New beginnings

Not to much happened during the weekend. My wife worked and I was away at my company Christmas party, of course I was locked!

We had an interesting discussion on Friday. I have a bad habit of biting my nails since always basically. She have asked me to stop many times and don't like it (of course since it's a bad habit, I agree to that). When we started our dynamic she actually told me to stop or I would have to pay her 100EUR. I did stop for some time and she actually helped me once to cut the nails.

But then I slipped and started to bite them again. She noticed it this Friday and was not happy about it. I had to pay her and she took a picture of them to compare next time she would check. She also told me if I didn't behave and bite them again I would have to pay 200EUR next time or loose privilege to lick her pussy for two weeks. All this made me feel submissive and I really like the fact that she taken this dynamic outside the bedroom and sexy things. I would love for her to take charge more, I guess this show that she may be up for it. I guess it would take time and that I push her in the right direction. I'm not looking for a full FLR but at least part of it.

We talked a lot Saturday morning. About the FLR part she actually asked me if I would be ok with her "bossing" me around friends and family. She said it would be small things like she telling me to serve her drinks and stuff like that. I agreed of course. She also told me she had told my mother and sisters how I improved lately helping her much more around the house etc. Of course she didn't say anything about why... But it's exciting and this tell me that my wife really appreciate my efforts this past two months.

We also talked a bit more about my orgasms. I have tried to keep telling her in different ways to deny me for real, hints here and there. She doesn't seem to have a big problem with it but at the same time I think she want me to cum soon. I still think she has som guilty feelings of denying me. It's been 16 days now. since my last orgasm so new record.

What I found interesting as that she actually told me that she would like me to beg her to cum. I have not done that and I've been afraid that if I beg she will just let me cum. Now I'm starting to feel like I could really beg her. I would love her to deny me when I actually beg. THAT WOULD BE HOT AS FUCK! I really hope she has it in her

 

Some stats from almost 2 months of our dynamic. She had 46 orgasms, 3 from masturbation in front of me. 1 from pegging me. And the rest from oral. My four orgasms are 2 from pegging, 1 masturbating for her, 1 PIV. In total we had PIV sex two times. Lately I'm almost never unlocked for sex anymore. Now my wish is only that she was more into sex toys and I hope she will soon fuck my ass again.

 

18 days since last orgasm.

A couple of more orgasms for her and none for me. Yesterday she unlocked me for cleaning and told me she will play with my penis. I have stopped asking for any release from the cage and it seems she will let me out now and then for cleaning and shaving.

She teased me as I lay in bed. Stroking my cock and body. Next using her mouth. I had to stop her several times, it was a very intense feeling. Very enjoyable. I think she clearly enjoy seeing me in that state. She is slowly taking more charge in bed, I would still like her to be more vocal of her needs but she is getting there slowly. She like to push my head where it needs to go.

After she had teased me I just asked here "Can I cum?". Very sweetly she said "Yes, you can cum". I'm not sure why I asked, I wanted to test her since she earlier told me she would like me to beg for it. But now I was hesitant and told her so, she wasn't doing anything to pleasure me anymore. So then she told me I was not allowed to cum and later told me to not ask and that she will decide it. So, the other day she wanted me to beg for release and now she told me not to. I guess we have much to learn and she has to find her place in all of this. I know she is doing her best.

A couple of hot things she told me lately:
"I think you can get one orgasm to 100 for me. But I don't think you could make it. You would die!"
Clearly this was just a joke (I'm pretty sure....)

I asked her yesterday how she felt about that I'm not coming very often anymore. Does she miss it. "No, I don't care if you cum. I must cum, but I don't care if you cum"
I think she is not just saying this. I don't think she has any personal need to see me cum. She also don't like my pre-cum or sperm. Every time my pre-cum is getting on her she complain and tell me it's sticky and cold. Once she jokingly threaten to just put a condom over my penis. I also remember in the past when we had sex. She wasn't really caring that much if I came, sure she would ask about it when I didn't but that's it. If she didn't cum when we had sex (oral or penetrative) she would often get sad or angry. Really bad mood. So, I think she always valued her orgasm much more than mine. I suppose this make sense now that I am in chastity....

 

Thursday we had a shower together for the first time at home for a very very long time. She is a bit hesitant to do it with our kid around but finally she agreed and suggested we shower together. She removed my cage for cleaning and we have a small shower area so a bit cramped but sensual as we helped each other to wash. She kept teasing my cock and soon she was stroking it hard and her other hand went between my buttocks and she fingered my anus at the same time. I was in heaven, it felt so good! She didn't really penetrate my anus much but it was as far she has stretched with penetrating my anus with her finger so far. I really enjoy anal play and she knows that. I hope she will get more comfortable with it.

