My journey to FLR marriage with husband locked in chastity

The hardest things for a man are the loss of control and independence. A male usually grows up with a sense of entitlement, so it's a big change to humbly embracing obedience and dependence. A man in a FLR has to learn to swallow his pride and to adjust his mindset. Finally, being locked in chastity is hard and doesn't necessarily get easier, it's mentally taxing and frustrating for sure.

 

"Point of No Return" is a brilliant insight into what is a critical concept in a FLR. At a certain point a man realizes that it would be virtually impossible to return to his previous way of life. The psychological and financial dependence is too great, it would be like releasing a domestic pet into the wild. Once the man realizes he has passed the point of no return his only thoughts become pleasing and obeying his wife so as to make the best life for himself. All fantasies of reclaiming his manhood are gone so that his mind is clear and focused. The annoying little acts of rebellion are a thing of the past once the man realizes that there is no path back.

 

Thanks! As you said, it won't be easy, make sure to keep that in mind.

 

I don't see my husband ever considering himself a woman, and it's definitely not how I have trained or molded him. He has been fully emasculated but not feminized. He is a bitch. Specifically he is my bitch, which is what I consider ideal, but very different from being a woman.

 

Thanks very much!

 

Congratulations!

 

Everything is great, busy now that things are more or less getting back to normal here.

1. He is allowed to watch porn whenever he has free time. It must be a powerful addiction because it's physically and mentally painful for him to watch porn while being tightly locked up.

2. The amount of time he is unlocked depends on his behavior during the week. He may not be unlocked or only unlocked for five minutes, or he may be unlocked for the entire day.

3. I don't control his internet browsing except for times that I prohibit computer use completely due to misbehavior or falling behind on his chores. I keep him very busy so he doesn't have hours to waste browsing but if he's completed his duties I don't impose limitations on him.

4. We hug and cuddle a lot, I am certainly sensitive to his emotional needs.

5. Because of the way society trains the male mind it's humiliating when a woman is unapologetically in charge, so when we are in public we sometimes draw attention because I don't make any effort to hide the fact that I am the dominant partner in our relationship. It's something that is second nature to him now, so while it's still humiliating to a degree it's much easier on him than at first when it was very hard for him to accept his role in public.

6. He's always in chastity except for his release periods. So whether he is pleasuring me or being pegged his is caged.

7. He still has his crying spells but he gets over them. I do comfort him by telling him that I am proud of him, I know I don't make his life easy. But I don't tolerate too much whining either, just once in a while.

8. Now that I have discovered the joys of pegging I don't cuck him that often, but sometimes I do need traditional sex so it's not something I foresee ever giving up. It's still difficult for him to accept but so be it.

 

Thanks, that's nice of you to say.

 

I take that responsibility very seriously. It is great to be in control, but you have to accept the obligations that go with it. I provide for and protect my husband. I may be demanding and harsh but I am committed to caring for him for the long term and he knows that.

 

It's annoying but I understand that sometimes he gets frustrated so I tolerate it up to a point, and then I put a stop to it.

 

It's hygienic. It only comes once a week at most but we haven't had a problem with hygiene.

 

It's not cruel if it's what is best for you and for your wife.

 

Thanks!

 

Actually there are different belts with different features. I have used various belts on my husband and actually just received a new one from NeoSteel. Security is important, the man knowing he has no hope of being free. The psychological aspect is very important, the ones that completely flatten his bulge or give him a female looking front are devastating and really help to rip away a man's masculine mentality. The one's with anal access are fantastic since they condition the man to learn to essentially experience sex as a female.

Of course he regrets knowing that he will never enter a woman again, and that he is the one who gets penetrated now, it's a hard and painful adjustment for a man, unfortunately it's the way it is for him and he has to keep learning to accept and endure it.

Permanent denial is harsh. I'm harsh and he has to deal with it, I don't apologize for that.