New beginnings

My wonderful wife keep me locked up for the most part. We discussed the need to unlock for cleaning and shaving and Friday night she unlocked me so I could take a shower and clean up. To my surprise we just cuddled at bedtime as she was tired and wasn't in need for an orgasm (first day in a couple of weeks!) She suggested I sleep without the cage.

The next morning (Saturday) she had to work and went up early. She left without locking me up or saying anything about it. Later in the day I could not behave and I started to look at porn and masturbate (I didn't cum though). I soon felt that I was betraying her trust and self locked, took a picture and sent her and confessed. She replied I did the right thing to lock up. After we talked about it, she was not angry but seemed a bit disappointed with what I did. I have been locked up since.

Yesterday evening we got home from a party and she teased the hell out of me. Putting her ass against my caged cock, humping me, she licked my whole body down to my full balls. She even gently slapped my balls. She is getting really good at teasing and denying me. As usual the evening ended with me orally pleasing her while I went to sleep denied.

She has told me several times when I will be released for an orgasm and she told me anything from tonight to two months. I think she is playing with me or she don't even know herself. I guess we'll have to see. She hinted that she may fuck my ass again. We did it once and we both orgasmed that time but then got into a fight. I really hope she will fuck me again!

Today (Sunday) I gave her an orgasm in the morning and later we went to the gym. I was not unlocked and for the first time I was at the gym locked. I don't ask anymore for unlocks, I don't want to bother her and I'm sure she knows best. After all, she is my key holder.

 

Yes I am really lucky to have such a beautiful and understanding wife! I think she really start to enjoy this.

 

Update.

13 days since last orgasm.

During the week I have been locked practically all the time, she let me out a couple of nights. She still think I can be unlocked at nights when sleeping beside her she told me. Still some nights she doesn't unlock me and I don't ask about it.

Two days ago I had a short break from the cage in the morning, when in the shower I could not help but to stroke and play with my dick a bit. I felt bad later, I know she told me I'm not allowed. That evening I confessed, she was not angry really but said something like "I can't really trust you, can I?". Then later that evening when we cuddled in the sofa she pulled down my pants and started to spank me. For not behaving. She gave me maybe 20 slaps and while not very hard they actually hurt a bit. It was our first time playing with spanking. She took a picture of by ass and showed me it was actually a bit red/pink from the spanking. It was all HOT!

Yesterday we talked more about things and I really want her to peg me again. She told me after we did it the first time she has felt "jealous" of the dildo. Thinking I had sex with the dildo only and not with her. I tried to explain why I like it and how I feel submissive and connected to HER. And how hot it was for me and the fact that we both came and she was really good at fucking me. I think and hope she start to realize what it is about. She has zero experience of using sex toys so I understand now it can be a bit difficult for her to adjust. She even mentioned that maybe I could use the strap-on on her. Yes please! We will have to see how things go.

At bedtime she unlocked me and I licked her pussy to orgasm. Then she edged me like never before! She teased me for +30 minutes using her hands and tongue. I have never felt something quite like it. Loved it! Then I licked her to her second orgasm for the night and she let me sleep without the cage.

Today she locked me up in the morning before leaving for work. After she locked me up she teased me with the key, let it tease my caged cock and up my body and letting the key hang right before my eyes before she just left. HOT. She is really starting to tease the shit out of me. LOVE IT.

 

By the way, yesterday she told me she would let me cum. I was talking about taking a romantic weekend just me and her to London and maybe that was part of the reason she wanted to be nice to me. Then in the evening when she edged me she told me I can cum. I was really close but the way she teased me didn't really do it for me all the way. Then after a minute or so she just bluntly told me "You are not allowed to cum!". So, she continued to tease me but nu coming for me. I think she start to get the feeling for it

 

Friday evening I had a present for her, a gold anklet, that she had wished for some time. We had a great evening and later she told me that I will get to cum later and that she will take me with the strap on. Keep in mind that we do not talk English and that she not really know the words. She just call the strap on "the thing". She is not into the strap on play that much, but she know I enjoy it and she do it to make me happy.