Later in bed she continued to tease my uncaged cock and then I licked her to orgasm. She told me to sleep without the cage and that I put it on the next morning. In the morning I put it on and presented myself for her, she told me "good boy" (actually in English which is not our native language) and locked me up for work.

Yesterday, Friday, I gave her another oral orgasm and then she asked me if I wanted to cum and be pegged. I had begged for her to peg me again and she had hinted that it may happen this day. So I helped her put it on and she fucked me in several positions. She asked me if I wanted the cage removed and maybe stupidly I said no. I wanted to see if I could cum from the pegging while being caged. Well, it was not a success, while being pretty close at times and feeling really good I did not cum and finally had to tell her to stop. Still without cuming, now for 3 weeks.

The problem with pegging is my wife doesn't really enjoy it. Actually yesterday I noticed she was not at all into it and we talked about it and well, I don't think much pegging is on the menu in the near future for me. I will not press her anymore if she don't want to herself. Even if she is ok doing it for me I just didn't get the right feeling when she was not excited at all by it.

I'm not sure why the pegging has turned into a bad thing for her. The first time she pegged me she was so horny when she fucked my very hard and both of us came almost together. It has to be my greatest sexual memory of all times. But then something happened with her and now she have told me how she feel jealous of the dildo. The way I feel pleasure of it. Not sure what's going on there.

As we woke this morning she felt my caged cock and told me: "You missed your chance when you didn't cum yesterday. I will not let you cum now, I don't care if you cum." I got hard and she continued to tell me that she has had too many orgasms and she will not cum for one week. Or two weeks. She want to build up and get more horny herself. Well, good for her but bad for me! I kind of thrive on her orgasms now when I don't get them myself. They start to feel almost as my own and now she will deny me that as well. It start to get real! Let's see how long she will keep up without orgasm, I'm not so sure she will do it

She then also told me to not touch her at all. I asked her what about cuddles and so on. So basically I can touch her, kiss her and cuddle but no sexual touching. She will tell me when she wants it. So now I'm denied for real and will just have to wait for her to pleasure me or allow me to pleasure her. I will try to be patient and now play the game as she intend it. It's really exciting now when she is starting to take charge. She still love to tease me for sure so at least I have that, she like to grab my caged cock and feel it try to get hard. She hump my ass with her body, imitating her fucking me. It's really keep me going.

 

So, it took only about 12 hours before she demanded me to giver her an orgasm again. LOL. Later that evening she was kind of drunk and then she is very horny. She kept telling me she was going to let me cum and then to change her mid telling me I'm not allowed. Not sure if she was playing with me or if she just didn't make up her mind. It all ended with her orgasm and me still caged in denial.

Sunday morning she however told me that I would cum. She released me and I suggested she give me a ruined orgasm. She is not really understanding the concept but in the end with my help she gave me a perfect ruined orgasm with her hand. It felt really frustrating! But I could still really feel the drop even if it was "only" a ruined orgasm and 22 days since my last one.

I was perhaps not in my best mood after and later in the day we got into an argument. This is not the first time that happened after my orgasm. I think now she expect me on my best behavior all the time, even after I have cum. I apologized and told her next time she allowed me to cum I will really do my best to stay at my best behavior. She put the cage back on later that evening.

Then she got problem with her back (she was in pain) and then she got sick. So Monday to Thursday I was just caged in denial. The fact that I had just had an orgasm helped a lot. Still during this time she acknowledged me and at least touched my caged cock every day, giving me some needed attention.

Yesterday she was better and she let me remove the cage in the evening to clean and shave and give her an orgasm again. She teased my cock but didn't let me cum of course. This continued this morning, she edged me again and again. She is really enjoying it and starting to get it. How it's frustrating for me in a good way. After I gave her another oral orgasm she told me she will not let me cum ever again. I know she is joking but it's really hot how she starting to play the game. And I can tell she doesn't really like how my attention and mood shift after I orgasm. I think she may very well find that it's better to not let me cum (often). Who knows how far she will take this in the future...

 

I was locked for the entire Christmas weekend with no orgasm. My wife enjoyed a few though We spent Christmas Eve with family and had a very good time. On Christmas Day (Monday) she got her period and not much happened sexually Monday and Tuesday.

Wednesday morning I asked to be unlocked for cleaning and shaving. She unlocked me without any further questions. To be honest I was a bit "tired" of the cage. I have been locked most of the last two months and I just felt I wanted out for a bit. Also I wanted to "test" what will happen. Will she just let me be without it, will she even forget about it and not ask me to cage up again without me asking. I know if I put it on and gave her the key she would hold the key, no problem there.

She has expressed a couple of time that the cage is in the way of her to spontaneously play with my cock which she really enjoy. I told her she is free to unlock it whenever she wants but she has the key hidden and I guess it's a bit cumbersome. I am planning on looking for some kind of lock box that she can keep in our bedroom so she can easily unlock me and lock me back up. Maybe a good idea, I don't know?

