mikecb's journey

Well I feel your financial pain. We too have been down that road. A CB6000 a Lori spiral which we ended up selling, a number 2 Lori which is hit and miss, then the birdlock, and ironically I am back in the device I started with all along the 6K. If I Had know this up front I too would have done the belt thing rgiht from the beginning!

 

Isn't that always the case.

Sigh.


js

 

I see these posts and I am now understanding why our friend is doing a key holding service. She seems to be doing quite well. I was joking with Goddess the other day and told her she could really have some fun spending money if she took this on. She said She can hardly handle it with me right now. LOL I told Her She was doing just fine. Even I can't explain my luck recently but I am not questioning it when things are going this great. I

 

xcite, your goddess spends a lot of time with you , but you live together. If she had a few remote 'players', you collect a few checks, a few keys, and send a few well placed text messages each day, whoa-la, you have a busniess. All are happy.

 

Hi mikecb have been reading your posts re wife not interested in chastity. I too had this problem after being married for more than 32 years i am now totally happy as my wife/mistress has adopted my choice of lifestyle as her submissive(slaveboy). The way i acheived this as like you said my wife was very vanilla and although she tolerated my wishes to be tied up occasionally she drew the line well short of other WEIRD stuff as she calls it. I had accumulated an assortment of bondage items leather cuffs, collar, hood, mask, steel hand and leg cuffs and also a couple of types of cb devices all of which she allowed me to use on myself but she would only tie me up with them or rather i did the tying and she then would have sex and that was it. Anyway i tried without success to get her to join in for years with my wishes but she was having none of it until i hatched a sneaky plan that thankfully worked a treat and i am now pocked semi permanently in my cb6000 for weeks at a time with numerous bondage challenges that i have to escape from or my chastity period is extended further, she wears all the sexy pvc costumes i have bought her and dishes out regular 50 paddle per offence punishments if i fail to carry out her rules that she had drawn up in a slave contract(pretty vanilla eh?) i cant stop her.:anim_39:

 

Sorry mikecb i had to go and pee as i was getting an erection just thinking about her. Anyway how i managed to change her mind was like this, I know that my wife loves a good laugh and she also hates me always being "MR PERFECT"! so i came home from work as normal and went up stairs and showered and then went into my box of toys as i used to do while she stayed downstairs watching tv. I put on my leather collar full body leather harness fitted the cb6000 on sorted out my leather hood and hand and ankle cuffs, with the cb locked in place i got a pair of pliers and then bent the key back and forth several times until i could see it was starting to cracked where the bend was and then put the pliers away out of sight, as i would normally do i then locked on the locking hood put the keys on the far dressing table and then lay on the bed applied the locking ankle cuffs around the bars at the bottom of the bed and to my ankles and then did the same with the handcuffs to the top bars on the headboard. That was it now i was totally stuck and could not move until she came up to bed when she would normally moan about me still being there but would undo me then go to bed, this time however when she came up about 3hours later and did the usual moaning bit she fetched the keys and undid one of the handcuffs and then said to carry on unlocking the rest of it while she got ready for bed. I then got the bent key and because i was still in the hood and couldnt see what i was doing or sit up yet i pretended to struggle and mumble about what had SHE done to the key as it would not go in the lock, she came storming back into the room saying she had had enough of all this as she had to get up early for work next day, grabbed the keys off me then jammed the key into the lock and twisted it............then it all went quiet for a while and i started trying to mumble WHATS GOING ON have you done it yet CLEVER CLOGS? it wa sthen that she started laughing she was hysterical and i couldnt get her to stop and the more i struggled to try to move and talk to her through the hood the louder she laughed. SERVES YOU RIGHT she said youve snapped the key off and now your stuck like that, i pretended to be angry and mad but she kept on laughing and saying that was what i always wanted so now i had got it. I told her as best i could to STOP FU"KING ABOUT! and undo the rest of me right now or i would go mad, and it was then it happened she grabbed my one freed hand and locked the open handcuff back on it tight. GO ON THEN TRY IT she said i twisted and mumbled insults to her and pretended to try to escape even though i knew i couldnt and even though i knew i didnt want to be freed but the more i struggled the more she seemed to be enjoying it and she then noticed how swollen my cock was bulging in the cb6000, whats the matter with this she said and started pulling and twisting it WONT IT COME OFF well get used to it cos its gonna be there for a long time now. i continued to struggle and moan and she said she was going to leave me there while she went and got her stuff ready for work etc etc and when i asked her to let me out as i really needed to go for a wee she started laughing all over again. She left the room and came back in 1 hour later and i was REALLY BUSTING FOR A WEE BY NOW please let me out now thats enough i said, YOURE in no position to give me orders she said and yes you can have a wee but you can wee into this empty milk carton she had brought upstairs with her. I am not doing that i said well you better as i am not undoing you till you do, more moaning ensued and after another hour of her poking and making wooshing noises like water running she poked my cb6000 into the neck of the carton and told me to JUST DO IT!. Its very hard to actually wee while in a laying down position( unless your drunk) but i just had to do it and she took great delight in holding the carton and calling out what a good boy i was as it was filling up, do you want anything else ?no i said. Now when i do let you up you know you know that you will not be able to take off the cage until you bring something home from work tomorrow to cut the lock off, now when you come home tomorrow night you will have a new lock and a hacksaw and i will cut it off and apply the new lock to which i will keep the keys to all the equipment and we shall be doing things a little differently around here from now on, NOD IF YOU AGREE and i will let you out when i come back upstairs. I nodded and true to her word when i came home from work next night with a new lock and the junior hacksaw she met me at the door in the pvc dress i had bought her but she had never worn placed the handcuffs on my wrists and led me to the kitchen where she had placed a typewritten piece of paper with MISTRESSES RULES written across it. there were ten rules for slaveboy to learn and when she read them out to me i had to sign the sheet at the bottom if i agreed to her terms. They were very strict but she had obviously thought hard about what she wanted to get out of it and i readily signed. She then cut the lock off(occassionally pretending to slip)and applied the new lock and said THERE THATS MINE FROM NOW ON. Basically thats how it all started and she is so fantastically dominant now and i owe it all to her sense of humour.

