boy. neither me nor my Lady have played with her penis.

Ever since doing the Vasectomy in 2016 I noticed some things differently where my balls are. I always thought that it was normal and due to the OP. However recently I noticed that I am growing a third ball. It is about 1,5cm big.

I wasn't that scared for it to being cancer so I went for the PA first (very adult like haha) so yesterday I went to the doc. He saw my PA and asked about it and also asked if this was a PA. So he probably hasn't seen that many. He told me it was most probably not cancer but recommended removal.

In personal news. It was a horrible week for me work wise. Might have to close the office here and fire all staff and look for a new job. We are still fighting it off. Lets see where this goes.

I tried to not let the stress get in to our relationship and it seems all I craved was a real hard beating from my lady. That didn't happen as she was busy for work and I didn't ask her for it. I did however tell her that that was the first thing I wrote in my CM status.

Hopefully soon we will start playing again. Love my Lady.

 

My Lady played with her penis Thursday night It felt awesome although some level of light pain told me it was too early. So it was a short session. I offered a massage and or Oral but she preferred to hug.

Told someone in the office about the piercing. He was cheerful and told me he also had a Penis piercing (under the skin piercing). No word about Chastity though.

 

Something weird happened.
I acted up from time to time, got sarcastic. Nothing too bad, no real fight but she told me she would punish me. I looked forward to that punishment, it was exciting. I had a almost full erection waiting for a lot of minutes until she was ready to apply the punishment.

The erection quickly went away. Not sure how to describe I can't say I enjoyed it in the moment but as soon as she was finished the erection grew back and I was so happy she had just punished me. I hugged her and thanked her.

I slept better that night. I talked about it the next day and was honest that I didn't really understand how much I enjoyed it and she told me there was too much anger inside you that had to find a way out (work stress & anger) She said she did it so I could sleep better. It actually worked.

update on the piercing - almost 3 weeks (thursday) no pain. happy to have it but no desire to rub one out. Also she is staying away from it for now. I asked her if she is happy I have the piercing she told me we will have to see how the sex is like first and how it heels. But I can tell that she likes it

Love my Lady.

 

PA started hurting. A 2 out of 10 however a little worrisome. Continuing salt baths and if it gets worse I will have to look to visit the piercer. and or maybe the doc. I think a nightly erection started it.

The week was unspectacular. No touching from my Lady, no punishment from my Lady. Mostly harmony although yesterday we had some issues. She raised her voice on me and I felt accused and raised my voice. For what she says 5 minutes. It was more like 15 seconds but it was very wrong. I feel sorry and ashamed.

So last night I gave her a foot massage and felt like a punishment would have made us both feel closer but didn't want to suggest it.

I am extremely non sexual at the moment. No thoughts of Masturbation, no topping from the bottom, no talking about sex. Work is still messed up.

 

41 days ago I got pierced.
Since then I have not played with myself. Not sure when was the last time before the piercing.
My wife played with her dick twice in 41 days. Neither me nor her had an orgasm. I didn't lick or play with her pussy in that time. I think I recall giving her 1 foot massage a few weeks back.

41 days with almost no play, no self play, nothing would have been unthinkable 3 years ago. I have to admit it hasn't always been easy. We are both really stressed at work and I felt neglected. It felt extremely hard to show some signs of submission as there was very little coming from her side. I would love to restart again but I want to make absolutely sure I don´t top from the bottom.

 

81 days ago I got pierced (or 2 months 20 days ago) .

The piercing hasn't healed as it should have done. Sex is still unthinkable. Masturbation, BJ and handjob are not possible. However me being me and not just content with my progress I did have to play with myself. I used the magic wand and i used it a few times to many orgasms. Obviously I always felt bad afterwards. It was when I felt low in energy anyway. My KH didn't play much with me in fact there was almost no play and I had totally given up on the submissiveness as there was no domination for her whatsoever.

To top it all off I was sick twice - very sick which is very unusual as I am a very healthy person.

Friday I made an effort to reconnect. Since she travels a lot I decided I would get a nice meal to eat at home, open a good bottle of wine and just reconnect and talk. She can't be bothered to be dominant if I am not submissive and vice versa. I got on my knees, kissed her feet and all weekend was the old submissive again.

About a week or perhaps around 10 days ago I begged her to be pegged and she obliged but it was a complete disaster. We stopped after intense pain. This weekend I wore the plug a lot and told her about it. I told her that I am in training so that something like that never happens again. I did it as I thought it would be good to share but didn't think she would want to peg me just because i tell her. However last night she wanted to In the play session there was no sub / dom dynamic but it was amazing:

I will quote what I wrote in another thread:

And now the most exciting news: We will probably be hiring a pro Domme to help us advance in our Sub/Domme roles. I am very exciting and she seems curious...

 

Thanks Rectrix, you are right, it's not normal, planning a trip to the urologist ..

 

I have,, although because it didn't heal I stopped The sea salt had iodine. I am now using 0.9 sodium chloride.

