Mistress is struggling (menopuse)

That sounds like a difficult situation. Has she seen her gynecologist?

 

My wife after menapause lost nearly all her sex drive, nearly zero. She will still play some, but not much. Part of the reason we do male chastity, to even things out a bit. I am locked part time and during that time, there is no sex or masturbating. She enjoys the break.

 

It's a tough time but there are some medical steps that can ameliorate it, from HRT to estrogen containing vaginal creams. Or you could do as she directs if you've talked it out.

 

Menopause can be a very challenging life adjustment for women and couples. It can affect more than their sexual desires and expressions. Although there are various treatments, they have to safe and healthy for that individual. Encourage her to continue to consult with her doctors and find what might help. Also, you need to put your own desires on hold or at least slow down, for which chastity is a perfect accessory. From the outside, it sounds like she is worried as much about you being satisfied while her body and behavior adjust. Be sure to let her know your needs but i'd caution you both to be honest. Maybe brining another person in to help is the answer, but I'd try working out your new dynamic first. Good luck and enjoy.

 

There's two different issues here. First the menopause question. It's undoubtedly difficult for your wife, and you need to talk that through.

second, the idea of her pushing you towards taking a boyfriend. If that's not what you want to do then you shouldn't do it. This must be consensual.

You need to talk it all through

 

It is a really hard time, Mistress takes HRT and it definitely helps but I am afraid she really isn't interested in playing much any more. I think she finds it too much pressure on her. I haven't been locked for almost 6 months, and I really crave the life style. I kind of feel ignored because we actually met on this basis and now everything has changed.

Menopause sucks for the woman as well as for the person in their life. I almost wish MY sex drive and want to play would go away.

I know she loves me tho, and I love her...but its still fucked. Mistress makes an effort to be intimate every few weeks, but its more because she feels like the has to make the effort than because she actually feels the want or need.

Guess that didn't help much did it other than to say me three.

Think yourself lucky she wants someone to bone you.

 

Have her speak with her gyn... HRT can work wonders. My wife uses a biodentical hormone patch and a pill to balance thing out and has libido of a 20 year old at times when not working at her job too much.
She feels great, looks great, works out. It helped her tremendously after she went through the change.

 

great advice,

 

A faulty study came out in 2001 (women’s health initiative) that scared most doctors and women away from HRT. The problem ended up being that the study didn’t differentiate between synthetic and bio identical estrogen and progesterone.

Once it was reviewed, the synthetics (Premarin, Provera and many others) ended up proving even worse and the bioidentical (estradiol) proved to be beneficial with far less chance of negative side effects. Estrodiol is the exact same chemical structure as is made in the human body rather than some “Franken-Hormone” made by a chemist. Another benefit of estrodiol is that it’s dirt cheap since the patent expired long ago.

Estrogen not only helps libido but maintains feminine body fat distribution, bone health, skin tone,mental health, cardio health, bone density, hair, etc.

 

Sadly an amazing former Domme had this happen to her.

She was very active with hosting parties, and having several subs and sissies. Once she hit menopause and changed jobs she’s quit everything. Her poor husband is devastated and there’s notching we can do for them.

IMHO it’s very sad.

 

We've been there. We're both 62, and menopause clearly played a role in our move to chastity and submission. 5 years ago, neither of us really even wanted sex anymore. (Male menopause is real also) We started searching for something to spice things up, because we still loved each other and wanted to find some kind of intimacy.

We stumbled upon chastity online, and gave it a try. Now, I've been locked 24/7 for about 4 years. I haven't had an orgasm or even a real erection in months, and I stimulate her to orgasm most nights with my mouth, hands, toys or all three. And we both love it. Basically, the pressure is off me to get hard, so that psychological burden is gone.

So don't give up! The symptoms of menopause eventually lighten up, and there are ways to overcome it. Good luck!

 

I've got nothing to offer than I hope your Mistress and you find a solution through your challenges together. I say together because a couple handles these together. You and her are never standing alone as long as that stays true.

If she gives 75% and you give 100%, add those together and 175% effort will be more than enough. It's a little saying me and my Miss say whenever we have a problem.

Just be there like you've always been. Sometimes that and time is all you need.

As a fellow sub I understand that sudden removal of our lifestyle is the worst thing imaginable. Most male subs, me included, would rather be punishment whipped for 500 strokes than have that happen, so we sympathize. But I imagine your Miss is the same way. She's lost the lifestyle too! But she'll be back! Sending virtual hugs. It WILL get better.

 

doctors have their own opinion on hormones regardless of your need. finding the right doctor may be the hardest part of menopause. do not give up. good doctors exist but they have few openings. before you make an appointment ask what the doctors opinion on hormones is.
good luck!

 

I would suspect a female doctor would be best for these types of life changes.

 

18 years ago my wife had breast cancer and the kemo changed her sex drivew completly her pewriods stoped and her sex drive went completly . im not shur if it brougfht on the menopause or she just skipped it all i know is shes not been interested in sex ever since . she did make an effort at first but that did not last long its been 18 years sice we had proper sex .and nothing at all for the last several

 

Unfortunately, without libido sex can seem very unappealing and for some even, gross. HRT carries risk but so does everything worth anything. I’d Look for a doctor that specializes in “anti-aging”. Most general practitioners and even endocrinologists don’t know near as much about HRT as you would think.

 

I gotta say @Jessica Alexander you are a wealth of knowledge the mansion is lucky to have you as you are always able to offer helpful information.

 

You'd be surprised. There is no single predictive factor regarding a doctor's feelings about hormone replacement therapy. BION-I am an actual physician (in addition to being known as "Dr M'Bogo" here) and I can confirm that physician opinion regarding hormone therapy is all over the board.

 

Unfortunately, it’s opinion based on ignorance and not facts and research. Also, the medical community values quantity over quality of life as well.

 

I was not referring to that therapy in general. I was thinking that a female might be more understanding of the challenges of menopause than men, all things being otherwise equal.

 

Jessica-you are correct, but in their defense physicians are forced, in a sense, to value quantity over quality because of liability. It's much easier to defend an action or decision based on an objective thing (like quantity) as opposed to a subjective thing like quality. Sad, perhaps, but real.

 

HRT does increase some kinds of cancer but has to be balanced against major benefits to cardiovascular system, bone and joint health, cognitive function, libido, body fat composition and distribution, energy, stamina, strength, recovery, etc.

The entrenched opinions of many laypeople and physicians are tainted by the faulty 2000 WHI. Unfortunately, corrections and retractions don’t garner publicity like “scary headlines”.

First thing to ask a doctor when talking about hormones is their view in general towards HRT. Then ask them about their opinions on Premarin (conjugated estrogens) and Depot Provera (a progestin). If they are ok with either you should blacklist them immediately because they are not qualified to prescribe HRT. Those are expensive and bad for you and you will miss most of the benefits of proper estrodiol (E2) and progesterone (P4).