Later that evening in bed she teased my caged cock with a quick caged blowjob (HOT!) before she unlocked me and put on the strapon. She had me lick the strap on a little bit which made me feel very submissive.

This was the second time we tried pegging and it just couldn't compare to the first time when we both came (me just from the anal fucking itself and her from the stimulation from the dildo harness as she fucked me).

This time I had some discomfort and we had trouble finding a good position where the dildo felt really good. After a while she took me missionary and it felt good enough. She started to stroke my cock at the same time and when I felt myself near I asked her to remove her hand, making it a ruined orgasm I suppose. She still fucked my ass as I came. We have never played with ruined orgasms and she doesn't even know what it is. I tried to explain it later but she just said to me "an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter how." Maybe she is right! If felt good, maybe not as good as if she had continued to stimulate my penis though.

After we cleaned up a bit she just lay down on her side of the bed, clearly again feeling down after I got to cum, thinking I would not pleasure her. Of course I did, and got her to cum. After that she was tired and we fell asleep.

Next morning we talked a bit about the cage and she told me I would left without the cage over the weekend and she was thinking to put it on Monday morning again. I gave her another orgasm that morning.

During the day I was feeling different, having had an orgasm and left uncaged and not sure where this was going. I was not as attentive and she noticed and expressed that she was not happy about it. In the evening (after I had made the family a great dinner) I was very tired and had a slight headache and fell asleep on the couch and just went to bed. Not a great Saturday night.

 

Things getting serious?

So this morning as I woke up I tried to touch her but she was not exactly happy with me. She told me to STOP (she has started to use this word a lot with me, just saying STOP). She told me she was not happy with my behavior yesterday and that she will need to lock me up. I got instantly hard! She said I would not be allowed to cum for 20 years (obviously a joke...) but later said 3 months, not sure if she is just playing with my mind. This is what I dreamt about, she initiating and telling me that I need to be caged.

So after getting my penis to calm down I finally got the ring and cage on and she took her key and locked me. I tried again to touch her and ask if she want anything from me. She totally blew me off and told me not to touch her, but in a way that she was clearly playing with me. She totally denied me from giving her pleasure or touching her. I made her breakfast and helped around the home. She seems happy with me again.

So, right now I'm not sure where this is going at but I know for sure she has seen the positive effects of keeping me locked and denied of orgasm. Maybe I will regret this... but in a good way

 

I have been kept locked 24/7 except for one night. She told me to clean and shave myself and then said I could sleep without the cage but it's going on the next morning. I self locked in the morning to make things easier for her and before she left for work she came to bed and asked me to lock up which I already did of course and I handed her the key. I love that she didn't forget about it!

She keep me denied but she tease me quite a lot. Grabbing my caged dick and making comments about it. Yesterday while we were in the kitchen she suddenly said (I had worked home yesterday) "he didn't cause any trouble today? Drop your pants and let me see!" So I dropped my pants and she felt and gently slapped my balls.

After giving her an orgasm yesterday evening in bed (as has been standard this last month) we talked a bit and she asked how long I will keep up giving her this service. She said will you do it one or two years from now? So she does see this continue long term. I told her I have no problem giving her 500 orgasms a year and then asked how many do you think I should have. She said 10, but then she thought about it and said "Oh, that's not even one per month. Maybe 20 then." I told her it was generous of her. She also asked if I thought it was fair she came so much and I didn't. Of course I told her it's fair and entirely up to her and that she doesn't need to feel bad. Slowly, I think she is starting to understand and not feel bad about denying me and also see the positives. She tell me all the time how she thinks I'm crazy about her pussy.

To be continued...

 

Thanks for the feedback! Yes, normally she want an orgasm (or perhaps two) every day, at least for now. And you are right, I thrive on pleasuring her and she start to see it as well. She asked many times if I really enjoy going down on her so much and I keep telling her I do. To give her an orgasm and get some teasing from her is pure bliss when being denied.

A couple of evenings ago we spooned before sleeping with her cupping and fondling my caged cock. So erotic! She really seem to enjoy my cock getting hard and straining inside the cage. She keep mentioning it every time I get hard in the cage.