 

First about the ProDomme... it was a very interesting week as I made contact with 3 ProDommes and one female member of a local BDSM site. My head was spinning, I was excited. However my Lady after having said yes a week later told me I should explain again what I had in mind and decided she didn't want me naked with another woman in a room

The good news is she said on Friday she would contact the woman from the BDSM site, she hasn't done so yet and I am wondering if she will do so.

What else happened this weekend.
I am still suffering with my PA piercing and it is probably due to the fact I am not circumcised. So I wanted to get the wounds get some fresh air. I took a hairband - roled back the foreskin and the hairband held the foreskin back.

Then we went to a first communion and after that to celebrate with the parents of the kid that took part in the ceremony. In the car I told my wife about the enormous pain I have (she knew about the hair band) so she said to open the pants and try to get rid of the hairband in the car. My cock was swollen and BLACK, no longer blue but black due to the fact that he didn't have enough blood. There was no way to get the hairband off without scissors.

I had to wait till we got to the restaurant, my wife got scissors and we went to the bathroom to cut off the band. All is good now - but the PA is not healing. I really need to go to the piercer soon to figure out a solution.It is pretty clear to me that the reason is the foreskin and the way it rubs and keeps also everything damp all the time.

Oh and then...
Last night for the first time in AGES she decided to punish me again.... I was really happy and although it hurt I was sad when it stopped.

She told me she wanted me to give her an orgasm after the punishment but right after she discovered something (nothing to do with me) and was out of the "sexy head space" and didn't want me to go down on her anymore.

 

We had a great week together. I was very submissive and she showed appreciation for me waiting kneeling in the door naked when she comes in, me kissing her feet. I did that every day during the week when she comes home from an early morning run. At that time the kids are still sleeping.

Friday we had our romantic dinner (third one in a row) but I was not going to talk about FLR, Sex, Domme, Sub or anything related to that. I felt good even though i was almost sure she hadn't contacted Oliva the person that contacted me who is a Sub in her Marriage but a Domme to some other people.

After we discussed a lot of vanilla stuff my wife asked me if I am not curious about Olivia. I smiled and said.. hmm, why, you called her or texted?

She told me no, I met her. I said WHAT.? My pulse rose, got an erection and my mood which was good before improved by 100%.

She told me they had coffee, talked a lot and later on Olivias husband joined the conversation. They asked us to go for dinner with them on Saturday. So I am pretty excited. My wife made clear that her hard limit is that I am not allowed to be touched or touch any other woman or man for that matter and I agreed. Told her all I want is you, all I fantasize is you. Stuff we might have never done but with only you. This is something that changed once I stopped watching porn. Fantasies only included my wife.

So about about Olivia and her husband. They are married and live together. He is the Dom in the relation, she the sub. But she discovered her dominant side in the marriage so they have an open marriage and can both see other people. Often her slave sleeps over. So not the standard vanilla relation.

My wife was more intrigued then put off by all of that.

 

I was extremely horny... She asked me for a massage. I got the massage table out and massaged her for what felt like half an hour. It felt great but I kind of had enough. So I thought I would test her, cover her up and see how she reacts. She was asleep.

So I just sat on the bed watching her for an hour. As she wanted to turn around I led her to her bed. I had told her several times that if she wants to sleep during or right after the massage I wouldn't care.

She wanted to play with me on Saturday and on Sunday night. But Saturday she had me stay out with friends, she went home early for the kids to sleep and I came home around midnight completely wasted...

Sunday we had friends over and she was very tired and slept a few minutes after we got in to bed.

Somehow the weekend felt better with her though. She once demanded that I get on my knees to smell her pussy just before she got in to the shower and she squeezed my balls more than usual. I told her that the weekend felt great and she told me, well maybe the "alternative therapy" (referring to Olivia) is helping.

I love my Lady.

About the piercing.. Not sure.. not ready to have sex, no immediate pain / but really need to find time to see the piercer.

 

My wife left on a business trip again. But she did things differently before she left.

She gave me a lot of tasks to do last week and while I was really good and got most of them done I couldn't complete all tasks.

While lying in bed for a bit she squeezed my balls, slapped my balls and told me she would punish me differently today. I was in bed naked. She told me to hold her water glass, get out of bed and watch her pack the suit case. Usually I would get annoyed by her changing her mind about which shoes or which dress to take but I was in my place and was happy. Really happy she took control over me.

Since I still have the PA in healing I was cage free. So I stood there watching her (also naked) with a full erection. She came twice to squeeze my balls but I was so turned on by this punishment. I loved it. Normally I would have been lying in bed watching my phone and so I was standing in the room naked, with a erection watching my naked Lady packing her suit case.

She asked me the next day how I liked it and I told her that I loved it and asked her if that was good or bad since it was a punishment, she smiled and told me it was good. She never really wants to hurt me.

We are in a really good place again and it seems the excitement of meeting Olivia and her husband and my wife taking advice from another Domme is already working out quite well. My Lady also for the first time is interested in knowing what turns me on and what I would like her to do.

 

The meeting with Olivia and her husband got rescheduled to the 14th, lets hope we will do it.

Things were pretty quiet since my last entry. So things are moving Sloooooow - but I recently read the first entry for 2018 and thought oh - boy we have advanced a lot in this year. So I am happy.

