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    #1 ArtsyLady, Oct 26, 2019
    I'm looking to chat with single males from Connecticut, USA who are interested in exploring chastity and the tenets of a FLR. Age is not a determining factor, but I do enjoy the intellect of a wiser, older male. I'm a Sadean Sapiosexual who is fulfilled by governing and nurturing a worthy submissive male. I'm interested in a true Gentleman who's submission is well-hidden and only for the eyes of his Goddess Keyholder. Although endowed males should be used often by Women as living dildos, a small or tiny penis on a male is of no detriment. A tiny penis is to be caged just as a monstrous penis should be, so size is of no significance. That what strap-ons were made for. What's most important is the adoration, devotion, and submission a male feels for his Goddess Keyholder. A Gentlemanly submissive male should be driven to please his Goddess in every way to make her life pleasurable, joyful, softer, and filled with abundance.

    If you believe this is you, introduce yourself privately.
     
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    #2 MissyB, Oct 26, 2019
    My compliments to you Goddess. This is a thoughtful and intriguing post. I hope you find the lucky gentlemen to fill your needs.
     
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    #3 ArtsyLady, Oct 26, 2019
    Thank you, MissyB! I know it's a long shot in the dark, but you never know who's out there.
     
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    #4 MissyB, Oct 26, 2019
    Well you are certainly the kind of keyholder lots of men dream about, but not sure many of us would meet your specifications.
     
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    #5 ArtsyLady, Oct 26, 2019
    Perhaps not, but Fortune favors the Brave ;)
     
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    #6 MissyB, Oct 26, 2019
    Particularly if she is a strong, intelligent, and sexy woman.
     
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    #7 ArtsyLady, Oct 27, 2019
    ...and just like that, I'm no longer seeking.
     
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    #8 ArtsyLady, Nov 13, 2019
    I stopped looking, because I am disenchanted and disheartened that it’s so difficult to find what I am looking for.
    So many people have told me how in-demand and rare that a truly dominant woman is, but I see little evidence that such a woman is pursued, respected, valued, and served.

    I’ll leave this request here and send it forth into the ether.
     
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    #9 locked_top, Nov 14, 2019
    > Some of my favorite males were former Doms, so they surrender best.

    I liked this line from your profile.

    Search is difficult in a thin market. One dominant woman that I am aware of did a nationwide search to find the appropriate submissive husband.
     
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    #10 Rectrix, Nov 14, 2019
    You are rare and valued. There are many men who are penis-centric poseurs, and they will waste your time. But you have to sort through them to find the real submissive man, a little like shopping in a bargain bin. Good luck, stay strong.
     
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    #11 SlaveJay, Nov 14, 2019
    Hi,

    I hope you find who you are looking for, I’ve no doubt there are more than a few wishing they lived closer :)
     
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    #12 MissyB, Nov 14, 2019
    Any journey worth taking is often difficult and challenging, It can get discouraging to not find someone who meets your requirements, but stay strong and keep open to new opportunities. Good luck.
     
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    #13 filltee, Nov 14, 2019

    My suggestion would be to treat this search as anyone would treat the search for a potential partner.

    Find the guy first, the guy that fulfills sufficient of your criteria to make forming a potentially enduring relationship worth the effort and then introduce his slowly to the aspects of the lifestyle you want, like being in an LFR and male chastity and showing him what is potentially in it for him.

    Obviously I don't know you or your personality and nothing at all about you really but I would have I am sure enjoyed meeting someone like yourself a couple of decades back.
     
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    #14 ArtsyLady, Nov 14, 2019
    This has been my approach for 5 years at least. Neither of the males I’ve dated were remotely interested in chastity, although they became addicted to orgasm control. I didn’t live with them, so I couldn’t control their masturbation which was an obstacle in FLR.

    But, I see your point to continue on in “real” life with an open mind.

    A site like this should be the perfect place to meet a single, serious, ehthisiastic man interested in chastity and FLR, I would think.
     
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    #15 SubSnuggler, Nov 14, 2019
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    Those guys are out there, please don't give up the search. We need more Goddesses to grow our lifestyle. You can and should find the subby man of your dreams, just as he should have a chance to find you.

    Edit: And thanks for making me work to figure out what a 'Sadean Sapiosexual' is. I was not familiar with either of those descriptions, much less together. :)
     
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    #16 Alana, Nov 14, 2019
    Even though it doesn't often favor me, I am a firm believer in Love. Please don't give up.
     
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    #17 filltee, Nov 15, 2019
    Perfect place to potentially meet an enthusiastic man in chastity and FLR, you might think
    But single and serious that genuinely meets your given criteria might prove a little harder.
     
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    #18 sylvana chastity, Nov 15, 2019
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    Honestly not meant bad - but you posted on Oct 26 and gave up on Oct 27? :rolleyes:
     
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    #19 ArtsyLady, Nov 15, 2019
    You're entitled to your opinion.

    1) A sub was attempting to make amends and I halted my search briefly, "no longer seeking;"

    2) The amount of time-wasting IMs (I've since blocked), the number of "be my kink dispenser"-type messages, etc. in that short time and even prior to My post;

    3) Seemingly great guys that I spent time getting to know turning-out to be deceptive in one way or another (married, committed to someone else, topping from the bottom, looking for week-end domination/humiliation, offering no benefit to Me, but only draining Me, etc) from prior to my post and thereafter;

    4) Men thinking that my biggest "benefit" from them should be that I get to "exercise my Dominance" with them. Sorry, that's not a benefit or reward. It's my natural state of being. They've got to bring something to My table.

    So, yeah, a lady can get turned-off real quick.
     
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    #20 sylvana chastity, Nov 15, 2019
    Oh my - feared something like that - but at first reading it was like: "I played lottery for a day and still don't have the correct 6 numbers!" :D
    Sad to hear that it was such a turn-off, but even that disquieting experience shouldn't lead you to the path of giving up!
    May the force be with you - you deserve something better!
     
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    #21 SubSnuggler, Nov 15, 2019
    Knowing men as I do, there's no way in hell I'd want to be a dominant female looking for a quality sub in the general population. I'd be more into sites like this, local munches, etc to raise the prospects but it's still got to be pretty daunting. Men in general are pretty gross and needy.
     
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    #22 maid julie, Nov 15, 2019
    Good luck with your search. Hopefully it works out for you and enjoy your time here
     
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    #23 Slave to Wife, Nov 23, 2019
    Difficulty finding a good dominant woman is out there, too.

    Before I was a slave to my wife, before I ever met her, I searched and dated "dominant" women. Typically, I would be submissive for weeks and often not get dominated or barely at all. Eventually, we would drift apart. I get how they want submission for submission's sake, but I submit way deeper for days on end after a woman exercises her dominance. It was not me topping from the bottom. It was me seeking tops who want to top regularly.

    The good news is I did find love. My wife (whose favorite and simple way to top is smothering me with her boobs) and I met in 2000, married in 2004. We are going strong in a femdom relationship AND we have two sons. Our love is deep.
     
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    #24 asimpleman23, Mar 14, 2020
    A site like this should be the perfect place to meet a single, serious, ehthisiastic man interested in chastity and FLR, I would think.

    ...wouldn't You, though? : )
     
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    #25 asimpleman23, Mar 14, 2020
    A good phrase might be, "shaped, not diminished". If that helps. : )
     
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