 

Yesterday morning she released me for cleaning and shaving. After the shower I asked her if she wanted me locked again. She said no, we will be at home and I don't think you will masturbate, right? I said of course not. I try to keep chaste even if I'm not caged.

While I do think she think this game is pretty fun I do notice that the part that I will not masturbate and cum on my own when not allowed is important to her. She enjoy me now that I'm much more attentive and helpful around the house and ready and eager to make her orgasm any time she want. She did notice my sub drop last time I orgasmed and she mentioned it again yesterday that she noticed the difference. So I hope this will push her to make me go longer and deny me even more.

Her period started yesterday, I managed to lick her to orgasm in the morning before it really started. She have a lot of pain and get tired when she is on her period. She was very tired in the evening and fell asleep early in the living room sofa.

Later we went to bed and were ready to sleep when she really surprised me. Considering she was very tired and in some pain from her period I didn't think she would have any thoughts about my penis and chastity cage. But before she fell asleep she told me "I think you need to put the cage on, I can't trust you on your own to not masturbate."

Let me tell you, I got hard and it took some time to get the cage on. I handed her the key and she put it under her pillow and fell to sleep. So, things are clearly changing, when we started a couple weeks ago with the cage she didn't think I needed it at all during night but now she insisted on it. I'm very happy about it that she is getting more serious and strict.

I hope for things to evolve so quickly to suit all my fantasies but of course that not how it works and I know it. I must let her control the pace and just keep to give hints and suggestions what I like but still not push her and let her be in control. Not so easy...

 

The beginning of the week was a bit slow. My wife had her period and I was locked up the entire time. She kept teasing me a little every day though. Nothing much but just to let me know I wasn't forgotten.

Wednesday and Thursday evening I gave her oral orgasms with me denied and locked. This has evolved to our standard now. She did let me out Wednesday evening for shaving and cleaning on her own initiative and let me sleep without the cage that night. Thursday morning she asked me to cage my dick and she locked me up. I was happy she showed commitment to keep me locked up without me having to ask.

Friday night she told me I was to cum tonight. But after I gave her oral orgasm she was tired and went to sleep. She didn't mention my orgasm.

She also start to take more initiatives and be more commanding. When I got home after work on Friday she was already home. She bluntly told me to change clothes, get her a drink and start to cook. No asking, just telling me to do it. I almost got hard in my cage. Also after dinner she left and sat down in the living room sofa, leaving me to do the dishes. In the past she always thanked me when I did the dishes etc. But now she is more comfortable with me helping out and telling me what to do. She still do a lot of the work around the house but I try to help out much more. She also kept telling me to get her drinks through the evening.

This morning she wanted PIV, she gave me mixed signals if I was to cum or not but as I pumped her she told me to cum, so I did. First orgasm in 15 days.

We had a great talk after the PIV. She seems to really enjoy our new dynamic, how I am much more attentive and nice to her. She told me that she let me cum as a test, to see how I react and how I will behave the coming days. Lately she also told me several times that she decide and I start to notice she doesn't like the "topping from the bottom". She asked what if I want you to cum already tomorrow? I told her it is her right to command me that and I will do it, but it is now my wish. She just said that she is to decide now.

 

I was unlocked yesterday for PIV and free of the cage for a while. I asked her if she wanted to lock me up but she told me I could stay unlocked as we went to the gym and then shopping. After a quick shower after we got home I put the cage on and offered her to lock me up which she did.

We have two keys for the cage. I have asked her to hide one at home as a kind of emergency key and the other she can keep on her or do as she please with. I did notice she has kept it in her drawer of her bedside table. I have tried to tell her she need to keep the keys without my reach and that I should not be able to get to it easily. She has told me to stop being nosey about it. After she had me locked up yesterday the key is not in her drawer anymore.

I licked her pussy to orgasm yesterday evening as per usual. This morning she teased me a lot. Licking my caged dick, teasing it with her fingers. She let me start licking her nipples which usually make her very horny and to want to orgasm. This time she stopped me immediately and told me to stop. It was not time for play. I was totally denied of her pussy. She just told me to make the bed and left, short after teasing my caged penis a last time. It seems she really enjoy making my dick hard in the cage and she always keep feeling the hard base of my cock as it straining against the cage. Happy days indeed.