About the PA Piercing. The issue is the foreskin. That will always be the issue also with the Looker3 so the big decision is what and when to do. Part of me wants to get circumcised but the question is when and where does it stop. So a long story short. The piercing still gives me issues and the opening where the foreskin covers the piercing does sometimes even bleed. The pee hole has healed perfectly. I know I could change jewelry and probably I will but the Looker3 will give me issues with the foreskin too.

Still waiting if the saner one of our couple will say no to the circumcision. It seems pretty clear to me that the hand jobs will be less enjoable for us both without foreskin plus I liked my penis with the piercing. It got 1 cm larger as the foreskin is able to cover the entire piercing.

Lets see what next week brings!

 

Awesome Weekend. Started with us having friends over Friday. Very long night - very big mess at the end of it.
We went to bed. The next morning I told my Lady she should not worry, I would take care of all the mess. It took
a lot of convincing as she wanted to help. I was pretty inefficient but I got it done at the end.

My wife wanted to go shopping so I was in charge of our daughter, our son was at a friends house. I baked cookies with her
and we had an awesome time. My wife saw I was putting a lot of effort in to it and she promised a reward.

Unfortunately though we had to go out at night and since she had slept more during the night I caught up with some sleep.
She woke me up with a text on the way back. I got ready waiting kneeling in the door, Kneeling and naked. She was exhausted but horny.
She asked for the wand. She came after she wanted to pleasure me but slept pretty fast.

Next day I was good again, we had friends over for a BBQ. At night she slept when sleeping the kids. I wasn't upset, went for a walk with the dog.
She called me when she woke up asking where I was and I rushed home. She asked for a foot massage, I happily obliged. I notice she was tired again.

Since I was really horny I half embarrassed asked if I could ask for a favor, she asked me what. I asked her to get out of bed and kick my balls with her foot.
She asked me how, I told her as if you were kicking a football. She did it, some of them were a miss, others where a hit. But there was no extreme hit or extreme pain (thankfully?)
After she asked me to lick her... I got extremely excited... She had one of the strongest orgasms I ever seen her have. She was surprised. After we cuddled and went to sleep.
What an amazing weekend! Next Friday we hopefully see Dom Olivia and her partner.

 

Yesterday we invited Olivia and her husband Martin (both names changed).they are very nice and we started the evening by just talking about non Sexual stuff.until after dinner the topic changed and conversation only circled around bdsm. I told them about my cage the problems with the piercing the good time we pass when I am submissive.

Both Olivia and Martin (they are married) have submissives and they were suggesting a dinner prepared and served by the naked subs.

My lovely Lady was reassured that there is absolutely no problem with her setting the limit that I am not to be touched and that I am not allowed to touch anybody. Let's see what she tells me about that idea when she wakes up.

Apart from that offer it was amazing to talk about the stuff you can't talk with friends from your regular life and both me and my lady enjoyed it. Look forward to the weekend as I think something will happen.

Sunday my lady leaves to Mexico with the kids and I will join her on Thursday. During family holidays there is usually no play. Life is great I love my lady.

 

thanks @Couple4517 always very nice to read feedback. I read a few entries of non circumcised men with PA piercings that have no issues. But I also read about others that had issues. And yes, thinking about the looker3 it probably is best just to get circumcised. I already got permission from my lady.

 

What happened after meeting Olivia and Martin...

The next day I was submissive as always. When my wife came home from her morning run I was on my knees naked, waiting for her. Kissing her feet the moment she walked in. Then I went up and inhaled the scent from her pussy. She told me she loved when I smelled her like that which made me get an erection instantly.

She squeezed my balls. We had a few guests we had a BBQ with and they left pretty late so my wife was exhausted. I gave her a foot massage, she woke up when I stopped and ordered me to lick her pussy. She was half asleep though so it wasn't that much fun. I was disappointed as it was the last evening before our holiday and if what happened in the past is any indication for the future there will not be much play during the holiday.

So in the morning I topped from the bottom and asked her if she could redden my bottom. She obliged and gave me an awesome funishment. The erection didn't go away and after each slap she stroked my bum something I guess was a tip from Olivia.

When it was over I went and cleaned the kitchen and made breakfast. Sometime later in the day I again suggested since it is the last day together before our holiday if she would like to play during the day. She told me she will find some distraction for the kids once the luggage is packed and we can play. I was a real good husband and father all day. In the morning I went to a kids birthday party with my son, Ordered the food, washed the dishes and took both kids out for a bike ride.

When time came to play she asked me to lick her and she allowed me to give her an orgams which makes me extremely horny. Afterwards she gave me a hand job, I asked to cum. This has to have been the most intense feeling I ever had with a hand job. While my penis hurt a bit because of the piercing she was very careful. I was on edge for a very long time it almost seems she won't get me over the edge. But she did and it was a very intense feeling.

I am very grateful to my lady and am aware that I topped from the bottom but at this stage it seems almost necessary to ask. She enjoys them too. Now wife and kids are gone and I will join them on Thursday morning. I will try to be good but am still not caged. I think I will look for the piercer today to discuss my situation.