 

Wonderful story!
Mike, why don't you follow this example? Have you tried the humour-trick? That is what got my wife starting dominate me. Very dangerous, you never know where a good laugh will take you... :happy0167:

 

Good morning Mike. I have to agree with you while I do think the story by Allornowt is a good one that just seems like a huge area for a big backfire. Although I would have paid to see someone change almost instantly like that on a spur of the moment instance.

Sounds like your wife has some tendancies in there somewhere. I guess with a little time and patience perhaps something will come to light. I know she won't come on here most likely but please know my offer in my PM stands. Maybe if we coudl get more of our wive's talking we could actually have RL friends in this lifestyle. Of course we may well end up in some serious trouble too!

 

Now you have done it!

pt, pt, pt, please don't give her any ideas right now. LOL Well have a Goddess Melissa Manor or something like that. Because you know "I" will be the one assigned to manage these texts etc. LOL

 

i know just how you feel Mike. Sherry is the same way. She jumps in with both feet for about 4 to 6 months and then nothing. She was estatic when we started the black balled game but now that has come to an end also. The roller coaster sucks because when you top that first hill the whole thing jumps the track and crashes.


There is a song playing now on the radio by Neko Case called People Got A Lot of Nerve. The chours goes , You know I am a maneater and yet you are suprised when I eat ya. How we wish for that.

Randy

 

I can't agree with you Mike.

I think it's up to each couple to find their technique for communication. My wife really likes to be the dominant one. For some unknown reason she has very diffificult to say or express what she wants, especially when she is very horny. I don't know why, earlier bad experiences, fear of rejection? Who knows? If i "help" her over the threshold by making it fun, is that "topping from the bottom"?

Isn't sex supposed to be fun? Shouldn't we be happy when being dominated and be able to laugh at our actions?
A dead serious dominance session whatever it looks like is nothing for me.
We are laughing with each other, not at each other. Some other people maybe prefer to laugh at each other. We are all different.
In our case it all started as a joke. Thank God for humour! Dishonest??? :anim_22:

 

mikecb do you really feel that a little bit of help to overcome a hurdle is that bad especially if it ends up causing happiness for both parties. surely your wife is aware that you still have these desires and is she aware that you are feeling the need to discuss your feelings over the net. What i did was no more than what i had always been doing as surely you must do eg pretending to be locked up or chastised and using the knowledge that my wife would find it amusing if she got one over on me. from the very beginning we are taught to try things by your parents onwards as if you never tried you would never know what life has to offer. my wife is unaware that i planned the scenario to start with but she is now so pleased with her new man that a little bit of help from me helped her not only educate me but educated her into finding the dominant level in her that she did not know she had. I cannot take credit for what happened after she broke the key in the lock that was totally down to her and as a result she has grown into a more complete and secure person, getting a better career position and learning and passing her test to drive amongst other things. She makes the rules now in our lives and i no longer have to just sit back playing by myself and wishing IF ONLY!:anim_12:

 

mikecb there is a great deal of sense in what you say however from my position my wife always felt that my wishes for bondage and other things were putting pressure on her no matter how hard or how carefully i tried to explain that she was the person i wanted to share these feelings with. The fact was that she did not need to tie me up or need to chastise me and if i had not made the whole event into what was after all a comical escapade then it would never have happened and i would have always looked back and wondered what might have been?. The fact that my wife now takes a lead role in dominating me is as much in my head now as it was then but unlike where you have to think about some point in the future maybe she will relent and take a lead role in you wish for chastity my experiences have already started happening. You are not doing anything bad you are just directing a scene after all.