 

Yesterday evening in bed I moved close to her so she spooned me. I really like that intimacy. I never did that in the past. She played with my caged dick and balls for a long time, sensually.

I didn't make any initiative for anything more sexy. I would like her to be more demanding and tell me when she want me to lick her pussy or anything else. I know if I start to touch her and lick her nipples she usually get very horny and want more.

I asked her when she think she will let me cum again, just to get some talk going. She was a bit surprised and told me "Are you already horny, it's just one day since you came." She continued "Maybe Christmas Eve or even next year. Actually you are not allowed to know." She continue to tease my caged cock which is now straining in the cage. Then she said "Also, you are not allowed to ask when the cage can be removed. I will tell you." It seems she is really starting to get this, maybe I'm in it for real now. I hope so, hehe. She has also told me earlier I'm not allowed to masturbate or touch my penis (caged or un-caged) in any stimulating way. Only to wash it. I try to follow this but it's not so easy.

 

Time for a new update.

In the beginning of the week there was work and daily life taking place and my wife was tired and not in the mood for sex. She still teased me a little and played with my caged cock a little before sleeping.

I started to get some mild pain in my balls from wearing my Kink3d cage. I have a N+ cage (which is a tad too large, I will probably need to switch to a N), and have three ring sizes, 1+2+3. I have mainly used 1 and 2 as they are more secure and "sit" better. However my balls are often high and tight and now with very cold weather even more so.

I asked my wife to be let out of the cage Tuesday evening. Of course she asked why and I told her about the slight pain and she let me out. I was out of the cage until Wednesday evening which seemed to improve things. I asked her to lock me up again but in the larger size 3 ring. This ring feel to large but at the same time is letting me to be able to wear the cage for now. I will keep using it for now and see if I can reduce the size again down the line. I'm not sure the exact issue, if it's the ring size or the gap. I need to continue testing.

So I was locked up again and Wednesday evening I licked her to orgasm. On Thursday she was to leave for holiday together with my two sisters to Berlin, Germany. We talked a bit, I was to stay locked while she was away and she took the key with her. However she has hidden a key already in our house as "emergency key".

We talked a bit about the dildo harness and her pegging me and I told her how I have enjoyed that. She say that she hates that thing (even though she used it on me twice). I asked her why and she told me she was jealous of it because I've cum both times she pegged me (with her permission). She said she want that I cum inside her. I told her it's her choice. She can fuck my ass and not let me cum if that what she wants. We'll see how this play out. I have also mentioned in the past I would like to fuck her with the strap-on. Not sure if she is interested in that but I would love to do that.

As we talked about the dildo she told me I am not allowed to play with it while she is away. No touching my penis or playing with my ass. I think she is very serious for real that she don't want me to masturbate or play with myself in any way. This is very hard for me but I'm trying my best. In the past I have masturbated all the time and played with myself in many ways with different toys.

So she left Thursday morning and will be back later today (Sunday). We have sent a few interesting messages during this time. For example I told her I took a bath and she told me "No touching yourself!" Yesterday I thanked her for keeping me locked and told her she can be more strict with me if she want to and keep me denied for longer. Her reply was: "I will be harder on you. Do not touch your thing!" I'm missing her and look forward to her coming home again today.

 

My wife arrive home from her vacation Sunday afternoon. I had cleaned up and decorated the house with all the Christmas decorations and baked for her. Later I served her a nice dinner. She was very pleased and impressed. I haven't always been so good to do things around the house. I try to get better. To please and serve her.

Shortly before she arrived home one of my balls escaped. It hurt! I told her so and she was a bit amused and shortly she unlocked me. I suggested I keep it off a short while and take a shower later and clean everything up. She agreed.

We went to bed early for some play time. She started to tease my now uncaged cock with her lips and tongue. She drove me insane. She took my penis inside her mouth as deep as she could. Over and over. I had to tell her to stop several times or I would have cum. After some teasing I pleased her. Giving her nipples a good job which she love before I asked if I was allowed to lick her pussy which I was. She orgasmed big.