So, Wednesday we went out with family to play bowling and going to dinner. When we came back home she was incredibly horny. A bit tipsy and on her period does normally mean that. We were supposed to look at a movie when we got home but she started to spank me (harder than ever before), hold me down while she teased my cock (now uncaged). She asked me if I could suck my own cock. I told her I wanted to and I tried but I'm really not that agile. LOL.

So she told me she was going to fuck me in the ass and let me cum tonight! That was a surprise. I didn't think she would peg me for a long time. So we went to the bedroom and she fucked me hard in missionary and stroking my cock. This time she was much more into it. I came with a ruined orgasm by her hand while she pumped the plastic penis in and out of my stretched ass. That mean I came again after "only" 10 days, which was a bit surprising.

She didn't want me to lick her a she was on her period so we used the vibrator I got her earlier. This was only the second time we used it as she is not much into toys (I hope that may change!). She came very fast with her vibrator while I teased her nipples.

We talked a bit next day and I told her maybe she should only let me cum a maximum of 10 times next year, she seemed to think that was a good idea. She is not really enjoying the way I get after my orgasms but I still think she want to be nice to me sometimes and let me cum. And when she is very horny I think she like to see me cum as well.

Not much happened then for a couple of days. I was still without the cage and she didn't mention it and I started to play with myself without her knowledge (I can't help it!). While I didn't come I did edge myself a lot. Also watching some porn.

This morning she told me she had a dream. She had walked in on me as I masturbated. She asked me if I had done so for real? Well, I couldn't lie so I confessed I had masturbated while unlocked but not to orgasm. I actually felt embarrassed and very submissive as I confessed. Just like a small boy getting caught doing something he is not supposed to.

"Put yourself in the cage now" she told me. "I can't trust you so you better stay in the cage. Forever!" She took her key and locked the cage, trapping my penis once again. She was not angry, I think she is playing the game but I do think she really don't want me to masturbate. So after three whole days free I am now locked again and my wife is holding the key. So what will happen now when the new year is starting? I think I will tell her to be strict with me but in the end it's her choice, right? And now it seems she prefers me locked...

 

My wife ended up removing my cage again on new years eve and it was off again for a few days. So in a week time it was off 6 days. Not sure why but it just happened. Then I had to confess again that I been playing with myself (not to orgasm but edging) which she does not approve of. She told me if I play with myself it's like cheating on her, she really don't want me to do it. So, she locked me up again and I have been locked up for good the latest 8 days.

After she got two orgasms last Saturday (one in the morning and one in the evening) she told me she will wait until next Saturday for her next orgasm. Not really what I want/need but of course she decide. When she said that earlier it has not really held up but now it's Thursday and still not allowed to pleasure her. I have asked for it but so far she didn't let me. Also she has made no intention to let me cum or even edging me this week.

So for the first time this week has been really slow, nothing sexual happening really and I'm starting to get really frustrated. I think I need to talk to her about it. Even though I'm not allowed to cum I really feel the need to let her cum, that she edge me, play with me, fuck me, anything...

 

So, I really like statistics. I have now been using an app to log and below are some interesting stats since our start October 13th (So around 3 months).

Days since last orgasm: 15 days
Days since last full orgasm: 47 days (I'm a bit surprised myself!)
Days caged in a row now: 8 days

Number of orgasms for wife: 63
Number of orgasms for me: 6
Number of full orgasms: 2
Ruined orgasms: 3
Only anal strap-on orgasm: 1

Number of days caged: 64
Longest streak caged: 17 days (cage was off sometimes for cleaning and edging and maybe even a night or two)

 

Things has settled a bit. She like to have around 3-4 orgasms per week now and not like every day as in the beginning. I think this is fine and we have found a good place. She keep me locked most of the time, sometimes she let me out of the cage for a day if we are together at home. She usually never let me be without the cage when I'm alone.

She often ask me if I played with myself the few times I'm uncaged. She does not want me to play with my dick or masturbate. I have confessed I sometimes play with myself if I'm unlocked. I know I shouldn't but it's just hard to resist...

Last Thursday and Friday things really heated up and she uncaged my cock on both nights and teased me with her hands and mouth and played with my anus. Friday night the teasing session was around 30 minutes and she stroked me again and again. I had her stop every time I was close. She told me I was not allowed to cum. Then she started to blowjob me, taking my cock deeper than ever before, more or less deep throating me and being very dominant, holding me down. I just couldn't take it and with my cock deep in her mouth I pushed her mouth off my dick. But I came anyway. A LOT!

First orgasm in 22 days, a new record. She was not angry but she told me I must learn to hold back. She told me it was my own fault and that she won. Fair I guess.

I was free of the cage the next day but now since Sunday I'm locked again.

Yesterday I switched/downgraded from my Kink 3d N+ to the new N Narrow. It's a much better fit.

Until next time.