 

Hey gang I think a key point is trying to make, and please correct me if I am wrong, is that each of us have different dynamic in our reltionship. Did I somewht top from the bottom to get things started? Sure. I bought the Keyholders guide to male chastity and left it for her to read. I mentioned this site. I had another friend of mine use his wife to befriend my wife to talk to her about this. these are all things that even as they are may constitute topping from the bottom. but even then there are limits. My wife too has some insecurities somewhere. God only knows why. Most read my thread and would never gather that. However to intentionally mislead in her in hopes of having her dominate me would be catastrophic for me and not in a good way. If she so much as thought I did that she would resort to her old feelings of what she was trying to do was not good enough and that would be that. Don't ask me why but women are wired differently then men when it comes to sex. For you I am glad your little trick worked out for you. for me that would have resorted to shear panic on her part thinking the one time she tried something it went horribly wrong then to find out I minipluated the session, well it would not have been good. I can see yoru guys points but I can see Mike's as well as our wives seem similar in some regards. Anyway did not mean to highjack your thread Mike I just felt compeled to chime and in say I know what you mean. Some uf us have some very deliate ground to cover and some of that ground may still be unharvested so to speak.

 

mikecb one other point is that we the submissive males do tend to OVEREGG the discussions on bondage and chastity after all it is VERY important to us but not so much to our otherwise contented others, my wife felt that she had everything that she wanted in life and could not accept that i wasnt quite as contented. In trying to EXPLAIN my needs and inner feelings to her i sort of just went ON AND ON AND ON............... as she said and actually i was doing more harm than good. Really what swung it for me in the end was that she saw it for what it was just a bit of a laugh and no real harm, it didnt mean i needed more than she was able to give me and it meant her doing very little more for a BLOODY great deal in reward. p.s just as a side note to this i play tennis twice a week and as i am at the moment locked up in my cb6000 for 21 days i have been having to play whilst wearing it on court, anyway i went for what i thought was a fantastic low shot last night and upon hitting the ball felt one of my jewels pop out of the ring and being suddenly concious that my secret was about to drop onto the court in front of the opposition and my playing partner i tried to move over to the edge of the court but the ball came back to me and as i moved to knock it back the other jewel popped out and the device slipped out of the shorts inner net brief and hung there for a moment then hit the ground with a clunk! I was in total shock but managed to quickly pick it up and stuff it in my pocket but my fear was not that anyone had seen it but that my wife would not believe me that it was accidental. Needless to say the other players thought i had dropped my mobile phone on court( cant think what their phones look like) and i am now in the next but smallest ring with no spacer with an additional ten days added to lockup. look what your missing mikecb:spider:

 

WORSE IS IF ONE POPS OUT BUT THE OTHER WONT BUDGE try forcing one of those through the gap brings more than tears to your eyes!:scared0016:

 

Yes in deed been there done that!

 

mike and xcite

I did not have time to reply since the boss in my life had certain requests.....

I only said as a joke 3 years ago: "what if you consider my cock your property?" It was funny in the situation and discussion and my wife took the bait.... and as ALLORNOWT's wife she has grown with confidence since. No question who is making the rules.

In my first marriage i used this aproach with zero success:

I can't understand how you can use words like "mislead" and "trick"?
Different dynamics, yes, i understand that. But how can you be so sure???
And in the end, maybe it was i and ALLORNOWT that was tricked and mislead?
Who knows? Just my thoughts on the subject.

 

Mike you are a brave man indeed. I have always wondered about how I woudl handle that aspect of the gym if I actually joined. Right now I am kind of glad to have my Bowflex in my studio so I can use it privately. I know it is not the same but I just can't find the motivation to join a gym alone.

Just the other day I had to make a couple of adjustments and went into a public bathroom. Even in a stall there is somehting about sitting there fixing the fit of a device and hearing that door open that just makes me go "oh crap" LOL Congrats on the 1o day streak!