Next, she told me to cage up. I didn't mention it. I love that she took the initiative to lock me up even before sleep. It is the first time she done that. After I was in my cage I gave her some more oral for her second orgasm. After that she teased my caged cock until we fell asleep. Great evening!

 

Yesterday I sent her a message how I was horny and wanted to please her tonight. I didn't get any real feedback on that and when we went for bed she let me touch her ass but not her nipples (she get very horny when I play with her nipples). Then she told me to turn off the light and I thought that was it. But then she started to kiss me and grab my caged cock. So then I knew it was on.

I was very horny and licked her nipples and rubbed her pussy at the same time. She started to caress my anus with her finger. I was in heaven! Then I took her to orgasm by oral.

As we talked after I told her I felt as if I could almost cum just by playing with her pussy. She just told me: "But you are not allowed to cum!". Then she started to talk about when she was going to let me cum. She hinted at Christmas Eve or new years eve. That would make it about a month of no orgasm. My earlier record is 14 days. She told me she was not sure if I could make it. I told her I'm sure I will if that is what you decide.

We will see but she is getting more comfortable and serious about denying me for sure. She make no intention of removing my cage, maybe except for cleaning and she don't seem to have any bad feelings of denying my orgasm.

 

So, we are closing in on two months since I opened up to my wife about (some) of my kinks. We started with orgasm denial and this has worked out really well. It feels like she is embracing it, think it's fun and even see the benefits also for her. I didn't keep track really in the beginning but I use a tracker now and tried to fill it in with the help of this blog and my memory. In about 7 weeks she had approx 42 orgasms and I exactly 4. I think that is a good start!

I think we have evolved and come a long way. Or really she has. I have asked for all of this, I am the one with these kinks. How hard can it be for me to be locked up in a chastity cage and be denied and teased every day by my beautiful wife. I'm living out my fantasy basically. She has really been fantastic from the start. Accepting me and doing her very best to make my fantasies come true. I try to to do more for her, not only sexually. I want this to have benefits for her as well.

The best part is that now we have so much more sex and intimacy together. The difference is huge! I am so much more committed and really love her so much. I love this feeling!

I have introduced some toys, strap-on, buttplug and a vibrator for her. She is not really into it at all. I hope maybe she can grow to accept it and enjoy it more in the future. She pegged me twice and she do talk about it a lot and she know I love it. She has some issues with it so we will see how it goes. She told me yesterday maybe she will fuck me when she get drunk (she usually get more horny drunk).

After playing with the chastity cage for about a month it's pretty much on most of the time now. She has taken the ownership of the locking up by now. She keep the keys secure so I can't use them and I am not allowed to use the key anymore.

She is starting to set the rules. I had been in the cage for the last 4 days non-stop and yesterday she told me she will unlock me to shave and clean. I asked her if I should lock up after. She told me I will be unlocked until the morning. Her rules. She usually keep me unlocked for one night after cleaning.

So in bed she tease my uncaged cock with her hand, tongue and mouth. Driving me crazy but not allowing any release of course... I asked her to sit on my face and I gave her an orgasm with my tongue. She is still a bit shy about that position.

Then she told me to get up tomorrow morning and be ready at exact 06:30 for lockup. Of course I was. She locked me and teased me a bit before leaving for work. I love that she is starting to be serious about locking me back up!

 

Yeah, the first two weeks we started she had lots of orgasms. I think her numbers may even be a bit too low. She was extremely horny after we had many years of slow sex life. The reason for us not having much sex was me and my masturbation. All the while she thought I had a low sex drive. I really regret how I handled this for so many years and not telling her sooner about my wishes. But now only to look forward.

It has slowed down a little and she don't want orgasms every day but more like 4-5 days per week which is really great anyway.

I sent her a message today asking if I was to cum anymore this year. Got back a gif basically saying NO!. Let's see how strict she can be with me. So far I am no way near starting to beg, if I do maybe she will cave in. Don't really know.